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BIG_DADDY
08-09-2007, 10:55 AM
As many of you know I regularly check Craigslist in my area for deals. Recently I have been looking for a slamming deal on a cherry wood dresser. Well just the other day I run across this ad saying this guy has a whole bunch of top notch pron for $50, lots of asian stuff. So I contact the guy and say how much is a whole bunch and he says it's my 10 year collection, it's a lot. I ask him why he is getting rid of it and he says it's because his girlfriend is moving in? :spock: So I'm like whatever and agree to meet him. When I do he pulls out this huge box loaded with DVD's. I have no idea how much is in there but it has to be more than 500 DVD's all categorized in seperate DVD holders. First thing I think is holy shit how does anyone ever watch that much pron? :shrug: When he hands me the box it looks like the guy wants to cry. LMAO So I give him the money and load it up. He just happens to have a bizzillion magazines too. He asks me if I want those for free. I just laugh and say no dude I think the DVD's will be sufficient. Anyway I start thinking, what the **** am I going to do with all this shit? :shrug: so I offer some to a couple of guys here at work. "Oh no they say, my wife would be pissed if she saw I had that" I'm like OK. :spock: So I take it home. Had two friends come over last night. One finally took some off my hands and the other said his girlfriend had no idea he looked at that stuff and he could only take one. WTF? Keep in mind he doesn't even live with this girl. So this is my question, is having pron really that much of an issue in the average relationship these days? I understand the "hey you never pay any attention to me or the kids because you are obsessed with pron" sort of thing but I can't believe this is even a sticking point in most relationships, especially with guys who are my friends. So I thought I would poll this to get a real feel for it. This poll is only for people who have a relationship with someone of the opposite sex and not for those who's significant other is their hand.

Mr. Flopnuts
08-09-2007, 11:02 AM
It positively pisses my wife off that I look at porn. Tough shit. I have a penis so therefore I have the right. I don't cheat on her, and I don't oogle over girls while we are out. Watching some dirty little whore suck a cock is totally different. While my wife agrees with my assessment about it being T.V and therefore ENTIRELY different, she hates it. She lives with it though, it's part of the compromise of relationships.

sedated
08-09-2007, 11:02 AM
You ever watch, like, Primetime Live when they take a black light into a hotel room show you all the semen all over the bedspread?


You blind someone with that box.
Could see that thing from space.

Demonpenz
08-09-2007, 11:07 AM
i took to my date to one time She didn't know i liked dirty movies. I told her alot of couples watch it. She stormed out never answered my calls again. So I just went back to my job of driving a taxi

Fish
08-09-2007, 11:07 AM
I told my ex that if she didn't like it, she was more than welcome to turn off the porn and take over herself. She said that was too much work....

That bitch.

BIG_DADDY
08-09-2007, 11:11 AM
i took to my date to one time She didn't know i liked dirty movies. I told her alot of couples watch it. She stormed out never answered my calls again. So I just went back to my job of driving a taxi

No seriously.

Dunit35
08-09-2007, 11:13 AM
Don't watch it anymore. It's a big no no in our house.

Demonpenz
08-09-2007, 11:16 AM
Don't watch it anymore. It's a big no no in our house.


pretty much the same thing here. I would be in big trouble. Plus I find it more rewarding to snuggle with the loved one and watch a movie. The way her eyes light up when we get together watching a movie is better than any nudie movie I can think of!

BIG_DADDY
08-09-2007, 11:18 AM
pretty much the same thing here. I would be in big trouble. Plus I find it more rewarding to snuggle with the loved one and watch a movie. The way her eyes light up when we get together watching a movie is better than any nudie movie I can think of!

So people who watch porn don't have special moments with their partner? :spock:

BucEyedPea
08-09-2007, 11:18 AM
The survey is for guys so I won't vote.

I'd like to say that one of my gf's marriage broke up when her husband came home and said the marriage just ran its course. He was downloading lots of porn at work, (self employed) along with his partners and wound up cheating as a result and became obsessed with and began carrying it out in real life.

That guy you bought the porn from BD sounds addicted just by the sheer quanity. Seems like it runs his life more than him. Who's in control here?
I say he will be back to it at some point in time. And if he feels the need to hide it from his gf, which seems to be the case by getting rid of it and seems to take it as a loss, well then I think the writing's on the wall. JMO.

Mr. Plow
08-09-2007, 11:19 AM
Had two friends come over last night. One finally took some off my hands


:spock:

Demonpenz
08-09-2007, 11:22 AM
So people who watch porn don't have special moments with their partner? :spock:


I am not saying that but if you are busy watching porn then you might miss some of the moments with their partner. Plus it is a no no in our house so I am not allowed too. I don't want to see cupcake get mad

Redrum_69
08-09-2007, 11:23 AM
LOL


just know that now you and that guy you bought those from share something now....


you should probably have used a sterile glove to put those in your dvd player...because if you touched the dvd's directly...you forgot about all the times he watched those dvds, finished, and then ejected the dvd..leaving his uh smears all over the dvd...which you just picked up...and then sat back down in your lazyboy chair..eating chips...with the hand that you just put the dvd in the player...


just like women...why would you want to watch something thats been used prior to you getting your hands on it...you should have just bought a dvd NEW...rather than used...even if it was slightly used...you never know what you are going to get....lots of scratches...etc

DaFace
08-09-2007, 11:23 AM
It's kind of a don't ask, don't tell policy around our place. My wife (sounds weird) doesn't care as long as she doesn't see it.

StcChief
08-09-2007, 11:24 AM
The survey is for guys so I won't vote.

I'd like to say that one of my gf's marriage broke up when her husband came home and said the marriage just ran its course. He was downloading lots of porn at work, (self employed) along with his partners and wound up cheating as a result and became obsessed with and began carrying it out in real life.

That guy you bought the porn from BD sounds addicted just by the sheer quanity. Seems like it runs his life more than him. Who's in control here?
I say he will be back to it at some point in time. And if he feels the need to hide it from his gf, which seems to be the case by getting rid of it and seems to take it as a loss, well then I think the writing's on the wall. JMO.
That's true of anything....taking it to obsession. Really wonder if that is what lead to the collapse or other "marital issues".

Redrum_69
08-09-2007, 11:24 AM
you should also be prepared for private messagees from all the ..uh..sinning abusers on here who flog themselves HOURLY...aka hootie and gochiefs...asking you to send a few dvd's to them...

Demonpenz
08-09-2007, 11:25 AM
It's kind of a don't ask, don't tell policy around our place. My wife (sounds weird) doesn't care as long as she doesn't see it.



i bet you can walk all day with your wang out then!

Jenson71
08-09-2007, 11:25 AM
i took to my date to one time She didn't know i liked dirty movies. I told her alot of couples watch it. She stormed out never answered my calls again. So I just went back to my job of driving a taxi
LMAO

sedated
08-09-2007, 11:25 AM
So this is my question, is having pron really that much of an issue in the average relationship these days?

women see it as their man wanting to be with someone else.

it hurts their self-esteem.

I guess its the equivilant of you saying "I would rather f*ck her than you" every time you press play.

