RIP Emersyn

[Phobia]

As many of you know my wife and I have been expecting a child for many months. She came on Thursday. She had died in the womb sometime in the past 3 or 4 days, unfortunately.

Please keep my family in your thoughts and prayers in the coming days and weeks. "Pink" is handling it remarkably well, shocking though it was.

It's somewhat strange for me, sharing such a deeply personal thing with my online friends - though the distinction is blurred because many of you are personal friends whether we've met face-to-face or merely here on the internets.

I know many of you will want to know if there's anything you can do to help. There is. If you could each volunteer to mow my lawn at least once, I'll be able to sell my mower and never have to worry about that task again in my lifetime. Thanks in advance.

[007]

As you already know. You have our prayers.

[DaneMcCloud]

I'm absolutely speechless.

I wish nothing but the best for you and your family in these times.

[jjchieffan]

My condolences Phil. I will remember your family in my prayers. In fact, I said one for you as soon as I read the post.

[Huffman83]

My sympathy to you and your wife.

[Silock]

Wow, dude... that's terrible :(

So sorry to hear!

I wish you guys the best, and hope you come through it all without too much lasting damage.

[Kraus]

Sorry to hear that man, you have my sympathies.

['Hamas' Jenkins]

Deepest condolences to your family.

[Mosbonian]

Phil:

You have my deepest condolences.....i will keep you and Pink in our thoughts and prayers.

mmaddog
*******

[kcxiv]

That sucks man. Sorry about that. I kinda went through that, the only thing is i didnt really know anything until she went to the doctors it was really early in the cycle. Still sucked, but its life man. Will throw out a prayer tonight for ya.

[booger]

Shocking........I can't ever come up with the right words or things to say in these situations.

I will think of you and yours in my thoughts and prayers. Keep family and close ones close in the days to come.

God Bless.

[Abba-Dabba]

condolences

[Phobia]

That sucks man. Sorry about that. I kinda went through that, the only thing is i didnt really know anything until she went to the doctors it was really early in the cycle. Still sucked, but its life man. Will throw out a prayer tonight for ya.

We've had both. Miscarriage was tough last year but to carry a baby nearly full-term and then be stillborn is a completely different thing.

I know I'm hurting but that my wife is feeling it well beyond my comprehension because nothing compares to that maternal bond - nothing. I'll need to be especially sensitive to her needs and emotions for a very long time, no doubt.

[ClevelandBronco]

I can't tell you how sorry I am to hear this. Of course you and Pink — especially Pink — will be included in my prayers.

-----

Greg Lopez was a columnist at the Rocky Mountain News. He was a friend, because he was a friend to everyone he ever met.

He was killed tragically in an automobile accident in 1996. This is a column from 1994.

(Forgive me for any typos. This isn't available on the Web, so I'm typing it in.)

-----

A ROSE FOR A DAUGHTER WHO WON'T GROW UP

DENVER — In the baby section of Foley's in the Cherry Creek mall, there are four racks of white dresses for baby girls.

We had been to all of the other stores with baby sections in the mall that Sunday afternoon and looked at all of the other racks of white dresses for baby girls. We were looking for a white dress for ours. At 9:27 the night before in St. Joseph's Hospital, she had been stillborn.

I pulled a white dress with a tiny pink rose stitched on the collar out of the middle of the rack, and when I turned around my wife was standing three racks over and holding up the same dress.

"We found it," my wife said.

The baby was due Oct. 27.

The doctor who delivered her after 16 hours of induced labor said the umbilical cord was around her neck.

We named her Mary.

The week before, I had promised to move the record albums to the basement that weekend. The curtains were supposed to be hung that Wednesday, but we had been told there was a problem with the fabric and they wouldn't be ready until next week. We looked at cribs Thursday night.

When we got home that Sunday afternoon, the book was on the bed where my wife had left it Friday morning, open to the section "I can't detect any movement. Is something wrong?"

She was 4 pounds, 11 ounces and 21 inches long. She had her mother's mouth. Even the nurse said she had huge hands and feet. "I would have had to make her practice piano," my wife said.

