Life Sex Change... - Page 3

Stewie · 05-31-2014, 11:44 AM

For the third time in my career we were informed on Friday that a stellar male engineer has decided to live his life as a woman. I've worked with him on several projects and I didn't see this coming. He has a BS and MS from MIT. Smart guy, now girl.

My company (9000+ employees) handled this really well. The issue went to the top of corporate HR and when all was said and done everything went smoothly. It was "site specific" and we were asked to attend a meeting. Managers explained that the newly-named "Ally" was starting treatments to become a woman.

I'm old, it's 2014, and Ally is a smart girl. Good for her!

Stewie · 05-31-2014, 01:03 PM

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Originally Posted by bevischief

Too late we know now.

Whew!!! Too many people know too much!

Chief_For_Life58 · 05-31-2014, 01:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Armadillo Skin

Which bathroom does it use during this transformation?

lol

it goes out on the lawn

Stewie · 05-31-2014, 01:05 PM

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Originally Posted by bevischief

Not judging by no means but... I don't care if they are pink, purple or blue.

Women don't like any kind of "foreign" people in the bathroom.

Mr. Laz · 05-31-2014, 01:06 PM

It takes some serious dedication to pay someone to cut off your wiener.

Hope they find happiness.

**bevischief** · 05-31-2014, 01:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Stewie

Whew!!! Too many people know too much!

All you can do is smile.

teedubya · 05-31-2014, 01:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Fire Me Boy!

It says WITH pics...

Titty Meat · 05-31-2014, 01:12 PM

You should let Ally blow you on break

cosmo20002 · 05-31-2014, 01:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Stewie

For the third time in my career we were informed on Friday that a stellar male engineer has decided to live his life as a woman. I've worked with him on several projects and I didn't see this coming. He has a BS and MS from MIT. Smart guy, now girl.

I'm not aware that actual surgery was involved, but I'm pretty sure that Baby Lee has made this choice as well.

Halfcan · 05-31-2014, 01:36 PM

So if you sleep with a girl that used to be a guy, but always was a girl inside and now is a girl on the outside, even though their DNA is a guy-does that make you gay? What if you didn't know until after the fact?

Confusing.

**Fire Me Boy!** · 05-31-2014, 01:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Halfcan

So if you sleep with a girl that used to be a guy, but always was a girl inside and now is a girl on the outside, even though their DNA is a guy-does that make you gay? What if you didn't know until after the fact?

Confusing.

I'd say no. IMO, sexuality is not defined by what you do, but who your attracted to. If you're attracted to women, you're hetero, plain and simple.

**TrebMaxx** · 05-31-2014, 01:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Armadillo Skin

Which bathroom does it use during this transformation?

The company I used to work for had a similar situation around 15-20 years ago. Once Jeff switched to Jessica and started using the ladies bathroom all hell broke out with the other ladies in the office. I mean almost to the cruel level. They demanded meetings with the President and the CEO, threatened to walk out if they didn't prevent Jessica from using the ladies room. Jessica left shortly after she came out, I don't know if it was on her own accord or was asked. I actually felt a little sorry for her.

Halfcan · 05-31-2014, 01:53 PM

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Originally Posted by TrebMaxx

The company I used to work for had a similar situation around 15-20 years ago. Once Jeff switched to Jessica and started using the ladies bathroom all hell broke out with the other ladies in the office. I mean almost to the cruel level. They demanded meetings with the President and the CEO, threatened to walk out if they didn't prevent Jessica from using the ladies room. Jessica left shortly after she came out, I don't know if it was on her own accord or was asked. I actually felt a little sorry for her.

Jessica should have put the seat down when he/she was done.

Stewie · 05-31-2014, 01:55 PM

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Originally Posted by cosmo20002

I'm not aware that actual surgery was involved, but I'm pretty sure that Baby Lee has made this choice as well.

WHAT??? I don't think this is true.

blaise · 05-31-2014, 02:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Stewie

WHAT??? I don't think this is true.

cosmo's just bringing DC over to the lounge.

Aries Walker · 05-31-2014, 02:57 PM

Welcome to 2014, guys.

I know, it takes some getting used to, but it happens, and it will happen more and more as time goes on. I now have four friends who are transgendered, whether in identification or physically: three male-to-female, and one female who now identifies male.

It's never not a surprise when you hear the news. Once they make the decision (which is a huge decision, opening themselves up to all sorts of discrimination and scorn), you should call them by the gender term they want ('she', in Ally's case), and yes, they use the bathroom they want. It's tough to get used to, but it gets easier once you get used to it.

And no, giving them a hug won't make you gay. No, they're not aliens or untouchables, and this is already going to be a lot harder on them than it is on you, so they don't need your shit. In my experience, the best thing you can do is to treat them just the same as you always did; since in Stewie's case, that's a work relationship, it shouldn't be any trouble at all. It's unsettling and kind of weird at first, but the only time it should be really long-term tough is if you're one of those people who sees people solely in terms of sex, in which case the problem is you.

My big concern would be if a teenager were to do it, as a phase, because even without the surgery, it would be practically impossible to undo if they later grow out of it. So far, everyone I know who has done it has been late-20's or older, so there's that.

Oh, also, I've noticed that transgendered people often tend to choose new-sounding, exotic, and vaguely Celtic sounding names like Caelyn and Aisling as their new monikers, and they're always a big pain in the ass to spell. Such is life.

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05-31-2014, 02:57 PM	#45
Aries Walker Back again, again. Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: York, PA Casino cash: $9583357	Welcome to 2014, guys. I know, it takes some getting used to, but it happens, and it will happen more and more as time goes on. I now have four friends who are transgendered, whether in identification or physically: three male-to-female, and one female who now identifies male. It's never not a surprise when you hear the news. Once they make the decision (which is a huge decision, opening themselves up to all sorts of discrimination and scorn), you should call them by the gender term they want ('she', in Ally's case), and yes, they use the bathroom they want. It's tough to get used to, but it gets easier once you get used to it. And no, giving them a hug won't make you gay. No, they're not aliens or untouchables, and this is already going to be a lot harder on them than it is on you, so they don't need your shit. In my experience, the best thing you can do is to treat them just the same as you always did; since in Stewie's case, that's a work relationship, it shouldn't be any trouble at all. It's unsettling and kind of weird at first, but the only time it should be really long-term tough is if you're one of those people who sees people solely in terms of sex, in which case the problem is you. My big concern would be if a teenager were to do it, as a phase, because even without the surgery, it would be practically impossible to undo if they later grow out of it. So far, everyone I know who has done it has been late-20's or older, so there's that. Oh, also, I've noticed that transgendered people often tend to choose new-sounding, exotic, and vaguely Celtic sounding names like Caelyn and Aisling as their new monikers, and they're always a big pain in the ass to spell. Such is life.
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