(but they don't realize that the man's sexual appetite isn't fulfilled by the table-scraps of sex most wives put out)


:shrug:

Fly O.T. McWall
08-09-2007, 11:26 AM
i've been surprised to read the numberof poeple whose wives/SO won't allow it... not only does my wife like it and watch it, it's not uncommon for use to use it as part of our sex life.

Braincase
08-09-2007, 11:28 AM
I used to, but now with two daughters of my own, I avoid it for the most part.

I think it does create unreal expectations. SOme guys who might rate 4-6 watch porn and then think that they're going to land a girlfriend that looks and act like the chicks in the flix, but that's not realistic. Meanwhile, there are plenty of decent girls out there that would love to get freaky with a steady boyfriend, but don't have one because the guys won't give 'em a second look because they don't look like a porn star.

I think porn creates a lot of lonely people.

Gonzo
08-09-2007, 11:28 AM
The Gaz option has to be one of the best ever. ROFL

Jenson71
08-09-2007, 11:30 AM
Demonpez is at the top of his usual smartass game today. LMAO

Redrum_69
08-09-2007, 11:30 AM
BIG_DADDY has exceded their stored private messages quota and can not accept further messages until they clear some space.

BIG_DADDY
08-09-2007, 11:30 AM
The survey is for guys so I won't vote.

I'd like to say that one of my gf's marriage broke up when her husband came home and said the marriage just ran its course. He was downloading lots of porn at work, (self employed) along with his partners and wound up cheating as a result and became obsessed with and began carrying it out in real life.

That guy you bought the porn from BD sounds addicted just by the sheer quanity. Seems like it runs his life more than him. Who's in control here?
I say he will be back to it at some point in time. And if he feels the need to hide it from his gf, which seems to be the case by getting rid of it and seems to take it as a loss, well then I think the writing's on the wall. JMO.

To say that guy was addicted is probably a huge understatement. I should just hold on to all of it and wait for the call back which should come in the next 2 years. Probably offer me a grand for it all back. LMAO

Honestly I don't think I have watched that much pron in my entire life. There has to be over 3,000 hours in there and we are not even talking about the time he spent in those magazines.

Redrum_69
08-09-2007, 11:31 AM
To say that guy was addicted is probably a huge understatement. I should just hold on to all of it and wait for the call back which should come in the next 2 years. Probably offer me a grand for it all back. LMAO

Honestly I don't think I have watched that much pron in my entire life. There has to be over 3,000 hours in there and we are not even talking about the time he spent in those magazines.



You should EBAY it all....

StcChief
08-09-2007, 11:33 AM
I used to, but now with two daughters of my own, I avoid it for the most part.

I think it does create unreal expectations. SOme guys who might rate 4-6 watch porn and then think that they're going to land a girlfriend that looks and act like the chicks in the flix, but that's not realistic. Meanwhile, there are plenty of decent girls out there that would love to get freaky with a steady boyfriend, but don't have one because the guys won't give 'em a second look because they don't look like a porn star.

I think porn creates a lot of lonely people.
Agreed if two girls in house not a good idea. The fact it's so readily available online is freaky enough for parents with curious kids.....

Interesting analogy.

It's about setting requirements and expectations for guys/girls in the dating scene.

Demonpenz
08-09-2007, 11:33 AM
We make love once a week on thursday at 7 pm every week and when I am "Done" I have to finish on a towel and take the towel and throw it away in the garbage can across the street. Then I take a shower, she ususally cries for about 15 minutes then we fall asleep until our poodle celine wakes me up at 5 am for our couples jog

Redrum_69
08-09-2007, 11:34 AM
We make love once a week on thursday at 7 pm every week and when I am "Done" I have to finish on a towel and take the towel and throw it away in the garbage can across the street. Then I take a shower, she ususally cries for about 15 minutes then we fall asleep until our poodle celine wakes me up at 5 am for our couples jog



:LOL:

BucEyedPea
08-09-2007, 11:35 AM
That's true of anything....taking it to obsession. Really wonder if that is what lead to the collapse or other "marital issues".
The obsession part is true of anything. And some people tend to be more of an addictive personality type.

According to her it was right out of the blue and she claimed they had a good sex life. Who knows? But they weren't married that long either.

Redrum_69
08-09-2007, 11:35 AM
poodle celine wakes me up at 5 am for our couples jog



you have a poodle?!?!?


and you have to finish in a towel


you are worse than gochiefs

Jenson71
08-09-2007, 11:35 AM
LMAO LMAO

Redrum_69
08-09-2007, 11:36 AM
The obsession part is true of anything. And some people tend to be more of an addictive personality type.

According to her it was right out of the blue and she claimed they had a good sex life. Who knows? But they weren't married that long either.



you are a woman?

Mr. Flopnuts
08-09-2007, 11:37 AM
We make love once a week on thursday at 7 pm every week and when I am "Done" I have to finish on a towel and take the towel and throw it away in the garbage can across the street. Then I take a shower, she ususally cries for about 15 minutes then we fall asleep until our poodle celine wakes me up at 5 am for our couples jog



****ing fantastic!!!!! LMAO Post of the week.

BucEyedPea
08-09-2007, 11:39 AM
you are a woman?
A hermaphrodite, actually,

DaneMcCloud
08-09-2007, 11:40 AM
A hermaphrodite, actually,

who still believes in the Greek & Roman gods, IIRC.

LMAO

BucEyedPea
08-09-2007, 11:42 AM
who still believes in the Greek & Roman gods, IIRC.

LMAO
You remembered! I'm flattered. LMAO

Redrum_69
08-09-2007, 11:44 AM
who still believes in the Greek & Roman gods, IIRC.

LMAO



The greek and roman gods..never happened

It was that societies way of keeping everyone in line...

Mr. Flopnuts
08-09-2007, 11:45 AM
The greek and roman gods..never happened

It was that societies way of keeping everyone in line...



I've heard the same thing be said about the catholic church.

FAX
08-09-2007, 11:46 AM
I think it's funny. A guy walks into his bedroom and there are 8 beautiful women with enormous tatoos who just happen to be making passionate love to his wife. Then, he just stands there dumbfounded for a few tense minutes until he's coaxed by several of the girls to join into the pile. That's just unrealistic.

In the real world, he wouldn't have to be invited.

FAX

Redrum_69
08-09-2007, 11:47 AM
I've heard the same thing be said about the catholic church.


My God wins.

So there!

Mr. Flopnuts
08-09-2007, 11:48 AM
My God wins.

So there!



If you're Catholic I didn't know it, and wasn't trying to take a shot. Just saying, that argument has made its rounds through athiests for eons.

Jenson71
08-09-2007, 11:50 AM
As usual, a porn thread always ends up being about Catholicism.

Redrum_69
08-09-2007, 11:51 AM
As usual, a porn thread always ends up being about Catholicism.


I'm not catholic, I'm a Jehovas Witness

BIG_DADDY
08-09-2007, 11:53 AM
You should EBAY it all....