When we picked out a silver frame for the footprints, the saleswoman asked, "Your first?"

"Yes," I said.

"I could tell," the saleswoman said. "By the second or the third, most people just stick the footprints away in a drawer."

The morning of the funeral, I pruned the roses we planted in the spring. It was something to do. It was the only thing I could think of to do, because the lawn had been mowed twice in the same day while we were in the hospital, once by a friend, and once by my father.

I cut off a pink rose that had bloomed and faded, and a rosebud that almost was ready to bloom fell to the ground.

All week, friends and family had flown in, called, come over, sent a stack of cards and flowers that covered every flat surface. Almost all of them said there was nothing they could say. Some had gone on to say there must be a reason these things happen.

You can choose to believe that or not, but you can't choose when you will believe it and when you won't.

I picked up the pink rosebud and took it inside the house.

"It's perfect," my wife said.

It was in the casket when Mary was buried in the white dress with the pink rose stitched on the collar.

Rocky Mountain News
Sept. 15, 1994

[Phobia]

CB - thanks for typing that out, bro. I know I'm not the only person to ever go through this and I know that life will go on but since many of we humans are self-centered creatures I'm feeling a little bit lonely in my grief. That article captures the author's feelings and is anecdotal at the same time. It's perfect.

I presume part of the healing process may include sharing in our little newspaper, for both myself and my wife. I'm hopeful that perhaps our words will be of similar comfort to some grieving couple in the future.

[FAX]

Dang, Mr. Phobia. I'm very sorry to hear this. Very sorry, indeed.

Were I anywhere near your neighborhood, I'd probably come by and mow your lawn.

FAX

[ClevelandBronco]

CB - thanks for typing that out, bro. I know I'm not the only person to ever go through this and I know that life will go on but since many of we humans are self-centered creatures I'm feeling a little bit lonely in my grief. That article captures the author's feelings and is anecdotal at the same time. It's perfect.

I presume part of the healing process may include sharing in our little newspaper, for both myself and my wife. I'm hopeful that perhaps our words will be of similar comfort to some grieving couple in the future.

As I was typing it out I was as choked up as I was when I first read it.

Then the parallels started to show through. The rosebud was pink. He mentioned his lawn being mowed twice. At first I wondered whether I should have submitted it, but once I was done typing it I was certain that I should.

You're not alone by any means, Phobia. The praying or otherwise caring people here all have your back.

It's a strange model of a community that's been built here, but it's a community that always seems to be ready to rally around those of us who need encouragement and support. That's just one of the reasons I really love this place.

God bless you, Pink and Emersyn.

[kcxiv]

We've had both. Miscarriage was tough last year but to carry a baby nearly full-term and then be stillborn is a completely different thing.

I know I'm hurting but that my wife is feeling it well beyond my comprehension because nothing compares to that maternal bond - nothing. I'll need to be especially sensitive to her needs and emotions for a very long time, no doubt.

That sucks. :( There's not much anyone can do but say hang in there man. The way i see it is, life is a bitch, but other people have it worse. Thats how i see the light at the end of tunnels. I guess different people get through stuff differently.

[FAX]

The community not only "rallies" in support of a fellow Planeteer when needs must, but after the events of the past months, I am convinced that the sincere, authentic prayers and positive, constructive thoughts and hopes of the Planeteers can actually affect certain outcomes. I know it sounds strange, but I have come to believe that it is true.

FAX

[btlook1]

Condolences and good thoughts for your family!

[kstater]

I'm really sorry to hear that. My deepest condolences to you and your family.

[keg in kc]

So sorry to hear that Phil.

[oaklandhater]

My Condolences phob me and my ex wife had the same thing a few years ago :(

[Fairplay]

My deepest condolences to you and your loved ones Phobia.

[TEX]

Sorry and shocked to hear that Phil. I wish you and your family the best.

Take care friend.
Steve

[Fire Me Boy!]

You've got it.

[Programmer]

Really sorry for your loss.

We will pray for your family.

