Life Married members: Did you seek permission/blessing? - Page 11

Jenson71 · 01-16-2013, 10:43 AM

Just wondering what the practice/custom is.

EagleRob · 01-16-2013, 08:26 PM

My wife told me for our entire courtship that it was very important to her father that I ask his permission. When the time came I took him to a Redskins / Giants game (he's a G-Man fan) and had a long chat with him about her and my relationship, my career an life aspirations and told him I wanted his daughter to be by my side for the rest of my life. I then asked for his blessing to ask her to marry me and he said, "What the **** do I care? It's your life and her decision." He then said, "This year I will be married 30 years. If I committed murder, I'd be out by now."

**Bwana** · 01-16-2013, 08:42 PM

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Ah, so you have some kind of wild, exotic lady love do ya

Heh no, she grew up in the states with her parents, but the parents split and both ended up moving to different counties. It's not all bad.

**Bwana** · 01-16-2013, 08:43 PM

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Originally Posted by JASONSAUTO

Thailand?
Russia?
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Mexico and Barbados.

Pablo · 01-16-2013, 08:53 PM

Recently engaged. And yes. I knew what the answer was going to be; but just wanted to give her old man a respectful nod.

Even if he would have said 'no' it wouldn't have changed a thing.

ClevelandBronco · 01-16-2013, 08:57 PM

Yes. I was required to ask permission. My wife is from a very traditional, patriarchal, Mexican family. I would not have asked otherwise.

Pablo · 01-16-2013, 09:16 PM

Really, if you future wife loves her father and you have some sort of respect for him; what does it hurt to make him feel like his opinion is important to you?

Saying, it's just old fashioned and I don't NEED validation isn't a worthy reason in my mind. He very well knows that his opinion isn't going to be the end-all on the matter; but I guarantee if you have to see that guy for the next couple of decades you'll probably wish you just threw him a bone. It's not every day some dude comes calling for the woman he raised for the last 20 years.

DJJasonp · 01-16-2013, 09:21 PM

Yes.....and after she said 'yes'.....and I told her I had a chat with her mother/father a few weeks back....

It was one of the first things she mentioned....as it "meant the world" to her that I did it.

It's a respect thing.

**Gadzooks** · 01-16-2013, 09:30 PM

My wife is from Poland and her parents are still in Poland and don't speak a lick of english so **** them. I just took her.
As John Elway would say:

I would have asked otherwise. It's the right thing to do...

Stanley Nickels · 01-16-2013, 09:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Pablo

Really, if you future wife loves her father and you have some sort of respect for him; what does it hurt to make him feel like his opinion is important to you?

Saying, it's just old fashioned and I don't NEED validation isn't a worthy reason in my mind. He very well knows that his opinion isn't going to be the end-all on the matter; but I guarantee if you have to see that guy for the next couple of decades you'll probably wish you just threw him a bone. It's not every day some dude comes calling for the woman he raised for the last 20 years.

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patteeu · 01-17-2013, 01:02 AM

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Originally Posted by EagleRob

My wife told me for our entire courtship that it was very important to her father that I ask his permission. When the time came I took him to a Redskins / Giants game (he's a G-Man fan) and had a long chat with him about her and my relationship, my career an life aspirations and told him I wanted his daughter to be by my side for the rest of my life. I then asked for his blessing to ask her to marry me and he said, "What the **** do I care? It's your life and her decision." He then said, "This year I will be married 30 years. If I committed murder, I'd be out by now."

Jiu Jitsu Jon · 01-17-2013, 01:11 AM

I was 33 and my wife was 35 when we got married. I'm not going to ask a grown woman's father permission to marry her.

**007** · 01-17-2013, 03:03 AM

Nope. But her dad wasn't really in the picture anyway.

Jiu Jitsu Jon · 01-17-2013, 03:07 AM

For those that asked, what would you have done if her father had said no? I would have said too bad, bitch.

silver5liter · 01-17-2013, 03:30 AM

Yes, wife's mom is her only parent so I drove to Topeka to ask her one morning. Her mom loves me though so it wasn't a big deal

wheeler08 · 01-17-2013, 06:17 AM

Only read half the thread....but what if u have both already been married and divorced to other people so this is both of yours 2nd marriage...since im not the first to ask, do I need to ask? My current sirustion.