He burned some of the shit so I am not going to get busted for something stupid. I'm just giving it away to people I know. Asians are usually the ones into Asian pron. I'm thinking of a lower sushi tab about now. :hmmm: Talk about getting your money's worth. That's actually the reason I got it, I figured at that price I would probably benefit 10 fold. As it is now I have a friend that burns all the new movies which is why I had a directors cut of 300 over 2 months ago. Just got Tansformers and about 10 other movies from him yesterday. He has all the latest including pron. To be honest I don't think I have watched over 10% of the shit he has burned for me. I just don't have the time. Even if I had unlimited time I can't imagine watching over an hour of pron a week, MAX. One movie a week MAX as well.

At this point when I usually do watch TV it is MMA or something pumpkin is watching. Like BIG AIR on ESPN last night, friggen amazing.

BIG_DADDY
08-09-2007, 11:54 AM
I'm not catholic, I'm a Jehovas Witness

RIGHT!! LMAO

Mr. Flopnuts
08-09-2007, 11:54 AM
I'm not catholic, I'm a Jehovas Witness



LMAO

Mecca
08-09-2007, 11:58 AM
If your woman is really that insecure that watching porn bugs her she has serious issues that she needs to get over.

This is like my friends wife who once got pissed off there was a hot woman in the TV on a regular show it was like seriously shut up. It's not like any of us are going to go bang porn stars or anyone from TV so relax.

If she really does it just pull the same shit back to show her how ****in stupid it is.

Jilly
08-09-2007, 12:06 PM
Again, it's a struggle for me.... if I put my moral issues with it aside and just think about it from a couple perspective....I think it could be a good thing, especially if watched together and it spurs on fantasy and role play, etc. But if one is watching it, masturbating to it and using it as a replacement because actual sex takes too much work, then I think it becomes detrimental to the relationship

Mr. Flopnuts
08-09-2007, 12:11 PM
because actual sex takes too much work, then I think it becomes detrimental to the relationship



If this is the case, the problem is the relationship, not the porn.

sedated
08-09-2007, 12:13 PM
a hot woman in the TV on a regular show

a little hot woman is stuck in the TV!

Amnorix
08-09-2007, 12:16 PM
My wife and I have the most trusting relationship ever. We are extremely honest and communicative. She therefore knows and understands that my ahem, requirements, are perhaps a bit higher than she'd like to handle, and therefore, does not object to what I do to ensure that I'm not hounding her more than I already do. :D

She'll even call for me to come to the TV if there's soemthing "interesting" for me to see. That included every minute of that long-legged superwoman, Stacy Kiebler, when she was watching Dancing with hte Stars. :drool:

Amnorix
08-09-2007, 12:18 PM
If your woman is really that insecure that watching porn bugs her she has serious issues that she needs to get over.

This is like my friends wife who once got pissed off there was a hot woman in the TV on a regular show it was like seriously shut up. It's not like any of us are going to go bang porn stars or anyone from TV so relax.

Right. One time my wife was drooling over some hunk on TV and she asked if I minded. I said something like "well, you can try for him and I'll take Stacy Kiebler, and when we both strike out, we'll still have each other."

Besides, I'd never cheat, and neither would she. ten minutes cheap thrill isn't worth it.

Dallas Chief
08-09-2007, 12:20 PM
Don't ask, don't tell...

sedated
08-09-2007, 12:22 PM
ten minutes cheap thrill isn't worth it.

ten minutes?

BIG_DADDY
08-09-2007, 12:22 PM
If this is the case, the problem is the relationship, not the porn.

Exactly

Amnorix
08-09-2007, 12:22 PM
OH, and it's ain't pron, but it is nice to watch.

http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=2936368414574872983&q=stacy+kiebler&total=764&start=0&num=10&so=0&type=search&plindex=0

BIG_DADDY
08-09-2007, 12:23 PM
ten minutes?LMAO

Amnorix
08-09-2007, 12:24 PM
LMAO

Counting foreplay... :LOL:

BucEyedPea
08-09-2007, 12:26 PM
I think the problem with porn and relationships can go either way.
The relationship first or porn first. It depends on the facts of each relationship.
A lot of rapists and child molesters get caught with a high degree of porn found in their homes. I suppose you could say they had issues first...but we all have some issues. To a greater or lesser degree some have worse ones. Some can't deal with this stuff and stay rational.

BIG_DADDY
08-09-2007, 12:27 PM
OH, and it's ain't pron, but it is nice to watch.

http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=2936368414574872983&q=stacy+kiebler&total=764&start=0&num=10&so=0&type=search&plindex=0

First I'm gonna have a mocha, then I'm sticking her with my poka.

Stacy is hot, I totally agree. What a breeder. :hump:

Dallas Chief
08-09-2007, 12:28 PM
ten minutes?
No need to prolong the inevitable.

Amnorix
08-09-2007, 12:28 PM
I think the problem with porn and relationships can go either way.
The relationship first or porn first. It depends on the facts of each relationship.
A lot of rapists and child molesters get caught with a high degree of porn found in their homes. I suppose you could say they had issues first...but we all have some issues. Some can't deal with this stuff and stay rational.

errr...yeah, they had issues.

LOTS of men have pron. In fact, something ridiculous like 10% of all internet websites, or (more likely?) 10% of all money spent on the web, is spent on pron.

And yet what? 1/1,000th of 1% of all men are rapists?

I mean, c'mon...

BIG_DADDY
08-09-2007, 12:30 PM
I think the problem with porn and relationships can go either way.
The relationship first or porn first. It depends on the facts of each relationship.
A lot of rapists and child molesters get caught with a high degree of porn found in their homes. I suppose you could say they had issues first...but we all have some issues. To a greater or lesser degree some have worse ones. Some can't deal with this stuff and stay rational.


I don't get that. I guess it's why someone who socially drinks doesn't understand an alchoholic. I can't imaging the percentage of people with real issues is very high though.

Redrum_69
08-09-2007, 12:30 PM
errr...yeah, they had issues.

LOTS of men have pron. In fact, something ridiculous like 10% of all internet websites, or (more likely?) 10% of all money spent on the web, is spent on pron.

And yet what? 1/1,000th of 1% of all men are rapists?

I mean, c'mon...



Videogames turn people into killers

Rap/Hip hop music turns people into pitbull fight promoters

...

Its called the circle of life


next thing Big Daddy will post is that theres pit bull bans happening everywhere across the US...

BIG_DADDY
08-09-2007, 12:30 PM
errr...yeah, they had issues.

LOTS of men have pron. In fact, something ridiculous like 10% of all internet websites, or (more likely?) 10% of all money spent on the web, is spent on pron.

And yet what? 1/1,000th of 1% of all men are rapists?

I mean, c'mon...

what he said

BucEyedPea
08-09-2007, 12:30 PM
Look at what phobia posted about his relationship with his wife.
He stopped to handled it.

It can go either way it depends on the people in that relationship and how one is relying on porn. There's not absolute formula.

Redrum_69
08-09-2007, 12:31 PM
Smoking causes cancer

Redrum_69
08-09-2007, 12:31 PM
Premarital sex causes STD's and AIDS

BucEyedPea
08-09-2007, 12:32 PM
Look at what phobia posted about his relationship with his wife.
He stopped to handled it.

It can go either way it depends on the people in that relationship and how one is relying on porn. There's no absolute formula.

A couple may not have sex due to their relationship growing distant and one or the other may turn to porn instead of dealing with the issue.