[Friendo]

pretty name, for I'm sure, a pretty Soul--my condolences Phil

[ChiefsFan4Life]

Sorry for your loss Phobia, that has to be tough. I wish you the best in getting through it.

[Al Bundy]

Shoot Phobia, I'm sorry for you and the Mrs. loss, my condolences.

[NewChief]

Phil,

Your family will be in my family's prayers.

[Braincase]

Prayers for you and your wife.

[Rukdafaidas]

Phobia, I'm sorry to hear about your loss. You and your family will be in my prayers.

[OnTheWarpath15]

I can't begin to imagine the pain you, Pink and the family are in, Phil. Sal and I are absolutely crushed - and I'm not too "macho" to say it, but I'm in tears as I type this...

We've said a prayer for you this morning, and will continue to keep you in our thoughts and prayers.

And I know it's cliche, but I know you'll know it's sincere - but if you guys need ANYTHING - and I mean ANYTHING - let us know.

Love, thoughts and prayers -

C & S

[OmahaChief]

Phobia

My deepest heartfelt sympathy for you and you family. You are in our prayers.

[2112]

My condolences, Phobia. thoughts and prayers for you, Pink and your entire family.

[luv]

So sorry to hear, Phil.

[the Talking Can]

terribly sorry to hear this phil...

my step-father and his wife lost two babies in the same way, but eventually had two beautiful children...

[Iowanian]

I can't imagine. The condolences of my family.


Wiping off cheerio guts and the milky spitup on my work shirt as I'm heading out, seem much less of a chore today.

[Stewie]

Sorry to hear this Phil. Prayers your way.

[bkkcoh]

Sorry to hear about your loss.

Can't help you with the lawn, maybe I can send my teenage boys over to do so though.

[cookster50]

My condolences, kind of makes people arguing about the Chiefs seem a little silly right now...

[BigRedChief]

My wife and I have had to endure 3 miscarriages. We never made it as far as long as Pink was so that has to 10X worse.

Theres nothing that can make it go away only time will make the hurt lessen somewhat.

Sending positive thoughts your way.

[KcMizzou]

Ugh... Really sorry to hear that.

[mlyonsd]

Wow, that's tough Phil. Prayers to you and Pink.

[bringbackmarty]

God bless, and godspeed Emersyn. God bless you and yours, phil.

[ROYC75]

We are sorry to hear of this Phil........ Our thoughts and prayers are with all of you.

Can do nothing on the mowing part, cost me too much to ride my mower that far ......... :D

[Dartgod]

Phil - I'm very sorry to hear this news. I can't begin to imagine what you and Pink are going through. Please know that Sophie and I will pray for your family. Let me know if there is anything I can do to help out, we're not that far away.

And, no, I will not mow your lawn.

[Old Dog]

Prayers for you and Pink.

[Chiefs_Mike_Topeka]

Phobia,

All thoughts and prayers to you and your family. If there is anything I can do for you let me know, advice or anything. Please don't be afraid to talk openly about it; trust me, it helps.

[Delano]

Oh wow. Obviously words can't express the feelings of sympathy this group has for the Klosters.

Sorry..

[ottawa_chiefs_fan]

Tears reading this..God Bless....

[Phobia]

Phil - I'm very sorry to hear this news. I can't begin to imagine what you and Pink are going through. Please know that Sophie and I will pray for your family. Let me know if there is anything I can do to help out, we're not that far away.

And, no, I will not mow your lawn.

Badgirl told me you had one of those underwater lawnmowers. I thought for sure I could count on you.

[alanm]

Sorry to hear of your loss Phil. My thoughts and prayers are with you and Pink.

[PhillyChiefFan]

I am very sorry for your family's loss. You all are in my thoughts and prayers. God bless.

[WilliamTheIrish]

Sorry to hear this Phil and family. I wish you all the best in your time of grief.

[Simply Red]

whatever, whenever, you need ANYTHING, I think you know to call!

My god, man, I'm totally sorry!

[chief52]

My thoughts are with you and Pink, Phil.

Hang in there...