View Poll Results: Did you seek father's permission/blessing?
Yes, it is a tradition I wanted to keep	42	27.10%
Yes, it is a tradition I knew spouse's family wanted to keep	19	12.26%
No	78	50.32%
I've never proposed	16	10.32%
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01-16-2013, 10:43 AM
Jenson71 fides quaerens intellectum Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: United States Casino cash: $8330900	Married members: Did you seek permission/blessing? Just wondering what the practice/custom is.
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01-16-2013, 08:26 PM	#151
EagleRob Living Vicariously Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: Leesburg, VA Casino cash: $10004900	My wife told me for our entire courtship that it was very important to her father that I ask his permission. When the time came I took him to a Redskins / Giants game (he's a G-Man fan) and had a long chat with him about her and my relationship, my career an life aspirations and told him I wanted his daughter to be by my side for the rest of my life. I then asked for his blessing to ask her to marry me and he said, "What the **** do I care? It's your life and her decision." He then said, "This year I will be married 30 years. If I committed murder, I'd be out by now." __________________ Enjoy the ride up!
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01-16-2013, 08:53 PM	#154
Pablo Ultrabanned Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: KCMO Casino cash: $2059356	Recently engaged. And yes. I knew what the answer was going to be; but just wanted to give her old man a respectful nod. Even if he would have said 'no' it wouldn't have changed a thing.
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01-16-2013, 08:57 PM	#155
ClevelandBronco I'm with the banned. Join Date: Sep 2006 Casino cash: $5658955	Yes. I was required to ask permission. My wife is from a very traditional, patriarchal, Mexican family. I would not have asked otherwise. __________________ "Faith and reason are like two wings on which the human spirit rises to the contemplation of truth ..." – Pope Saint John Paul II
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01-16-2013, 09:16 PM	#156
Pablo Ultrabanned Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: KCMO Casino cash: $2059356	Really, if you future wife loves her father and you have some sort of respect for him; what does it hurt to make him feel like his opinion is important to you? Saying, it's just old fashioned and I don't NEED validation isn't a worthy reason in my mind. He very well knows that his opinion isn't going to be the end-all on the matter; but I guarantee if you have to see that guy for the next couple of decades you'll probably wish you just threw him a bone. It's not every day some dude comes calling for the woman he raised for the last 20 years.
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01-16-2013, 09:21 PM	#157
DJJasonp My work speaks for itself!!! Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: So Cal Casino cash: $2015200	Yes.....and after she said 'yes'.....and I told her I had a chat with her mother/father a few weeks back.... It was one of the first things she mentioned....as it "meant the world" to her that I did it. It's a respect thing. __________________ Its easier to fool a man, than to convince a man he's been fooled.
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01-16-2013, 09:30 PM	#158
Gadzooks MFIC Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Tromsø, Norway Casino cash: $3869219	My wife is from Poland and her parents are still in Poland and don't speak a lick of english so **** them. I just took her. As John Elway would say: I would have asked otherwise. It's the right thing to do... Last edited by Gadzooks; 01-16-2013 at 09:45 PM..
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01-17-2013, 01:11 AM	#161
Jiu Jitsu Jon Level 40 Wizard Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: Misery Casino cash: $10013080	I was 33 and my wife was 35 when we got married. I'm not going to ask a grown woman's father permission to marry her. __________________ John Madden's three rules: 1. Be on time. 2. Pay attention. 3. Play like hell when I tell you to.
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01-17-2013, 03:03 AM	#162
007 Shaken. Not stirred. Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: London Casino cash: $14060126 VARSITY	Nope. But her dad wasn't really in the picture anyway. __________________ My dear girl, there are some things that just aren’t done. Such as, drinking Dom Perignon ’53 above the temperature of 38 degrees Fahrenheit. That’s just as bad as listening to the Beatles without earmuffs.
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01-17-2013, 03:07 AM	#163
Jiu Jitsu Jon Level 40 Wizard Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: Misery Casino cash: $10013080	For those that asked, what would you have done if her father had said no? I would have said too bad, bitch. __________________ John Madden's three rules: 1. Be on time. 2. Pay attention. 3. Play like hell when I tell you to.
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01-17-2013, 03:30 AM	#164
silver5liter ROCK CHALK JAYHAWK Join Date: Jul 2012 Casino cash: $10005135	Yes, wife's mom is her only parent so I drove to Topeka to ask her one morning. Her mom loves me though so it wasn't a big deal
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01-17-2013, 06:17 AM	#165
wheeler08 Veteran Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Indiana Casino cash: $4581183	Only read half the thread....but what if u have both already been married and divorced to other people so this is both of yours 2nd marriage...since im not the first to ask, do I need to ask? My current sirustion.
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