Redrum_69
08-09-2007, 12:32 PM
self plesuring is a one way ticket to hell for killing kids

Redrum_69
08-09-2007, 12:32 PM
Look at what phobia posted about his relationship with his wife.
He stopped to handled it.

It can go either way it depends on the people in that relationship and how one is relying on porn. There's no absolute formula.

A couple may not have sex due to their relationship growing distant and one or the other may turn to porn instead of dealing with the issue.


reposting your reposts is WPI-ish

BIG_DADDY
08-09-2007, 12:33 PM
Look at what phobia posted about his relationship with his wife.
He stopped to handled it.

It can go either way it depends on the people in that relationship and how one is relying on porn. There's not absolute formula.

I imagine kids can complicate thing. To me I just see a whole lot of insecure women out there that want to control their man. I think that is probably WAY more prevelant than the other.

Redrum_69
08-09-2007, 12:35 PM
Question about pron and... 08-09-2007 12:34 PM BucEyedPea Tough. I was answering Amnorix's post. How do I know if he read the whole thing. I'll say what I want. Post Nazi.

BIG_DADDY
08-09-2007, 12:35 PM
What's amazing to me is that this is still almost 50/50. WOW color me amazed.

Amnorix
08-09-2007, 12:38 PM
Question about pron and... 08-09-2007 12:34 PM BucEyedPea Tough. I was answering Amnorix's post. How do I know if he read the whole thing. I'll say what I want. Post Nazi.

Complaining about Rep....not generally a good way to go...

Amnorix
08-09-2007, 12:39 PM
Look at what phobia posted about his relationship with his wife.
He stopped to handled it.

It can go either way it depends on the people in that relationship and how one is relying on porn. There's no absolute formula.

A couple may not have sex due to their relationship growing distant and one or the other may turn to porn instead of dealing with the issue.

I did read this both times. Where did he say it? I went back through this thread but didn't see it, but maybe he's changed his username? I never keep up with that.

BIG_DADDY
08-09-2007, 12:39 PM
You ever post a pic BucEyedPea? No not the nakid kind.

BucEyedPea
08-09-2007, 12:45 PM
I did read this both times. Where did he say it? I went back through this thread but didn't see it, but maybe he's changed his username? I never keep up with that.
It's in the other thread on this subject. Think yesterday or the day before.

Amnorix
08-09-2007, 12:56 PM
It's in the other thread on this subject. Think yesterday or the day before.

Found it.

I like my pron, but why anyone would let it get in the way of real sex, I have no idea. :LOL:

But yes, if it's at the point where it's interfering with real relationships, it's a problem and needs to be scaled back in a big way. But,a s someone else said, that's true of any obsession.

Mecca
08-09-2007, 01:13 PM
I think I could understand if you watched it 24/7 but if your g/f is making you get rid of all your porn acting like having any is wrong and bad.

Then she herself has a problem...

StcChief
08-09-2007, 01:13 PM
I imagine kids can complicate thing. To me I just see a whole lot of insecure women out there that want to control their man. I think that is probably WAY more prevelant than the other.Can't really have it with kids around...

how true. lot's of insecure women wanting more power....

Phobia
08-09-2007, 01:13 PM
I imagine kids can complicate thing. To me I just see a whole lot of insecure women out there that want to control their man. I think that is probably WAY more prevelant than the other.
I don't think my wife is insecure. She didn't have a problem with porn in the past and she's hotter now than when I met her 10 years ago (takes better care of herself now). While it wasn't a frequent activity, we used to enjoy a little porn together even. Her values changed at some point. I've had to adjust. I'm happy to do it because my priorities are in order (now). You may find that your lady changes with time and you should be prepared to make adjustments as well - as should she when you change. It's all about compromise and communication as you well know.

You and I both had long-term relationships with live-ins before marrying them. Neither of us wanted things to change but they do, especially with the introduction of children into the mix.

BucEyedPea
08-09-2007, 01:15 PM
But,a s someone else said, that's true of any obsession.
Something I posted my agreement too.

I didn't making any absolutist claim ever. Just that people are different, individuals, in how they deal with things.

Mecca
08-09-2007, 01:15 PM
I'm glad I have no kids.........hopefully it stays that way.

Skyy God
08-09-2007, 01:15 PM
Or, maybe they're just more concerned about killing kittens than us men?

BIG_DADDY
08-09-2007, 01:20 PM
Can't really have it with kids around...

how true. lot's of insecure women wanting more power....

It's amazing to me the way guys just give it to them too like it's going to help the relationship. The biggest misconception in the world is that guys think if they just do what their woman wants that will help their relationship.

booyaf2
08-09-2007, 01:39 PM
The wife and I are excited that "Best of Real Sex" is on tonight. We just got HBO yesterday for Hard Knocks and this is just an added bonus. Thought I'd share.......

Jilly
08-09-2007, 01:41 PM
I think it's one thing if your wife/girlfriend is unwilling to have sex or try anything new and so you masturbate because, well, it's a basic need. I think it's a whole different ball park if your wife will give it to you any time you want, but you choose to masturbate/watch porn, then there's a problem somewhere. But do you think there's any affect on a relationship if there's a healthy sex life (everyone gets what they want), but on the side the woman or the man masturbate to porn?

Phobia
08-09-2007, 01:41 PM
It's amazing to me the way guys just give it to them too like it's going to help the relationship. The biggest misconception in the world is that guys think if they just do what their woman wants that will help their relationship.

Oh, I don't advocate that at all. But there are areas in which you're gonna have to compromise for sure.

BucEyedPea
08-09-2007, 01:50 PM
lot's of insecure women wanting more power....

You think there aren't any insecure men around?
I don't know which gender has more than the other and I don't really think it matters. I'll just tell from my experience, is that insecure (possessive and jealous usually) are more dangerous. Sometimes that can erupt into paranoia, stalking or even violence. No doubt there are some women that would do this too. But seems to be more prevalent around men. Must be that testorone.

BIG_DADDY
08-09-2007, 01:53 PM
I don't think my wife is insecure. She didn't have a problem with porn in the past and she's hotter now than when I met her 10 years ago (takes better care of herself now). While it wasn't a frequent activity, we used to enjoy a little porn together even. Her values changed at some point. I've had to adjust. I'm happy to do it because my priorities are in order (now). You may find that your lady changes with time and you should be prepared to make adjustments as well - as should she when you change. It's all about compromise and communication as you well know.

You and I both had long-term relationships with live-ins before marrying them. Neither of us wanted things to change but they do, especially with the introduction of children into the mix.


Yea I keep hearing about how women change after having children when it comes to sex. What I have heard I hope doesn't happen to us but my friends keep saying "just you wait"

StcChief
08-09-2007, 01:54 PM
You think there aren't any insecure men around?
I don't know which gender has more than the other and I don't really think it matters. I'll just tell from my experience, is that insecure (possessive and jealous usually) are more dangerous. Sometimes that can erupt into paranoia, stalking or even violence. No doubt there are some women that would do this too. But seems to be more prevalent around men. Must be that testorone.
Glad I'm not amped up Testostrone laden, roided out freak like some of our pro athletes.

lot of insecure men I agree.... I don't really know any

ChiefsCountry
08-09-2007, 01:59 PM
Go find an 8th grade boy tell him you will give him $10 bucks for every DVD you have, have him go to school and sell them for $20.