'52

[MOhillbilly]

Regards phobia

[Buehler445]

Hey Phob. That is terrible. You got prayers, man. That part I can do. Great job in recognizing that Pink will need emotional support from you.

[Sure-Oz]

Sorry to hear phil, my thoughts are with you and your family!

[J Diddy]

sorry man.

[Chiefnj2]

So sorry.

[Bugeater]

Phil, when I informed Amy of the situation this morning she was devastated for you two, she sends her condolences along with mine, neither of us can possibly imagine what you are going thru.

[Brock]

Sorry, Phil.

[Fat Elvis]

God Bless you, Pink, and the rest of your family.

[DaFace]

Damn, man, that's rough. You're in my thoughts.

I've worked with a group out here that specifically provides support for people in your situation, and I'd imagine there would be something similar in KC. If you're interested, shoot me a PM and I'll see what I can find.

[Bwana]

Damn Phil, I'm sorry to hear about your loss buddy. You will be in our thoughts and prayers.

[seclark]

thoughts and prayers, phil.
sec

[Frazod]

Very sorry to hear this, Phil. My best to both of you. :(

[stumppy]

I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

[MVChiefFan]

You and your family are in my prayers, for sure.

[KCFalcon59]

Very sad. Thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.

[Nzoner]

I'm not embarrassed to say it either as I'm shedding a few tears typing this because I've seen first hand time and again what great parents you and Pink are.

Phil I can't express how sorry I am for you guys and I know that you both know that somewhere in all this craziness God has a plan.

Thoughts and prayers to you and you've got my number if you need anything.

[Rain Man]

Gosh, I'm sure sorry to hear that. I don't have children, so I probably don't know the feelings involved, but I hope you recover quickly.

[Pennywise]

Sorry for your loss Phil.

If I lived within a 100 miles you could consider your yard mowed.

I too think God has a plan and I'm sure its too early while in the grieving process, but maybe you will get that linebacker yet.

[Bweb]

I am sorry for your lost. My family and my family send you our prayers.

[Mr. Plow]

I've been through something similar. Prayers are with you and the Mrs. and for the baby.

[Reaper16]

You and Pink will absolutely be in my thoughts and prayers. My deepest condolences.

[Warrior5]

Phobia,
Thanks for sharing this... it must be tough. You and are your family are covered in prayer.

[crazycoffey]

Sad news, sorry to hear,
thoughts and prayers to you and yours....

[RJ]

Damn Phil, I am so sorry to hear that. My condolences to you and especially to your wife, I know she must be hurting. As much as we fathers love our children we can never know the feeling of having that life grow within us. All the best to both of you.

[Extra Point]

So sorry for your family's great loss.

[ExtremeChief]

Sorry Phil. As you know we went through the same thing a couple of years ago. There is nothing anyone can say to make it better, especially for Pink. You know Melissa and I love you both and you will be in our prayers.

[boogblaster]

Damit man, the Boogs are feeling for you ...

[morphius]

I'm truly sorry for your loss Phil, I couldn't imagine. Pink and the rest of your family will be in our thoughts and prayers.

[1ChiefsDan]

So sorry to hear. Prayers sent your way.

[tooge]

There are certainly no words that can make anything better right now. Just know that we are with you in thoughts and prayers. Our deepest condolenses to you both.

[burt]

I am saddened deeply by this news. My prayers and thoughts, wo to you as well as me and my mower. Just let me know when, and I will be there!

[Lzen]

Wow, that's tough, Phil. Prayers for you guys.

[DomCasual]

Man, that's awful. God bless you and your wife.

[Frankie]

Wow phob, I'm so sorry about this. Wish you and your wife well. I still have the picture of your last newborn on my hard disk. Amazing picture.

[KC Dan]

Damn Phil, I am so sorry to hear this news. Please give my condolances to Pink and I hope that you both heal quickly.

[Phobia]

Wow phob, I'm so sorry about this. Wish you and your wife well. I still have the picture of your last newborn on my hard disk. Amazing picture.

She's been a source of strength and joy throughout this ordeal too. You wouldn't believe she's 5 going on 12 already. This is hard enough. I can't imagine the pain involved in losing a child you've raised. Those people - like Mike - have it a whole lot worse than my family.

