Hammock Parties
03-15-2005, 07:57 AM
This is an article that appeared in the FSView yesterday. Try as I might, I cannot fathom the kind of dire straits the editor must have been in to allow it to go to print.
http://www.fsunews.com/vnews/display.v/ART/2005/03/14/4234c9e7d6855?in_archive=1
My personal responses are in bold and parentheses.
Porn poisons society and hurts us all (((crackle of lightning, roll of thunder. OMINOUS MUSIC.)))
by Courtney Carr - Kentucky Kernel
March 14, 2005
People who believe porn does not affect women are far out of touch with reality.
Porn affects every woman in this world who has ever been around a man who has looked at a Playboy or watched a Jenna Jameson video. Whether they choose to recognize this fact depends in part on their awareness of moral issues and in part on their IQ.
(((I love that I've already been set up to agree with your opinion if I don't want to be lumped in with these drooling, porno-loving knuckledraggers that you've imagined.)))
If you ask students on college campuses what they think of porn, you will get varied responses. Many will say they love porn; others may say it's a person's First Amendment right or question who we are to judge what others enjoy. Hardly, if ever, will someone respond with "I believe porn is wrong." People simply overlook the fact that porn is horribly degrading to women.
(((... there's the pitch...)))
After men look at porn for enough time, they become unable to differentiate the models from the women in their everyday life.
(((... Ball 1.)))
When I was 16, my boyfriend became addicted to porn. The problem affects every aspect of our relationship to this day. I'm overly self-conscious because I know that often when he looks at me, he sees me as an object of his desires rather than the person I truly am. It tears me up inside that his love for me wasn't enough to conquer his desire for sexual relationships with other women.
(((Chances are, if you're overly self-conscious because YOU KNOW WHAT PEOPLE ARE THINKING ABOUT YOU, your issues may extend beyond a person's interest in watching strangers do the Monkey Dance. If you sat him down and he revealed this all to you, say so. As it stands, this is all pretty baseless and thin. Also, a question: should the person you truly are NOT be the object of his desire?)))
The emotional pain I've suffered over this problem is shared with women worldwide. Porn addiction destroys women, making them self-conscious to the point of depression, eating disorders and suicidal thoughts.
(((... was there actual research involved in this article? Cite your sources, please.)))
As the amount of pornographic content in today's magazines and television ads rises, so do eating disorders on college campuses. Men see gorgeous women on the cover of Vogue, and suddenly women feel they must either copy that look or be undesirable.
(((It should be pointed out that no colorful, official-looking graph accompanied this article. I don't mind that too much, as it seems pretty intuitive that the general public has always felt a negative influence on their self-image from mass media. What I do take issue with, however, is the fact that we are no longer talking about pornography. We're talking about Vogue Magazine and Television Ads. My theory is that she needed filler and cannibalized this from another fluff piece she was working on.)))
Still believe porn only involves those watching?
If porn has such a dramatic effect on me and other third-party victims, much as second-hand smoke does, what does it do to women in the business? What would drive a woman to make that career choice? What feeling do you get when your only contributions to the world are sold in the back of a dark warehouse to middle-aged men in need of a bath?
(((The answer is money. Your article means nothing to me if you just ask me loads of rhetorical questions. Also, second-hand smoke...?)))
Women have an uncontrollable need for safety and comfort. They need protection and encouragement and acceptance in order to be completely fulfilled. We gain all of those qualities from parents, teachers and friends, but when those relationships have been abusive or lacking, the attention must come from elsewhere.
Women in the porn industry, as beautiful and wealthy as they may be, are deeply hurting on the inside. Many were sexually abused during childhood or abandoned by alcoholic fathers, and they struggle with fulfillment.
(((Cite. Your. Sources. PLEASE.)))
Women want acceptance, and men want sex.
What do women conclude? If I give men sex, they will give me acceptance. And while men will accept you for your body and the favors you give them, it will not be true, deep, intimate acceptance.
(((I feel like it's good, every so often, to have proof that people still think like this. I don't know why. I think it's socially useful to be aware of it. So I suppose I did get that from the article as a whole.)))
Women in porn are making themselves available, over and over again, with the hope that someday someone will fill the hole within their hearts. They pretend to enjoy making porn just as men pretend to give them acceptance.
(((Empathy or telepathy? You decide.)))
Porn is either the cause of women's pain, as in my case, or the result of the pain, as in the case of Jenna Jameson and so many others.
(((What others? Can I have a list? Last names? Initials? Words that rhyme with the titles of movies I might have seen them in? CYSP. This article has given birth to a brand new acronym. Sisssssssp. I like it.)))
And even if you haven't noticed yet, it's hurting all women.
