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MTG#10 · 08-01-2013, 03:42 PM

Ok here's what's going on:

My ex and I have been divorced for a 2-3 years. We agreed to 50/50 everything with our kids...time with them, decision making, etc. My address is their legal address for mailing and educational purposes. Neither one of us pay child support, and even though the time with them is supposed to be 50/50 its more like 60/40 with me and Ive been keeping a detailed log for the last year.

Ex meets another guy, he joins the army a year later, they get married about 3 months after he joins. He now finds out he's being relocated to a base in Georgia. Ex thinks she is going to move with him and take our kids with her.

Everything the kids need or have ever known are here. Their school they've gone to since they started, me, their entire family on both sides...everything.

Is there anything for me to worry about? I know judges want to do whats best for the kids, so surely no judge would let her uproot and move them to another state without my consent, right? The only thing Im worried about is the military thing, that maybe they'd get special treatment for that...but at the same time, he decided to join after they were together and they both knew her situation with my kids. My lawyer doesn't think I have anything to worry about, but of course he's going to tell me that since he wants my $.

MTG#10 · 08-01-2013, 04:04 PM

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Originally Posted by vailpass

Depends on what's in his decree, and what his attorney can do.

The current decree is pretty much 50/50 all the way, only exception is my home is their legal address. But she thinks even though she agreed to all that that she can go back on it and take them with her.

Brock · 08-01-2013, 04:06 PM

Listen to your attorney.

AdumbGuy · 08-01-2013, 04:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Hog Farmer

I do a little lawyerin after work at the pig farm. Sometimes. perty good with these type matters too. Actually i'm 3 and 3 with 1 tie. Anyway. I'd have to ask you a few questions to see if yer werth takin on.
#1) Have you beeen havin sex with her ?
#2) If the answer to #1 is yes then did you PIHB ?
#3) Did you by any chance take yer kids to that new movie "the conjuring"
#4) Do you feel that killing Osama Been Ladin was the right thing to do.
#5) What is your annual income , before taxes.

I know these questions seem a little wierd but this is the way a scan my clients to see if there worth takin on.

I answered yes to all of those questions, but don't actually have a case or need a lawyerin. Can you help me?

**J Diddy** · 08-01-2013, 04:10 PM

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Originally Posted by AdumbGuy

I answered yes to all of those questions, but don't actually have a case or need a lawyerin. Can you help me?

I certainly wouldn't take advice from this guy here.

MTG#10 · 08-01-2013, 04:12 PM

#1) Have you beeen havin sex with her ? No
#2) If the answer to #1 is yes then did you PIHB ? N/A
#3) Did you by any chance take yer kids to that new movie "the conjuring" No
#4) Do you feel that killing Osama Been Ladin was the right thing to do. Definitely
#5) What is your annual income , before taxes. Around 40k (I live in Springfield, MO...pretty decent around here)

Hog's Gone Fishin · 08-01-2013, 04:13 PM

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Originally Posted by AdumbGuy

I answered yes to all of those questions, but don't actually have a case or need a lawyerin. Can you help me?

Well, actually if you answered yes to quesation #5 I don't think I can help you because it means your stuped. Sorry.

Mojo Jojo · 08-01-2013, 04:13 PM

She can challenge custody issues anytime she wants...doesn't mean she will ever win. I think you should have a good case, but with judges who knows. Your 13 year old should be able to speak with the judge regarding her wishes not sure about the others. Your lawyer should have a good idea how this judge works child input. Good luck to to you.

**J Diddy** · 08-01-2013, 04:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Hog Farmer

Well, actually if you answered yes to quesation #5 I don't think I can help you because it means your stuped. Sorry.

His name is Adumbguy, you expected less?

(don't know if he's really dumb, but heh)

eDave · 08-01-2013, 04:16 PM

I had this situation with my ex. She met a dude, wanted to divorce and take our child to Dodge City, KS to be with him. You are right, Judges do not look kindly on this and won't with your ex. Especially with 50/50 custody. Document the additional 10%. I had to go through home visitations and all that. I won that battle and **** her. I believe at a certain age, the kids have input. Mine was just 2 at the time so...

Don't worry but prove your case.

Hog's Gone Fishin · 08-01-2013, 04:17 PM

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Originally Posted by MTG#10

#1) Have you beeen havin sex with her ? No
#2) If the answer to #1 is yes then did you PIHB ? N/A
#3) Did you by any chance take yer kids to that new movie "the conjuring" No
#4) Do you feel that killing Osama Been Ladin was the right thing to do. Definitely
#5) What is your annual income , before taxes. Around 40k (I live in Springfield, MO...pretty decent around here)

I regret to say that I don't think I can help you. If you were a good father you wood have taken your'e kids to see the conjouring.