[Jewish Rabbi]

Yes sir

[Mr. Kotter]

As many of you know my wife and I have been expecting a child for many months. She came on Thursday. She had died in the womb sometime in the past 3 or 4 days, unfortunately.

Please keep my family in your thoughts and prayers in the coming days and weeks. "Pink" is handling it remarkably well, shocking though it was.

It's somewhat strange for me, sharing such a deeply personal thing with my online friends - though the distinction is blurred because many of you are personal friends whether we've met face-to-face or merely here on the internets.

I know many of you will want to know if there's anything you can do to help. There is. If you could each volunteer to mow my lawn at least once, I'll be able to sell my mower and never have to worry about that task again in my lifetime. Thanks in advance.

I'm so sorry for you and Pink, Phil. I think you'll recall my wife and I went through a similar experience with our miracle "fifth" child. Don't hesitate to get a hold of me, if you wanna talk. As for the mowing, I'm allergic to grass, man....sorry. Take care of yourself and your family though, bud.

Rob

[luv]

She's been a source of strength and joy throughout this ordeal too. You wouldn't believe she's 5 going on 12 already. This is hard enough. I can't imagine the pain involved in losing a child you've raised. Those people - like Mike - have it a whole lot worse than my family.

Just wait until she's 8 going on 16. :)

[kepp]

Wow, Phil. I'm so sorry to hear that. Your family is in my prayers.

[grandllama]

Phil,

I'm so sorry for you and Pink. Your family is in our prayers

Rob

[Al Czervik]

Phobia,

Prayers for you and your wife...

[Duck Dog]

I'm very sorry to hear this news. Positive thoughts are with you.

My wife goes in for a C section on Tuesday the 16th.

[PastorMikH]

I'm sorry to hear your news Phil. Your family will be in our prayers.

[mikeyis4dcats.]

sorry to hear that Phil

[Dave Lane]

As many of you know my wife and I have been expecting a child for many months. She came on Thursday. She had died in the womb sometime in the past 3 or 4 days, unfortunately.

Please keep my family in your thoughts and prayers in the coming days and weeks. "Pink" is handling it remarkably well, shocking though it was.

It's somewhat strange for me, sharing such a deeply personal thing with my online friends - though the distinction is blurred because many of you are personal friends whether we've met face-to-face or merely here on the internets.

I know many of you will want to know if there's anything you can do to help. There is. If you could each volunteer to mow my lawn at least once, I'll be able to sell my mower and never have to worry about that task again in my lifetime. Thanks in advance.

Dude that really really sucks....

Good thoughts for you and if you 2 need anything give me a shout...

Dave

[Bowser]

I am very sorry to hear this, and don't have the right thing to say. Sincerest condolences from us, Phil.

[Joie]

I'm sorry for your loss, Phil. You, Pink and the rest of your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

[teedubya]

Oh no, Im so sorry to hear this, man. And I think in the past few days, I congratulated Pink on her Facebook.

Man, this sucks. This same thing had happened to my sister-in-law's first kid. Very tough to handle when its a first kid. Id imagine tough to handle when it is any kid.

My heart goes out to you guys, bro.

[wutamess]

As many of you know my wife and I have been expecting a child for many months. She came on Thursday. She had died in the womb sometime in the past 3 or 4 days, unfortunately.

Please keep my family in your thoughts and prayers in the coming days and weeks. "Pink" is handling it remarkably well, shocking though it was.

It's somewhat strange for me, sharing such a deeply personal thing with my online friends - though the distinction is blurred because many of you are personal friends whether we've met face-to-face or merely here on the internets.

I know many of you will want to know if there's anything you can do to help. There is. If you could each volunteer to mow my lawn at least once, I'll be able to sell my mower and never have to worry about that task again in my lifetime. Thanks in advance.

I have 4 that you can adopt and raise as your own...
Just bring them over from time to time and take them with you when you leave.

Thing's'll get better.
Keep ya head up.

[bigfoot]

Phobia,

Sorry this happened.