(((Ah-HAH! There's the knockout punch. "In case you haven't noticed, I'm totally right about this." Absolutely brilliant persuausive technique. Staggering, even.)))
GAH.
http://www.fsunews.com/vnews/display.v/ART/2005/03/14/4234c9e7d6855?in_archive=1
My personal responses are in bold and parentheses.
Porn poisons society and hurts us all (((crackle of lightning, roll of thunder. OMINOUS MUSIC.)))
by Courtney Carr - Kentucky Kernel
March 14, 2005
People who believe porn does not affect women are far out of touch with reality.
Porn affects every woman in this world who has ever been around a man who has looked at a Playboy or watched a Jenna Jameson video. Whether they choose to recognize this fact depends in part on their awareness of moral issues and in part on their IQ.
(((I love that I've already been set up to agree with your opinion if I don't want to be lumped in with these drooling, porno-loving knuckledraggers that you've imagined.)))
If you ask students on college campuses what they think of porn, you will get varied responses. Many will say they love porn; others may say it's a person's First Amendment right or question who we are to judge what others enjoy. Hardly, if ever, will someone respond with "I believe porn is wrong." People simply overlook the fact that porn is horribly degrading to women.
(((... there's the pitch...)))
After men look at porn for enough time, they become unable to differentiate the models from the women in their everyday life.
(((... Ball 1.)))
When I was 16, my boyfriend became addicted to porn. The problem affects every aspect of our relationship to this day. I'm overly self-conscious because I know that often when he looks at me, he sees me as an object of his desires rather than the person I truly am. It tears me up inside that his love for me wasn't enough to conquer his desire for sexual relationships with other women.
(((Chances are, if you're overly self-conscious because YOU KNOW WHAT PEOPLE ARE THINKING ABOUT YOU, your issues may extend beyond a person's interest in watching strangers do the Monkey Dance. If you sat him down and he revealed this all to you, say so. As it stands, this is all pretty baseless and thin. Also, a question: should the person you truly are NOT be the object of his desire?)))
The emotional pain I've suffered over this problem is shared with women worldwide. Porn addiction destroys women, making them self-conscious to the point of depression, eating disorders and suicidal thoughts.
(((... was there actual research involved in this article? Cite your sources, please.)))
As the amount of pornographic content in today's magazines and television ads rises, so do eating disorders on college campuses. Men see gorgeous women on the cover of Vogue, and suddenly women feel they must either copy that look or be undesirable.
(((It should be pointed out that no colorful, official-looking graph accompanied this article. I don't mind that too much, as it seems pretty intuitive that the general public has always felt a negative influence on their self-image from mass media. What I do take issue with, however, is the fact that we are no longer talking about pornography. We're talking about Vogue Magazine and Television Ads. My theory is that she needed filler and cannibalized this from another fluff piece she was working on.)))
Still believe porn only involves those watching?
If porn has such a dramatic effect on me and other third-party victims, much as second-hand smoke does, what does it do to women in the business? What would drive a woman to make that career choice? What feeling do you get when your only contributions to the world are sold in the back of a dark warehouse to middle-aged men in need of a bath?
(((The answer is money. Your article means nothing to me if you just ask me loads of rhetorical questions. Also, second-hand smoke...?)))
Women have an uncontrollable need for safety and comfort. They need protection and encouragement and acceptance in order to be completely fulfilled. We gain all of those qualities from parents, teachers and friends, but when those relationships have been abusive or lacking, the attention must come from elsewhere.
Women in the porn industry, as beautiful and wealthy as they may be, are deeply hurting on the inside. Many were sexually abused during childhood or abandoned by alcoholic fathers, and they struggle with fulfillment.
(((Cite. Your. Sources. PLEASE.)))
Women want acceptance, and men want sex.
What do women conclude? If I give men sex, they will give me acceptance. And while men will accept you for your body and the favors you give them, it will not be true, deep, intimate acceptance.
(((I feel like it's good, every so often, to have proof that people still think like this. I don't know why. I think it's socially useful to be aware of it. So I suppose I did get that from the article as a whole.)))
Women in porn are making themselves available, over and over again, with the hope that someday someone will fill the hole within their hearts. They pretend to enjoy making porn just as men pretend to give them acceptance.
(((Empathy or telepathy? You decide.)))
Porn is either the cause of women's pain, as in my case, or the result of the pain, as in the case of Jenna Jameson and so many others.
(((What others? Can I have a list? Last names? Initials? Words that rhyme with the titles of movies I might have seen them in? CYSP. This article has given birth to a brand new acronym. Sisssssssp. I like it.)))
And even if you haven't noticed yet, it's hurting all women.
(((Ah-HAH! There's the knockout punch. "In case you haven't noticed, I'm totally right about this." Absolutely brilliant persuausive technique. Staggering, even.)))
GAH.