BIG_DADDY
08-09-2007, 02:01 PM
Oh, I don't advocate that at all. But there are areas in which you're gonna have to compromise for sure.

Little Tavis is going to create all kinds of different situations I'm sure. I just hope we maintain the very active sex life we had before. Friends say once you have a kid there is no more sex. Some complain they only get it now once every month or two. These woman are setting the groundwork that will lead to a cheating spouse. I can see why they wouldn't want their men to watch porn and get their hormones flowing seeing they have no desire to fill that need and we all know where that can lead.

KC Kings
08-09-2007, 02:01 PM
I imagine kids can complicate thing. To me I just see a whole lot of insecure women out there that want to control their man. I think that is probably WAY more prevelant than the other.

I won't have the pron in my house because I don't want to take any chance thay my young kids will see it, and my wife does not like it.

I don't see why it is such a stretch for some people to understand how a woman could be offended by her husband being sexually arouse by another women. Not only being aroused by another women, but actively searching and images of other women specifically to be sexually aroused.

I was in the Navy and I looked at pron from age 12 on up and am not against single young guys looking at the stuff. I sure did and I have no sexual disfunctions or moral issues so I am not saying it ruins you, but it does change your priorities. Not to pick on you BD, but I watched and read every post you wrote when you and Lil Momma were going through your difficult pregnancy and said a lot of prayers for your family. As soon as everything was ok, your first or one of your first non-medical update post was girly pics. Reading your post doesn't mean that I know you, but I was surprised that even the creator of the girly page to have pron such a high priority that it was right after the well being of your family.

BIG_DADDY
08-09-2007, 02:02 PM
You think there aren't any insecure men around?
I don't know which gender has more than the other and I don't really think it matters. I'll just tell from my experience, is that insecure (possessive and jealous usually) are more dangerous. Sometimes that can erupt into paranoia, stalking or even violence. No doubt there are some women that would do this too. But seems to be more prevalent around men. Must be that testorone.

Insecure men are super easy to see, they're wussymen. Stay away from them.

Phobia
08-09-2007, 02:07 PM
Little Tavis is going to create all kinds of different situations I'm sure. I just hope we maintain the very active sex life we had before. Friends say once you have a kid there is no more sex. Some complain they only get it now once every month or two. These woman are setting the groundwork that will lead to a cheating spouse. I can see why they wouldn't want their men to watch porn and get their hormones flowing seeing they have no desire to fill that need and we all know where that can lead.

Now that's just ridiculous. I think once a week is ridiculous. I actually attended a Christian marriage seminar last year with my wife where they instructed the ladies that 72 hours is the absolute longest period you should allow your husband to go without. I'm more like 48 hours, but that 72 hour guideline was money well spent. If my wife isn't up for intercourse, she'll definitely take care of my needs some other way.

KC Kings
08-09-2007, 02:07 PM
I don't think my wife is insecure. She didn't have a problem with porn in the past and she's hotter now than when I met her 10 years ago (takes better care of herself now). While it wasn't a frequent activity, we used to enjoy a little porn together even. Her values changed at some point. I've had to adjust. I'm happy to do it because my priorities are in order (now). You may find that your lady changes with time and you should be prepared to make adjustments as well - as should she when you change. It's all about compromise and communication as you well know.

You and I both had long-term relationships with live-ins before marrying them. Neither of us wanted things to change but they do, especially with the introduction of children into the mix.

I thought they called that growing up? Lie a lot of guys I spent nights puke drunk, smoking pot, or looking at pron. There comes a time in your life when some people feel like it is tome to grow up. It becomes more important to sit close to your wife and watch some dumb girly movie rather than run down to the basement and beat off in front of your computer. It becomes more important to drink soft drinks during the football game so you can run out and play ball with your kids at half time. Either you grow up or you don't. Some people don't grow up at all, some people grow up too much. It's all about finding that balance.

Phobia
08-09-2007, 02:08 PM
Insecure men are super easy to see, they're wussymen. Stay away from them.

Oh, come on. We all have our insecurities - even you. In fact, you have a lot of transparent insecurities - the most obvious of which is that you overcompensate for fear you'll be perceived as a "wussyman". We all have them and we all generally overcompensate in the area in which we're insecure.

Jilly
08-09-2007, 02:09 PM
Now that's just ridiculous. I think once a week is ridiculous. I actually attended a Christian marriage seminar last year with my wife where they instructed the ladies that 72 hours is the absolute longest period you should allow your husband to go without. I'm more like 48 hours, but that 72 hour guideline was money well spent. If my wife isn't up for intercourse, she'll definitely take care of my needs some other way.


I hope they preached that the other way around too.

Phobia
08-09-2007, 02:10 PM
I hope they preached that the other way around too.
Do you really think it's necessary? Every man I've ever known wants it as frequently as he can get it.

BIG_DADDY
08-09-2007, 02:13 PM
I won't have the pron in my house because I don't want to take any chance thay my young kids will see it, and my wife does not like it.

I don't see why it is such a stretch for some people to understand how a woman could be offended by her husband being sexually arouse by another women. Not only being aroused by another women, but actively searching and images of other women specifically to be sexually aroused.

I was in the Navy and I looked at pron from age 12 on up and am not against single young guys looking at the stuff. I sure did and I have no sexual disfunctions or moral issues so I am not saying it ruins you, but it does change your priorities. Not to pick on you BD, but I watched and read every post you wrote when you and Lil Momma were going through your difficult pregnancy and said a lot of prayers for your family. As soon as everything was ok, your first or one of your first non-medical update post was girly pics. Reading your post doesn't mean that I know you, but I was surprised that even the creator of the girly page to have pron such a high priority that it was right after the well being of your family.

It's not a priority, far from it. That's why I am getting rid of what I got and don't watch but maybe 10% of the free stuff my buddy gives me. Remember this post?
He burned some of the shit so I am not going to get busted for something stupid. I'm just giving it away to people I know. Asians are usually the ones into Asian pron. I'm thinking of a lower sushi tab about now. :hmmm: Talk about getting your money's worth. That's actually the reason I got it, I figured at that price I would probably benefit 10 fold. As it is now I have a friend that burns all the new movies which is why I had a directors cut of 300 over 2 months ago. Just got Tansformers and about 10 other movies from him yesterday. He has all the latest including pron. To be honest I don't think I have watched over 10% of the shit he has burned for me. I just don't have the time. Even if I had unlimited time I can't imagine watching over an hour of pron a week, MAX. One movie a week MAX as well.

At this point when I usually do watch TV it is MMA or something pumpkin is watching. Like BIG AIR on ESPN last night, friggen amazing.

Our family has been blessed no doubt from pops to lil momma and baby Travis. I still pray all the time. My general belief when it comes to religion is not what you would call by the book at all, but that is another subject. You are judging me based upon a set of parameters you hold personally.

BIG_DADDY
08-09-2007, 02:13 PM
Now that's just ridiculous. I think once a week is ridiculous. I actually attended a Christian marriage seminar last year with my wife where they instructed the ladies that 72 hours is the absolute longest period you should allow your husband to go without. I'm more like 48 hours, but that 72 hour guideline was money well spent. If my wife isn't up for intercourse, she'll definitely take care of my needs some other way.