God comfort you and your family.

[dirk digler]

I am very sorry for yours and Pink's loss. My prayers go out to both of you in this sad time.

[SPchief]

Wow, so sorry to hear Phil

[TrebMaxx]

Sorry to hear of yours and Pink's loss. Prayers to you both.

[QuikSsurfer]

So sorry to hear this. You have my deepest condolences.

[38yrsfan]

Sincerest condolences

[Mr. Flopnuts]

Sorry Phil.

[CHENZ A!]

I'm really sorry to hear that man. Hang in there.

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[HemiEd]

Phil, so sorry to read this. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

[Coach]

Damn dude, sorry to hear about that.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

[C-Mac]

Sorry to hear Phil...just letting you know were thinking of you both during such an emotional time.

[KS Smitty]

Phil there are no words... Know that we're thinking of you and yours.

[sedated]

I wish I could be as elequent as some of the other responses, but in the little time I've known Phil and Pink I quickly realized that I had stumbled across two really great people, parents, and role models.

Sorry for your loss and condolences to you and your family.

[bogey]

I'm so, so sorry.

[Valiant]

I am sorry for you both Phil.. best wishes..

[Ebolapox]

damn, phil. my condolences. I have no idea how horrible losing a child can be. all my best to yourself and pink.

[ChiefsFanatic]

I am so sorry to hear that. I just don't know what to say. Your family will be in my family's prayers.

[huskerdooz]

Phobia, I am so very sorry for you and Pink. I can only imagine what you must be feeling. For me it would be absolutely the worst thing imaginable. My prayers will continue to be with you and your family. God Bless and Godspeed Emersyn.

[Fish]

Prayers sent your way buddy. Sorry to hear it.

[chiefs4me]

I am so sorry for your loss phob..can't even imagine what you are feeling, prayers to you and your family.

[Rausch]

You and the Mrs. will be in our thoughts man.

[cdcox]

I just saw this. I can't imagine. You have my prayers and sympathy. God bless.

[Phobia]

Silver lining time: Looks like this is shaping up to be an opportunity to get the entire family together. Save a couple family members from Houston, most everybody will be coming to KC this weekend including my teenagers. So, this is a real blessing despite the circumstances.

We are having a short service Monday AM. I don't want anybody to feel obligated at all. Really. But if you're able and wish to attend, PM me for details and plan to bring tissues.

I'll get an obit out here probably sometime tomorrow.

[Logical]

Oh my Phil, your entire family will be in my thoughts. Deepest condolences. I know you are religious man Phil and I must say that if your religion sustains you and Pink rely on it now more than ever. Even we Deists pray and I will have Emersen and your family in my prayers.

[Phobia]

Oh my Phil, your entire family will be in my thoughts. Deepest condolences. I know you are religious man Phil and I must say that if your religion sustains you and Pink rely on it now more than ever. Even we Deists pray and I will have Emersen and your family in my prayers.
Thanks Jim. My wife especially has found strength by giving it to God. Nearly as importantly, our church family and neighbors have been just incredible throughout the ordeal. I haven't yet been home today but as I understand a group of ladies showed up this morning and prepped the house for the family visits this weekend. We're really blessed to have such a strong support circle. If something like this had happened with Reese in Houston we'd have never made it. Don't get me wrong - we're hurting and struggling but we're blessed too.

[kregger]

Phobia,
I am so sorry to hear this. My thoughts and prayers are with your family. My parents lost a little girl who would have been my older sister and their first born in the same fashion. I don't often think about her, but whenever I hear similar occurrences, I am always reminded how hard it must have been for my folks. I'm pretty sure they didn't have the network of support you seem to be getting and they rarely mention her.
May God comfort your sorrow and hold a special place in His kingdom for Emersyn.

[Manila-Chief]

Phil, my heart goes out to you and especially to Pink. I lost my Dad a month ago, but he was 93 & it was a blessing coz he went quickly with lung cancer. In your case you guys were excitedly looking forward to this fresh new life. Man! That's gotta hurt!!!