MTG#10 · 08-01-2013, 04:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Mojo Jojo

She can challenge custody issues anytime she wants...doesn't mean she will ever win. I think you should have a good case, but with judges who knows. Your 13 year old should be able to speak with the judge regarding her wishes not sure about the others. Your lawyer should have a good idea how this judge works child input. Good luck to to you.

No judge has been assigned yet, she hasnt filed for the custody change...supposedly he's being relocated around thanksgiving. I do know she has to give a 60 day notice and I doubt she's aware since she's dumber than a box of rocks. But even if she does wait too long she'll just have to move after him if she wins so I guess that's insignificant.

Tombstone RJ · 08-01-2013, 04:20 PM

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Originally Posted by MTG#10

8, 10, and almost 13. My 13 year old (daughter) has already told her if she wins she's not going with her. I don't know if she's old enough to have a say but I dont think her mom would make her go against her will.

I think the kid has to be 16 to have any say? Anyhow, it ALL depends on the judge. This is why you avoid litigation at all costs. Judges can be completely ****ed in the head.

MTG#10 · 08-01-2013, 04:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Tombstone RJ

I think the kid has to be 16 to have any say? Anyhow, it ALL depends on the judge. This is why you avoid litigation at all costs. Judges can be completely ****ed in the head.

There's no way to avoid it. He has no choice but to go where the army tells him, and they're newlyweds so she obviously wants to go with him and refuses to leave our kids behind without a fight. She did admit however that if she loses she won't go and I saved that text so if the judge truly wants what is best for the kids ruling in my favor would keep them at home with both of their parents.

Brock · 08-01-2013, 04:25 PM

Now, I have heard of women taking the kids with them regardless of judgement. And they won't go chasing after her, nor would the other state.

MTG#10 · 08-01-2013, 04:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Brock

Now, I have heard of women taking the kids with them regardless of judgement. And they won't go chasing after her, nor would the other state.

Really? My lawyer said that I should hope she does that...because then she would lose all decision making rights and I would get full custody. She's dumb but I don't think she's that dumb unfortunately.

08-01-2013, 03:42 PM
MTG#10 Mammoth penis Join Date: May 2006 Location: Springfield Casino cash: $7544386	Any lawyers here? Need advice on complicated custody dispute Ok here's what's going on: My ex and I have been divorced for a 2-3 years. We agreed to 50/50 everything with our kids...time with them, decision making, etc. My address is their legal address for mailing and educational purposes. Neither one of us pay child support, and even though the time with them is supposed to be 50/50 its more like 60/40 with me and Ive been keeping a detailed log for the last year. Ex meets another guy, he joins the army a year later, they get married about 3 months after he joins. He now finds out he's being relocated to a base in Georgia. Ex thinks she is going to move with him and take our kids with her. Everything the kids need or have ever known are here. Their school they've gone to since they started, me, their entire family on both sides...everything. Is there anything for me to worry about? I know judges want to do whats best for the kids, so surely no judge would let her uproot and move them to another state without my consent, right? The only thing Im worried about is the military thing, that maybe they'd get special treatment for that...but at the same time, he decided to join after they were together and they both knew her situation with my kids. My lawyer doesn't think I have anything to worry about, but of course he's going to tell me that since he wants my $.
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MTG#10 Mammoth penis Join Date: May 2006 Location: Springfield Casino cash: $7544386	#1) Have you beeen havin sex with her ? No #2) If the answer to #1 is yes then did you PIHB ? N/A #3) Did you by any chance take yer kids to that new movie "the conjuring" No #4) Do you feel that killing Osama Been Ladin was the right thing to do. Definitely #5) What is your annual income , before taxes. Around 40k (I live in Springfield, MO...pretty decent around here)
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Mojo Jojo Veteran Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Johnson County Casino cash: $10013802	She can challenge custody issues anytime she wants...doesn't mean she will ever win. I think you should have a good case, but with judges who knows. Your 13 year old should be able to speak with the judge regarding her wishes not sure about the others. Your lawyer should have a good idea how this judge works child input. Good luck to to you.
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08-01-2013, 04:16 PM	#24
eDave Banned Join Date: Jan 2013 Casino cash: $9998560	I had this situation with my ex. She met a dude, wanted to divorce and take our child to Dodge City, KS to be with him. You are right, Judges do not look kindly on this and won't with your ex. Especially with 50/50 custody. Document the additional 10%. I had to go through home visitations and all that. I won that battle and **** her. I believe at a certain age, the kids have input. Mine was just 2 at the time so... Don't worry but prove your case.
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08-01-2013, 04:25 PM	#29
Brock Say hello to my little friend Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: Larryville Casino cash: $9598422	Now, I have heard of women taking the kids with them regardless of judgement. And they won't go chasing after her, nor would the other state.
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