Yep

Jenson71
08-09-2007, 02:15 PM
Alvy's Therapist: How often do you sleep together?
Alvy: Hardly ever. Maybe three times a week.

Annie's Therapist: Do you have sex often?
Annie [annoyed]: Constantly. I'd say three times a week.

BucEyedPea
08-09-2007, 02:16 PM
Insecure men are super easy to see, they're wussymen. Stay away from them.
Not all of them are. Some are full of worthless macho bravado or overconfidence. They can be controlling and some violent. Some are the opposite and can be wussy. I've been with the former kind.

KC Kings
08-09-2007, 02:16 PM
Do you really think it's necessary? Every man I've ever known wants it as frequently as he can get it.

TMI

BIG_DADDY
08-09-2007, 02:18 PM
I thought they called that growing up? Lie a lot of guys I spent nights puke drunk, smoking pot, or looking at pron. There comes a time in your life when some people feel like it is tome to grow up. It becomes more important to sit close to your wife and watch some dumb girly movie rather than run down to the basement and beat off in front of your computer. It becomes more important to drink soft drinks during the football game so you can run out and play ball with your kids at half time. Either you grow up or you don't. Some people don't grow up at all, some people grow up too much. It's all about finding that balance.

Once again you are judging others based upon the parameters you define as growing up. I have no idea how we will watch pron moving forward, obviously the kid changes everything. Beating off in front of your computer in the basement? LMAO OK You can't have a couple drinks and still play ball with your kid? :spock:

I agree that priorities change. I will drink way less as an example but I am not necessarily buying your parameters.

BIG_DADDY
08-09-2007, 02:20 PM
Not all of them are. Some are full of worthless macho bravado or overconfidence. They can be controlling and some violent. Some are the opposite and can be wussy. I've been with the former kind.

He was a wussyman too, you just bought his faulse advertising. That's why women continue to test their men throughout the years to see if they came as advertised. I know you know what I'm talking about.

Phobia
08-09-2007, 02:21 PM
Once again you are judging others based upon the parameters you define as growing up.

More transparent insecurity, Wussyboy. I don't think anything about either of his posts was judgemental.

BIG_DADDY
08-09-2007, 02:27 PM
More transparent insecurity, Wussyboy. I don't think anything about either of his posts was judgemental.

LMAO He certainly seems to have his parameters.

Donger
08-09-2007, 02:27 PM
Little Tavis is going to create all kinds of different situations I'm sure. I just hope we maintain the very active sex life we had before. Friends say once you have a kid there is no more sex. Some complain they only get it now once every month or two. These woman are setting the groundwork that will lead to a cheating spouse. I can see why they wouldn't want their men to watch porn and get their hormones flowing seeing they have no desire to fill that need and we all know where that can lead.

You're in for a fun ride.

BIG_DADDY
08-09-2007, 02:28 PM
You're in for a fun ride.

I am so stoked to be a dad I can't even tell you. I was soooooooo ready.

Donger
08-09-2007, 02:29 PM
I am so stoked to be a dad I can't even tell you. I was soooooooo ready.

Well, that's good. I just wonder if you are ready for the changes that are coming.

melbar
08-09-2007, 02:31 PM
my wife and I will put it on for something fun while were messing around, but she understands that sometimes the poison just has to come out. Sometimes she has to click the mouse and I have no problem with that. We dont cheat, and we dont get crazy with it so wheres the harm if you trust each other? Its fun!

BIG_DADDY
08-09-2007, 02:31 PM
Well, that's good. I just wonder if you are ready for the changes that are coming.

If you're refering to sex once every 60 days then no. I'm ready for anything else.

Donger
08-09-2007, 02:32 PM
If you're refering to sex once every 60 days then no. I'm ready for anything else.

And what would you do if you and your wife's sexual activity does decline to that frequency?

KC Kings
08-09-2007, 02:34 PM
It's not a priority, far from it. That's why I am getting rid of what I got and don't watch but maybe 10% of the free stuff my buddy gives me. Remember this post?


Our family has been blessed no doubt from pops to lil momma and baby Travis. I still pray all the time. My general belief when it comes to religion is not what you would call by the book at all, but that is another subject. You are judging me based upon a set of parameters you hold personally.


Everybody has morals and a great definition of morals is "a set of paremeters you hold personally". While I may be judging you based on my morals, I think everybody does that. We all size ourselves up with the next person, and as you grow up you see disirable traits in other men that begin to emulate and become part of your morals. My dad worked 80 hours a week and never spent time with us kids. I saw his actions, saw other dads who put their family first, and made a decision to never put work before family. Who will be better off in the end? Who knows, but by judging other men I made many decisions in lifestyle changes that I think will make me a better man/father/husband.

There are plenty of bad men, fathers, etc... that don't watch pron, and I am not saying that I think you are worse than me or I better than you because of our pron involvment. You brought up subject, and a lot of guys have used other people as excuses as to why they don't use it. I am not going to hide behind my kids who shouldn't see it or my wife who is offended by it. I don't look at the pron because morally I think it is wrong to actively seek ways to be sexually aroused by women other than my wife.

Phobia
08-09-2007, 02:34 PM
And what would you do if you and your wife's sexual activity does decline to that frequency?
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BIG_DADDY
08-09-2007, 02:35 PM
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LMAO

Jilly
08-09-2007, 02:36 PM
Do you really think it's necessary? Every man I've ever known wants it as frequently as he can get it.

yes, I do. I think it's necessary in that women are told to gratify their men to a point of pleasure and climax to keep them happy and from straying...I just think the same should hold true for men. Without getting too technical, I think part of the reason some women are uninterested in sex is because they don't get to climax on a regular basis and I believe that if it is your wife's responsibility to see to it that a man's needs are taken care of in a 72 hour time frame or less, then it is his responsibility to reciprocate, correct me if I'm wrong, but I'm not sure this happens 100% of the time.

BIG_DADDY
08-09-2007, 02:37 PM
Everybody has morals and a great definition of morals is "a set of paremeters you hold personally". While I may be judging you based on my morals, I think everybody does that. We all size ourselves up with the next person, and as you grow up you see disirable traits in other men that begin to emulate and become part of your morals. My dad worked 80 hours a week and never spent time with us kids. I saw his actions, saw other dads who put their family first, and made a decision to never put work before family. Who will be better off in the end? Who knows, but by judging other men I made many decisions in lifestyle changes that I think will make me a better man/father/husband.

There are plenty of bad men, fathers, etc... that don't watch pron, and I am not saying that I think you are worse than me or I better than you because of our pron involvment. You brought up subject, and a lot of guys have used other people as excuses as to why they don't use it. I am not going to hide behind my kids who shouldn't see it or my wife who is offended by it. I don't look at the pron because morally I think it is wrong to actively seek ways to be sexually aroused by women other than my wife.

And I respect your decision being that is the case.

