New Dating Megathread

[Buck]

Luv's old thread is in the HOC for being too big.

Post all your dating questions, comments, concerns, advice, and scrutiny in here!

[The Franchise]

Originally Posted by keg in kc

Don't overthink it. If you feel it, say it. If you don't, don't. And if you're not sure, don't stress about it. It's not like flipping a switch. You'll figure it out.

Most important thing in the end is that you're honest. Don't say it because you think she wants you to, don't say it as a polite response, say it because it's what you feel. Or don't, if it's not.

This. But don't look at saying "I Love You" as being stuck or getting married. People act like if you say it....that it means that you're going to be with them for the rest of your life and you're hooked. You can love more than one person.

[bevischief]

Originally Posted by KC Tattoo

There is nothing in this town for me. Other than uglies and I don't want ugly. It may come to that I don't know?

That's why you move to a college town.

[Lumpy]

Originally Posted by Bo's Pelini

Why?

I should probably rephrase my answer. I don’t believe that ALL nice guys finish last, but sadly, some do. It depends on the situation, though.

For example:
Let’s say that you’re an average looking guy and you really like a chick that you consider to be “out of your league”, (btw, I hate that phrase, but I‘ll use it here for descriptive purposes). You’re always nice to her and she considers you to be a good friend. Sadly, you notice that she seems to only be interested in dating egotistical douchebags that treat her like shit. So, you choose not to pursue because you feel that you‘re not her type and you fear that you’ll be rejected. “Nice guy” finishes last in that scenario.

What “nice guy” doesn’t realize is that most, (but not all), women eventually get tired of “not-so-nice guy” and wish to find a “nice guy”. However, the problem with most “nice guys” is that they lack confidence, thus they’re not assertive enough to approach “out of their league“ chick.

It’s all about men having confidence, timing, and if the chemistry is right with the chick.

[Discuss Thrower]

Originally Posted by Lumpy

I should probably rephrase my answer. I don’t believe that ALL nice guys finish last, but sadly, some do. It depends on the situation, though.

For example:
Let’s say that you’re an average looking guy and you really like a chick that you consider to be “out of your league”, (btw, I hate that phrase, but I‘ll use it here for descriptive purposes). You’re always nice to her and she considers you to be a good friend. Sadly, you notice that she seems to only be interested in dating egotistical douchebags that treat her like shit. So, you choose not to pursue because you feel that you‘re not her type and you fear that you’ll be rejected. “Nice guy” finishes last in that scenario.

What “nice guy” doesn’t realize is that most, (but not all), women eventually get tired of “not-so-nice guy” and wish to find a “nice guy”. However, the problem with most “nice guys” is that they lack confidence, thus they’re not assertive enough to approach “out of their league“ chick.

It’s all about men having confidence, timing, and if the chemistry is right with the chick.

And they're boring. And they get clingy.

[Bearcat]

Originally Posted by Lumpy

I should probably rephrase my answer. I don’t believe that ALL nice guys finish last, but sadly, some do. It depends on the situation, though.

For example:
Let’s say that you’re an average looking guy and you really like a chick that you consider to be “out of your league”, (btw, I hate that phrase, but I‘ll use it here for descriptive purposes). You’re always nice to her and she considers you to be a good friend. Sadly, you notice that she seems to only be interested in dating egotistical douchebags that treat her like shit. So, you choose not to pursue because you feel that you‘re not her type and you fear that you’ll be rejected. “Nice guy” finishes last in that scenario.

What “nice guy” doesn’t realize is that most, (but not all), women eventually get tired of “not-so-nice guy” and wish to find a “nice guy”. However, the problem with most “nice guys” is that they lack confidence, thus they’re not assertive enough to approach “out of their league“ chick.

It’s all about men having confidence, timing, and if the chemistry is right with the chick.

I later learned the 'nice guy' problem I had in high school was more about being a pushover and a lack of confidence. Growing up in a really passive aggressive family where no one could ever make a decision on their own kind of set me back.

And after putting so much effort into not becoming my parents in that regard, I find it to be a really annoying quality when someone can't provide input or a real opinion, and will always default to "I don't care" or "what do you want to do?" ...and sometimes I still think, damn, I really was annoying back then, huh?

[Cephalic Trauma]

Uh, I'm here for the gang-bang.

[Titty Meat]

Originally Posted by Lumpy

I should probably rephrase my answer. I don’t believe that ALL nice guys finish last, but sadly, some do. It depends on the situation, though.

For example:
Let’s say that you’re an average looking guy and you really like a chick that you consider to be “out of your league”, (btw, I hate that phrase, but I‘ll use it here for descriptive purposes). You’re always nice to her and she considers you to be a good friend. Sadly, you notice that she seems to only be interested in dating egotistical douchebags that treat her like shit. So, you choose not to pursue because you feel that you‘re not her type and you fear that you’ll be rejected. “Nice guy” finishes last in that scenario.

What “nice guy” doesn’t realize is that most, (but not all), women eventually get tired of “not-so-nice guy” and wish to find a “nice guy”. However, the problem with most “nice guys” is that they lack confidence, thus they’re not assertive enough to approach “out of their league“ chick.

It’s all about men having confidence, timing, and if the chemistry is right with the chick.

Interesting. I used to be that guy but one thing I've learned with some of you gals is you love mind games.

[Cephalic Trauma]

Originally Posted by Bo's Pelini

Interesting. I used to be that guy but one thing I've learned with some of you gals is you love mind games.

They also love non-gingers. Have you tried that?

[keg in kc]

It is about confidence. People tend to see you how you see yourself. So if you think somebody is out of your league, odds are they'll end up thinking that too. The trick is carrying yourself how you want people to see you. Because nobody is going to rescue you, nobody is going to "see you for how special you really are", nobody is going to look past your nice but homely exterior to find the gem inside. It doesn't work that way. And it's not their fault. It's how you carry yourself.

Ironically I know this but I can't actually do it myself. But I have gotten past the point of blaming anybody else for the way I see me.

[Titty Meat]

Originally Posted by Cephalic Trauma

They also love non-gingers. Have you tried that?

Gingers > failed med students


I eat more pussy than a Boston terrier

[ghak99]

Originally Posted by Lumpy

What “nice guy” doesn’t realize is that most, (but not all), women eventually get tired of “not-so-nice guy” and wish to find a “nice guy”. However, the problem with most “nice guys” is that they lack confidence, thus they’re not assertive enough to approach “out of their league“ chick.

There is another problem in this scenario...

By this time she has a divorce under her belt, a kid or three, isn't getting enough child support from said douche bag, or bags, and stress has taken a toll on her looks. By the time she comes knocking on "nice guy's" door, he's ****ed, and not in a good way.

[Cephalic Trauma]

Originally Posted by Bo's Pelini

Gingers > failed med students


I eat more pussy than a Boston terrier

"Hey, can I eat your box? I want nothing in return".

Btw, if I happened to fail and throw everything away, I still wouldn't be as low as a box-eating ginger.

[Bob Dole]

Who else in here is a psycho magnet?

[Titty Meat]

Originally Posted by Cephalic Trauma

"Hey, can I eat your box? I want nothing in return".

Btw, if I happened to fail and throw everything away, I still wouldn't be as low as a box-eating ginger.

If you try as hard with women as you do on here to be funny it explains why you're single.

[Cephalic Trauma]

Originally Posted by Bo's Pelini

If you try as hard with women as you do on here to be funny it explains why you're single.

I wasn't trying to be funny and I'm engaged.

Keep trying.