I know that God did not cause this, but I do know that He will give you the strength to go through this ... one day at a time. Looking back it's really good that He got Pink involved in the faith those months ago. Now, He will comfort and strengthen you.

Blessings Brother & Sister ... my prayers are with you!!!!

Gerry

[REDHOTGTO]

phobia,
so sorry to hear of your loss, we have been in your place about 16 yrs ago now, we also had a girl that was born with heart & lungs problems.
so take care and remember this to will pass in time
take care
t

[Manila-Chief]

Thanks Jim. My wife especially has found strength by giving it to God. Nearly as importantly, our church family and neighbors have been just incredible throughout the ordeal. I haven't yet been home today but as I understand a group of ladies showed up this morning and prepped the house for the family visits this weekend. We're really blessed to have such a strong support circle. If something like this had happened with Reese in Houston we'd have never made it. Don't get me wrong - we're hurting and struggling but we're blessed too.

This illustrates that there are much more benfits to Christianity than "pie in the sky by and by!!!" WOW!!! That's a great church!!! You guys are really blessed!!!!!!!!!!!!!

With your family coming, it, also, shows God brings good things out of the worst situation.

[Deberg_1990]

Hey Phil,

Ive never met you but as a father of two, this really touched my heart. You have have most hearfelt condolances...

I do believe God has a plan and there is a reason for everything. We may never understand it while on Earth, but perhaps later we will....

God Bless you and your family....

[SAUTO]

the wife and i are very sorry for your loss. our prayers will be with you through this very trying time.

[ChiefsFire]

Thoughts and prayers bud. Wow.

[Groves]

But if you're able and wish to attend, PM me for details and plan to bring tissues..

How's about an address for people to send stuff?

[Phobia]

How's about an address for people to send stuff?

Oh my. I don't know how all that is being handled. I'll ask the organizer ladies who are taking care of those details.

[Phobia]

We're asking people not to send flowers. There is an Emersyn Kloster benevolence fund.

PO Box 422
Greenwood, MO 64034

That's the only address I'll post online. If you'd prefer our physical address please PM me.

[Sully]

My wife and I are due this week. I can't imagine the pain you are going through. Every time my wife doesn't feel our baby move for a bit of time, it really freaks her out. I'm so sorry. I know you aren't my biggest fan, but I hope you know my wife and I have you in our prayers.

[Phobia]

My wife and I are due this week. I can't imagine the pain you are going through. Every time my wife doesn't feel our baby move for a bit of time, it really freaks her out. I'm so sorry. I know you aren't my biggest fan, but I hope you know my wife and I have you in our prayers.

Nah dude - thanks. I don't know where you got the idea I wasn't a fan. I just like flipping you some crap but we're good. There's only a small handful of guys whose behavior I dislike on here and I don't think you're on the list. I do wish you and your wife the very best with your first child. If there's anything you need from us, you let me know. I've been through 4 births now and have at least partially raised 3 kids so I have some knowledge on the subject.

[irishjayhawk]

Man, that's depressing. Deepest condolences. And here I thought my Jayhawks loss was bad.

[old_geezer]

Sorry to hear about your terrible loss. I've had the privilege of meeting you and I know you're "good people." It sounds like both you and Pink are handling this as well as it can be handled. My thoughts and prayers are with you both as you make it through this hard time (and your faith and strength will pull you through). God bless and comfort you.

[Herzig]

Sorry to hear about you loss. You guys are in my prayers.

[Skip Towne]

What a terrible thing to have happen. So sorry to hear it.

[Calcountry]

Dude, my condolences.

I wish I would have had the chance to meet up with you all last October, but that rainstorm and my knee wouldn't allow it.

God bless. Take care of your wife, she seems to be in shock.

[ChiTown]

Phil

Just know that You and your family are in my families prayers. So sorry for your loss.

[Halfcan]

Phil, my deepest sympathies bud. If you need ANYTHING-just let me know.

[KCwolf]

You and your family are in my prayers.