Phobia
08-09-2007, 02:39 PM
yes, I do. I think it's necessary in that women are told to gratify their men to a point of pleasure and climax to keep them happy and from straying...I just think the same should hold true for men. Without getting too technical, I think part of the reason some women are uninterested in sex is because they don't get to climax on a regular basis and I believe that if it is your wife's responsibility to see to it that a man's needs are taken care of in a 72 hour time frame or less, then it is his responsibility to reciprocate, correct me if I'm wrong, but I'm not sure this happens 100% of the time.

Oh. Yes, that was taught evenly then. The women were split into one large room and the men in another. The men were actually introduced to the clitoris. Heh. They also taught against the pron too - said it creates unhealthy expectations for men.

KC Kings
08-09-2007, 02:40 PM
I am so stoked to be a dad I can't even tell you. I was soooooooo ready.
My oldest is 7, and before he was a year old I had him a bar on base in Norfolk because that was the only place you could watch the Chiefs game. It was more of a bar and grill, but the point is that I have grown up, or my morals have changed, and I would never think about taking my 10 month old to a bar.

You should come back to this post and see how much your actions, or morals change over the next 7 years of being a father. Can you drink a few and still play catch? Sure, but when you really love being a father it is more fun going out a playing catch than it is to drink. Not saying that I never have a beer, but drinking during a game is the lowest of priorities, and creating/keeping up family traditions has become a priority. I now have so many other priorities, things like pron aren't even on the radar.

BIG_DADDY
08-09-2007, 02:41 PM
And what would you do if you and your wife's sexual activity does decline to that frequency?

Most men either cheat, quit having sex or get a divorce. I think you would try to rekindle the fire. If that doesn't work you need to look at the alternatives. I want my family to stay together but not having regular sex is completely unacceptable.

Donger
08-09-2007, 02:44 PM
Most men either cheat, quit having sex or get a divorce. I think you would try to rekindle the fire. If that doesn't work you need to look at the alternatives. I want my family to stay together but not having regular sex is completely unacceptable.

For most couples, having children adjusts priorities. For instance, most new mothers tend to view their children as highest priority. The husband/father becomes a provider first, and a lover second.

Some men can handle that adjustment. Others cannot.

BIG_DADDY
08-09-2007, 02:50 PM
For most couples, having children adjusts priorities. For instance, most new mothers tend to view their children as highest priority. The husband/father becomes a provider first, and a lover second.

Some men can handle that adjustment. Others cannot.

There is the period where her body needs to get back to normal for sure. Once you're there though you should be good to go. Your child being the priority first goes without saying. There is still no reason why you can't be tearing it up. That becomes and excuse at some point. My friends say get ready but I'm not worried. I will be shocked if there is an issue considering our sexual appetite before pregnancy.

Donger
08-09-2007, 02:53 PM
There is the period where her body needs to get back to normal for sure. Once you're there though you should be good to go. Your child being the priority first goes without saying. There is still no reason why you can't be tearing it up. That becomes and excuse at some point. My friends say get ready but I'm not worried. I will be shocked if there is an issue considering our sexual appetite before pregnancy.

Some of it, perhaps most of it, is simply the amount of time and energy that mothers put in. I was clueless about how hard they work before we had kids.

Unless your wife is very unusual, your sexual activity WILL decrease compared to before children.

Chiefnj2
08-09-2007, 02:54 PM
They also taught against the pron too - said it creates unhealthy expectations for men.

Does it work in reverse? Do women get unrealistic expectations watching Lex Steele?

Phobia
08-09-2007, 02:56 PM
Does it work in reverse? Do women get unrealistic expectations watching Lex Steele?

Well, my wife doesn't but maybe others do.

BIG_DADDY
08-09-2007, 02:57 PM
Some of it, perhaps most of it, is simply the amount of time and energy that mothers put in. I was clueless about how hard they work before we had kids.

Unless your wife is very unusual, your sexual activity WILL decrease compared to before children.

As long as I'm getting it a couple times a week minimum no problem.

Jilly
08-09-2007, 02:58 PM
Does it work in reverse? Do women get unrealistic expectations watching Lex Steele?

I'm not sure that many women want it that big.

BIG_DADDY
08-09-2007, 03:03 PM
yes, I do. I think it's necessary in that women are told to gratify their men to a point of pleasure and climax to keep them happy and from straying...I just think the same should hold true for men. Without getting too technical, I think part of the reason some women are uninterested in sex is because they don't get to climax on a regular basis and I believe that if it is your wife's responsibility to see to it that a man's needs are taken care of in a 72 hour time frame or less, then it is his responsibility to reciprocate, correct me if I'm wrong, but I'm not sure this happens 100% of the time.

It should.

Adept Havelock
08-09-2007, 03:05 PM
Does it work in reverse? Do women get unrealistic expectations watching Lex Steele?

Isn't that the guy who posts here as Finch83 (formerly fightclub83)?

BIG_DADDY
08-09-2007, 03:22 PM
I think it is wrong to actively seek ways to be sexually aroused by women other than my wife.

Funny, I remember lil momma saying she liked it when I watched porn because she received all the benefits. Different way of looking at it I guess.



Unless your wife is very unusual, your sexual activity WILL decrease compared to before children.

The benefits of pron. In your thread if you recall I told you about a friend of mine that was bitching that he never got any. His wife also disapproved of pron. I bought them the playboy channel. At first she was all pissed off but now they watch it after the kids are in bed and their sexual life is much more active. She even thanked me.

Redrum_69
08-09-2007, 03:28 PM
yes, I do. I think it's necessary in that women are told to gratify their men to a point of pleasure and climax to keep them happy and from straying...I just think the same should hold true for men. Without getting too technical, I think part of the reason some women are uninterested in sex is because they don't get to climax on a regular basis and I believe that if it is your wife's responsibility to see to it that a man's needs are taken care of in a 72 hour time frame or less, then it is his responsibility to reciprocate, correct me if I'm wrong, but I'm not sure this happens 100% of the time.


you must be ugly

Demonpenz
08-09-2007, 03:31 PM
porn sets the wrong standard for woman and date flicks set an unatainable standard for men

Jilly
08-09-2007, 03:39 PM
you must be ugly

wtf?

(i wasn't even speaking to my own circumstances)

BIG_DADDY
08-09-2007, 03:41 PM
porn sets the wrong standard for woman and date flicks set an unatainable standard for men

Standard?

Sure-Oz
08-09-2007, 03:44 PM
My gf doesn't care for it and i don't need pr0n to be honest, cause my gf rocks. :thumb:

BucEyedPea
08-09-2007, 05:01 PM
He was a wussyman too, you just bought his faulse advertising. That's why women continue to test their men throughout the years to see if they came as advertised. I know you know what I'm talking about.
I have a written exam I require to be taken once a year with a series of practical excercise in it. I time it too.

BIG_DADDY
08-09-2007, 05:09 PM
I have a written exam I require to be taken once a year with a series of practical excercise in it. I time it too.

LMAO I know you do girl. LMAO Bet that exam has gotten a lot tougher since the last one slipped through undetected. :D

Rain Man
08-09-2007, 06:18 PM
My gf doesn't care for it and i don't need pr0n to be honest, cause my gf rocks. :thumb:

Can your girlfriend transmogrify from asian to blonde to petite to busty, and also do threesomes with other women? If so, she's a keeper.

dtebbe
08-09-2007, 07:22 PM
My gf doesn't care for it and i don't need pr0n to be honest, cause my gf rocks. :thumb:

Take my advice, don't marry her.

