I ****ing hate cigarettes

[MTG#10]

My mom calls me about a week ago and pretty much goes off on me because she hasn't seen my kids since March. I tried to explain to her like I have a hundred times before that we dont come around much because I can't stand her cigarette smoke infested house. She acts like Im crazy and honestly believes its not that harmful. She lives in a small two bedroom house, refuses to open the windows, and the smoke is so thick you can see clouds of it all over the house. If I ask her to air it out before we come and not smoke while we're there she pulls the old "when you pay my rent I'll stop smoking" card.

As a kid growing up I had a lot of health problems that pretty much ended about a year after I moved out on my own. I remember being embarrassed at church because my clothes smelled like I had just walked out of a bar all the time. My friends used to give me shit about it too and nobody ever wanted to come over because of it...that's how bad it was/is.

So feeling bad I took the kids today and stayed for an hour (couldn't handle anymore). Now I have the worst migraine Ive ever had and I can still taste the shit in the back of my throat. I love my mom to death, and my kids love their grandma but I don't know what else to do. How do you convince a 72 year old woman set in her ways and that's been smoking since she was a teenager the shit is toxic to us? I dont want to miss out on her last years, and I dont want her to miss her grand kids growing up but I also cant handle her disgusting habit.

[Lex Luthor]

Originally Posted by Rausch

That's her choice.

Tell her you're happy to go out for dinner or she can come to your house but until she quits smoking around the g-kids they aren't coming over.

"If smoking is more important than your grandkids that's fine but don't act like it's our choice. It's yours..."

This.

[MTG#10]

Originally Posted by listopencil

Purchase gas masks from the local Army surplus store. Wear them to visit, explaining exactly why you have to do it.

Love it. I actually think Im going to do this.

[In58men]

I use to go through the exact same shit with my mom. It was literally a cloud when I walked in, ****ing horrible. Smoke just absorbs through everything. I bet when she had her air conditioner on, it was just cold smoke coming out. After all the talks we had, she finally smokes outside. I'll show up whenever and every time she's smoking it's outside. Her house is much better after extensive cleaning.

[Beef Supreme]

At 5 or 6 bucks a pack, you should be paying her for all that second hand smoke.

[Rausch]

Originally Posted by BigChiefTablet

At 5 or 6 bucks a pack, you should be paying her for all that second hand smoke.

Or insure her and wait...

[Fairplay]

I knew this lady that was trying to quit smoking she would use the patch but still smoke her two packs a day. She would increase her nicotine use instead of decrease.
This other lady in my office keeps saying she needs to quit I tell her to slowly cut back on her 2 pack a day habit she looks at me like I'm nuts.

[R8RFAN]

I would be all over those E cigs if I was a smoker

[mdchiefsfan]

Originally Posted by R8ers

I would be all over those E cigs if I was a smoker

The market is a really tough one to figure out. There isn't a ton of info out there, the price to start can be steep, there is quite a bit of experimentation involved, and without regulation on the product it is a hit and miss depending on what you buy, especially with the amount of knock-off brands out there.

I can understand hesitancy when looking into them. If you really want to succeed at quitting you have put in a decent amount of research and ask a ton of questions.

If there is anyone that is thinking about doing this route, hit me up. I will answer anything that I can.