[Jilly]

hard for me to read and even harder for me to say anything...except you know that God is with you and it sounds like through your church family Christ's presence is really known. I pray that love will sustain you and guide you and Pink through this

[MikeTheWildcat]

My wife and I lost a child in the womb at 3 months (died earlier, but 3 months is when we found out). My wife thought somthing was wrong, but the doc kept saying everything was ok, it wasn't.

My family will keep you and your family in our prayers.

[evolve27]

Has to be tough, I've had a family member go through the same situation. Hang in there, you have my prayers.

[Phobia]

You guys can de-sticky this at any time. It's been well over 24 hours.

Thanks for everybody's prayers and well-wishes. Some of you surprised me in a positive manner on this thread. Thanks again.

Phil, Brynn Marie & family

[Phobia]

The memorial service was today. How do you memorialize an infant who never took a breath of air on this earth? Still, it was incredibly nice. A photographer from our church volunteers for "Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep" - an organization specializing in shooting infants who die and he came out and shot a beautiful picture of Emersyn which was on display at the service. They played Clapton's "Tears in Heaven" which definitely prompted tears on earth for me. There are no words to describe losing a child but losing one in the manner in which Clapton did might have killed me. My wife read a poem she composed and they showed a fun slideshow of family photos.

I know some of these type of services are 100% sobbing but our church did a really fine job of making it bearable.

Thanks again for all your comments and prayers. Each one helped just a little bit. Add them all up and we've been uplifted significantly.

[MichaelH]

Phil, you don't know me from Adam. But from reading your posts through the years I can tell you're a great human being as is your wife. My condolences go out to you both. With the bad there will also be good. I know that may not help right now but I hope it helps someday.

[DaFace]

Good to hear they were able to put together something memorable, yet encouraging at the same time. I can't imagine what it must be like, but I'm glad to hear that you're handling everything as well as can be expected.

[BIG_DADDY]

The memorial service was today. How do you memorialize an infant who never took a breath of air on this earth? Still, it was incredibly nice. A photographer from our church volunteers for "Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep" - an organization specializing in shooting infants who die and he came out and shot a beautiful picture of Emersyn which was on display at the service. They played Clapton's "Tears in Heaven" which definitely prompted tears on earth for me. There are no words to describe losing a child but losing one in the manner in which Clapton did might have killed me. My wife read a poem she composed and they showed a fun slideshow of family photos.

I know some of these type of services are 100% sobbing but our church did a really fine job of making it bearable.

Thanks again for all your comments and prayers. Each one helped just a little bit. Add them all up and we've been uplifted significantly.


Phil I am soooo sorry to hear that. I will definately keep you and your family in our prayers.

[Phobia]

Phil I am soooo sorry to hear that. I will definately keep you and your family in our prayers.
Yeah - this one probably hit home for you considering the problems you guys had with your little one recently. It can happen to any one of us though. I've been told it happens one in 135 births in the U.S.

[teedubya]

Nobody really 'dies' they just move on to the other realm... so now you have a beautiful guardian angel hanging around you all of the time. Plus, she will be waiting for you when you make it over to the other side. I find that comforting.

If I had known the service was today, I would have been there. Glad to hear it was a beautiful service.

[Taco John]

Sorry to hear the remarkably bad news, Phil...

[Jenson71]

Phobia, I can offer no words of comfort. I just feel bad about this. If I recall, this is not the first time this has happened to your family. You are a very solid man of good character, as testament to how many people here respect you and find you good company. Of course, your family, which seems to be so pleasant, is in my deepest thoughts and prayers.

I don't know how appropriate it is, but have you ever heard the song "Lullaby" by Billy Joel? The song sounds to me of a father losing his daughter. It's a little ambiguous, and I don't know if you'll like it or hate it, but the song is so sweet and sentimental, I could just about cry.

[Dylan]

Phobia:

Please accept my most sincere condolences for your loss.

[Phobia]

This has some very tastefully done pictures of Emersyn from a guy we know from our church. He's an amazing talent.

http://jimmydouglasphotography.blogspot.com/2008/09/emersyn-jayne-sep-11-2008.html

[RNR]

Just now found this, sorry bro there are no words