DT

blueballs
08-09-2007, 07:24 PM
without porn
some women wouldn't get any

Rain Man
08-09-2007, 07:33 PM
Never marry a woman who:

1. Idolizes her father.
2. Doesn't like porn.
3. Takes more than 20 minutes to get ready to go out.
4. Has chopped off the genitals of a man in the past.
5. Whose Number 1 priority is to have children.
6. Knows what a meth lab looks like.
7. Is actively working as a prostitute or stripper.
8. Is known by her friends and/or local law enforcement as "the black widow".
9. Watches any kind of mainstream porn and says, "Ewww, I would never do that."
10. Wants to live close to her parents.

Amnorix
08-09-2007, 07:37 PM
For most couples, having children adjusts priorities. For instance, most new mothers tend to view their children as highest priority. The husband/father becomes a provider first, and a lover second.

Some men can handle that adjustment. Others cannot.

Yes, right. The biggest adjustment is going from being the most important person in your wife's universe, to being CLEARLY the second most important.

One big thing about the reduction in sex is the sheer fact of TIREDNESS. I honestly think that the guy should do whatever he can to make sure his wife gets enough rest and isn't constantly getting up in the middle of the night, etc.

Basically, imagine this wailing creature constantly sucking on your tits all day (not in a fun way), causing you to lose sleep night after night, and then your husband is like "want to get it on?" It's not easy.

Early on, sex just ain't going to be high on her priority list. Figuring out how to adjust to the new situation is. Give everything a while to settle down, and everyone a chance to adjust, before gettng upset about the inevitable INITIAL reduction in sexual activity.

Silock
08-10-2007, 12:19 AM
This is why my wife and I aren't having kids. We like sex too much.

luv
08-10-2007, 12:24 AM
Never marry a woman who:

1. Idolizes her father.
2. Doesn't like porn.
3. Takes more than 20 minutes to get ready to go out.
4. Has chopped off the genitals of a man in the past.
5. Whose Number 1 priority is to have children.
6. Knows what a meth lab looks like.
7. Is actively working as a prostitute or stripper.
8. Is known by her friends and/or local law enforcement as "the black widow".
9. Watches any kind of mainstream porn and says, "Ewww, I would never do that."
10. Wants to live close to her parents.
Does being close to your dad mean you idolize him?

Fish
08-10-2007, 12:25 AM
Yes, right. The biggest adjustment is going from being the most important person in your wife's universe, to being CLEARLY the second most important.

One big thing about the reduction in sex is the sheer fact of TIREDNESS. I honestly think that the guy should do whatever he can to make sure his wife gets enough rest and isn't constantly getting up in the middle of the night, etc.

Basically, imagine this wailing creature constantly sucking on your tits all day (not in a fun way), causing you to lose sleep night after night, and then your husband is like "want to get it on?" It's not easy.

Early on, sex just ain't going to be high on her priority list. Figuring out how to adjust to the new situation is. Give everything a while to settle down, and everyone a chance to adjust, before gettng upset about the inevitable INITIAL reduction in sexual activity.

Please... tell us about your vagina... :D

ChiefFan31
08-10-2007, 01:59 AM
Have not read the thread as it might have been mentioned but...

No Andy! I don't want your Big box of PORN!!

BIG_DADDY
08-10-2007, 09:42 AM
Yes, right. The biggest adjustment is going from being the most important person in your wife's universe, to being CLEARLY the second most important.

One big thing about the reduction in sex is the sheer fact of TIREDNESS. I honestly think that the guy should do whatever he can to make sure his wife gets enough rest and isn't constantly getting up in the middle of the night, etc.

Basically, imagine this wailing creature constantly sucking on your tits all day (not in a fun way), causing you to lose sleep night after night, and then your husband is like "want to get it on?" It's not easy.

Early on, sex just ain't going to be high on her priority list. Figuring out how to adjust to the new situation is. Give everything a while to settle down, and everyone a chance to adjust, before gettng upset about the inevitable INITIAL reduction in sexual activity.

I'm fine. I take over night duty on weekends but am at work during the week. My friends were the ones who were bitching about having hardly any sex after kids. Their little ones are WAY past breast feeding or getting up in the middle of the night delio. What's amazing to me is that each one of these women all are in phenominal shape and work out hard daily keeping them attractive. For some reason after they had one or two kids their desire for sex dropped BIG TIME permanently, or so it appears. I think it goes without saying that there are going to be issues right after having a kid, that goes without saying. These guys are in great shape too though and have women interested in them all the time, it's arecipe for disaster if you ask me. Fortunately they have all remain married to this day.

BIG_DADDY
08-10-2007, 09:43 AM
Never marry a woman who:

1. Idolizes her father.
2. Doesn't like porn.
3. Takes more than 20 minutes to get ready to go out.
4. Has chopped off the genitals of a man in the past.
5. Whose Number 1 priority is to have children.
6. Knows what a meth lab looks like.
7. Is actively working as a prostitute or stripper.
8. Is known by her friends and/or local law enforcement as "the black widow".
9. Watches any kind of mainstream porn and says, "Ewww, I would never do that."
10. Wants to live close to her parents.

LMAO Great post Rain Man!! :thumb:

Fire Me Boy!
08-10-2007, 09:56 AM
Never marry a woman who:

1. Idolizes her father.
2. Doesn't like porn.
3. Takes more than 20 minutes to get ready to go out.
4. Has chopped off the genitals of a man in the past.
5. Whose Number 1 priority is to have children.
6. Knows what a meth lab looks like.
7. Is actively working as a prostitute or stripper.
8. Is known by her friends and/or local law enforcement as "the black widow".
9. Watches any kind of mainstream porn and says, "Ewww, I would never do that."
10. Wants to live close to her parents.
My wife is only one of the 10. So what's the success rate there, Rain Man?

Perhaps you can put it in a spreadsheet for me.

BIG_DADDY
08-10-2007, 09:58 AM
My wife is only one of the 10. So what's the success rate there, Rain Man?

Perhaps you can put it in a spreadsheet for me.

Your wife works as a prostitute or stripper?

Fire Me Boy!
08-10-2007, 10:03 AM
Your wife works as a prostitute or stripper?
ROFL

No. 9. And I'm having a hard time with that one, because it would kinda depend on your definition of "mainstream" pron. What she was talking about may not be truly mainstream.

BucEyedPea
08-10-2007, 10:06 AM
Yes, right. The biggest adjustment is going from being the most important person in your wife's universe, to being CLEARLY the second most important.
What if the man is in love with his daughter and forgets he has a wife?
No more b'day gifts, not more xmas presents even.

Rain Man
08-10-2007, 06:25 PM
ROFL

No. 9. And I'm having a hard time with that one, because it would kinda depend on your definition of "mainstream" pron. What she was talking about may not be truly mainstream.

I'll need more details before I can give you your spreadsheet.

Rain Man
08-10-2007, 06:27 PM
Does being close to your dad mean you idolize him?

Two independent variables, though the second is likely largely a subset of the first. However, you have to be careful about violating Reason 10.