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View Poll Results: Did you seek father's permission/blessing?
Yes, it is a tradition I wanted to keep 42 27.10%
Yes, it is a tradition I knew spouse's family wanted to keep 19 12.26%
No 78 50.32%
I've never proposed 16 10.32%
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Old 01-16-2013, 09:43 AM  
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Married members: Did you seek permission/blessing?

Just wondering what the practice/custom is.
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Old 01-16-2013, 11:04 AM   #76
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Old 01-16-2013, 11:05 AM   #77
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i think it truly does vary n a case by case basis.

the girl/woman's relation ship with her father, and or family.

knowing how big family was to her, well Family, I wanted to do it.
It would not have gone over well had I not from a disrespect POV. But, it worked out because I would've done it anyway.

and, as Okoye said, I don't think it's so much of asking for permission these days, but a blessing. The blessing can be denied, and yiou'll be married anyway etc, but a blessing (depending on the sort of family you're entering into) would be gravy.

of course, if you don't get a blessing, it's probably because you're a dirtbag, or the father is a prick. I'd say any stand-up, grown man would get a blessing otherwise.
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Old 01-16-2013, 11:07 AM   #78
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i think it truly does vary n a case by case basis.

the girl/woman's relation ship with her father, and or family.

knowing how big family was to her, well Family, I wanted to do it.
It would not have gone over well had I not from a disrespect situation. But, it worked out because I would've done it anyway.
Yes, in your situation, it seemed sort of compelled. If you have a daughter, are you going to seek to continue that tradition?

I do have to say, though, that it's more than a little ironic that your in-laws are divorced.
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Old 01-16-2013, 11:07 AM   #79
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I didn't ask, but he was there when I proposed. Her Mom knew it was coming though.
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Old 01-16-2013, 11:08 AM   #80
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i think it truly does vary n a case by case basis.

the girl/woman's relation ship with her father, and or family.
This.

And for the record if you feel like you have to odds are you'll end up a much more happy husband...
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Old 01-16-2013, 11:09 AM   #81
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Hey don't laugh..my off the boat italian Father in law brought a goat to the house the day he asked his future wife's father for his blessing in Italy. Of course this was the 30's.

When I asked him for his blessing I only brought a bottle of wine...
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Old 01-16-2013, 11:11 AM   #82
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Never been married, have no kids. For now I'd err on the side of not asking. It seems outdated and very mildly sexist. I'm young, but I've never been in a serious relationship with a woman who seemed to find things like that important.

That being said, I don't feel so strongly about it that I wouldn't do it if I knew that it was important to either my fiancee or her family. It's a small thing to do if it means gaining the respect and affection of people you're probably going to be around the rest of your life.
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Old 01-16-2013, 11:12 AM   #83
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My future in laws didn't like me, and I didn't really care for them....so no. And I don't feel the slightest bit bad about it.
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Old 01-16-2013, 11:12 AM   #84
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Yes, in your situation, it seemed sort of compelled. If you have a daughter, are you going to seek to continue that tradition?

I do have to say, though, that it's more than a little ironic that your in-laws are divorced.
hhmm. Good question. as of now, I would say 'yes' from the standoint of respect and appreciation.

good point. they're seriously the only ones that I know of that are divorced in her entire huge family/extended family.
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Old 01-16-2013, 11:14 AM   #85
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My future in laws didn't like me, and I didn't really care for them....so no. And I don't feel the slightest bit bad about it.
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Never been married, have no kids. For now I'd err on the side of not asking. It seems outdated and very mildly sexist. I'm young, but I've never been in a serious relationship with a woman who seemed to find things like that important.
Exactly.

You're not a father yet.

Imagine the best outcome of any woman you might want to date right now. She's perfect. You get married.

Then Imagine (yeah, I was like 25 before this hit me) that in this perfect life some half-whit-low-britches-tard has convinced your precious that he's the best thing since rock music on the radio.

He doesn't give a $3it if you like him either...
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Old 01-16-2013, 11:17 AM   #87
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Were you planning on marrying her before she became pregnant?
No. I was just graduated and she had a couple years to go. Basically after surviving getting her pregnant without her father killing me, I figured I'd see how things were going. We wound up moving in together first and so it naturally led to marriage.

I don't recommend that course of action, by the way. We were lucky and blessed. Most high school marriages over a baby wind up failing.

20 years and counting for us.
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I didn't, but I figured he wouldn't have a problem with it since he suggested we move in together before we were even engaged. He and I get along together great. I've been with my wife for 23 years now, and married for almost 19 of those years.
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Didn't. Kind of wish I had in retrospect. Not a big deal though...
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lots of good perspectives in here; truly.

I also think if the daughter is extremely close to her father, that it would impact the decision as well.

But again.....lots of variables in the decision.
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