New Dating Megathread

[Buck]

Luv's old thread is in the HOC for being too big.

Post all your dating questions, comments, concerns, advice, and scrutiny in here!

[DaKCMan AP]

Originally Posted by Canofbier

Speaking of age gaps, why is it that so many women refuse to date men who are younger than they are? I don't tend to connect with many women my own age for basically the same reasons that ghak brought up (delusional, unrealistic, etc); I'm 24, and tend to be more attracted to women in their mid-to-upper twenties.

Despite the fact that I have a stable, upwardly-mobile, relatively high-paying job and practically never "party", I'm consistently "too young" for those women? Keep in mind, they're often the ones who have been dating men in their 30's from when they were my age. It seems a bit hypocritical, but I don't feel like it's worth it to push the issue. Preferences are preferences, even if they go against my wishes.

Meh. My last 2 relationships were with girls 3 years older than me. I've also been in a relationship with a girl 5 years older. Currently, I'm dating a girl 6 months younger.

Originally Posted by Big Smoke

Random question.

Ever cheated on someone you were dating? Ever been cheated on?

No. Not that I'm aware of.

[BigMeatballDave]

Originally Posted by Cephalic Trauma

Dave Lane endorses Christianmingle. He picks up dates and subsequently ruins their lives all the time.

[keg in kc]

Originally Posted by Big Smoke

Random question.

Ever cheated on someone you were dating? Ever been cheated on?

I would have said "no" to the former, but I'm not sure that's true. I think I did develop a kernel of a relationship with someone while I was dating my former ex-wife (then my fiance). Was it cheating? Not in a physical sense. But emotionally? I don't know. Maybe it was.

And, yes. I've definitely been cheated on. Lots.

[Brock]

Some women, a lot probably, don't want to date somebody who makes them look old.

[keg in kc]

Originally Posted by Valiant

She has sound advice keg, most people do not see internal flaws or even most external flaws unless you tell them. And working out does not have to cost money. You can run, jog in the park, it also reduces stress after awhile.

You just have to take baby steps and stay motivated.

I think you guys have taken what I said in a direction I didn't intend it to go. I'm not dissatisfied with my life. I don't hate myself in any way. I'm overweight, but it's because I like to eat everything they tell you you shouldn't. I also like to cycle, to the tune of about 2500 miles a year, so the damage from the food isn't too bad, particularly during the summer. But washboard abs I will never have. And that's fine. I'd rather have pizza and french fries. The downside of which is accepting the fact that something I enjoy is what makes me unattractive to what I consider attractive members of the opposite sex. Similar thing with the way I spend my days. I'd rather spend my time doing the things I enjoy, rather than doing relationship-y things. I'm not an outgoing person. I'm an introvert. I like video games and books and movies, and I like doing them alone. I cycle alone. I walk alone. I can't really think of anything I like doing with anybody else. That's just how I'm wired. It's not exactly conducive to dating. I'm not an easy person to live with.

Tie that in with the reality that life is a series of choices. The choices I've made before now define who I am and where I am. I'm good with that. I've come to acknowledge that there are certain things in my life that aren't subject to change. My finances are what they are. My looks are what they are. I am who I am.

And now I'm old. Which is the worst thing of all. Because if I was interested in dating, it sure as hell wouldn't be with anyone my own age. Ugh. Wrinkles and baggage. No thanks.

[Discuss Thrower]

Originally Posted by keg in kc

I think you guys have taken what I said in a direction I didn't intend it to go. I'm not dissatisfied with my life. I don't hate myself in any way. I'm overweight, but it's because I like to eat everything they tell you you shouldn't. I also like to cycle, to the tune of about 2500 miles a year, so the damage from the food isn't too bad, particularly during the summer. But washboard abs I will never have. And that's fine. I'd rather have pizza and french fries. The downside of which is accepting the fact that something I enjoy is what makes me unattractive to what I consider attractive members of the opposite sex. Similar thing with the way I spend my days. I'd rather spend my time doing the things I enjoy, rather than doing relationship-y things. I'm not an outgoing person. I'm an introvert. I like video games and books and movies, and I like doing them alone. I cycle alone. I walk alone. I can't really think of anything I like doing with anybody else. That's just how I'm wired. It's not exactly conducive to dating. I'm not an easy person to live with.

Tie that in with the reality that life is a series of choices. The choices I've made before now define who I am and where I am. I'm good with that. I've come to acknowledge that there are certain things in my life that aren't subject to change. My finances are what they are. My looks are what they are. I am who I am.

And now I'm old. Which is the worst thing of all. Because if I was interested in dating, it sure as hell wouldn't be with anyone my own age. Ugh. Wrinkles and baggage. No thanks.

That's exactly how I forsee my next 20 years. It's taking some getting used to.

[tk13]

Originally Posted by Discuss Thrower

That's exactly how I forsee my next 20 years. It's taking some getting used to.

I don't know, you and keg sound perfect for each other.

[Discuss Thrower]

Originally Posted by tk13

I don't know, you and keg sound perfect for each other.

Aside from the whole fact we're both dudes.. yeah.

[keg in kc]

Originally Posted by tk13

I don't know, you and keg sound perfect for each other.

I'm gonna give that one a "no".

[tk13]

Originally Posted by Discuss Thrower

Aside from the whole fact we're both dudes.. yeah.

They have medical procedures now that can fix that problem.

[Canofbier]

Originally Posted by Brock

Some women, a lot probably, don't want to date somebody who makes them look old.

No worries there - people have always thought I look older than I am (great until I turned 21), and I'm even starting to bald! Maybe I'll have better luck if I start coloring some of it grey, too?

[Valiant]

Originally Posted by tk13

They have medical procedures now that can fix that problem.

Imagine losing that roshambo contest.

[keg in kc]

Originally Posted by Valiant

Imagine losing that roshambo contest.

As the one with scissors.

[Katipan]

You liked the idea of doing stuff with someone when you married that wretched woman. There is easily a compatible chick for you its just easier to keep going on without one. Just sometimes babe, the soul needs someone else to get up and get the towel. Just so it doesn't get crusty.

[Simply Red]

Originally Posted by Katipan

You liked the idea of doing stuff with someone when you married that wretched woman. There is easily a compatible chick for you its just easier to keep going on without one. Just sometimes babe, the soul needs someone else to get up and get the towel. Just so it doesn't get crusty.

The smell of your hair lingers on my skin.