How much "alone" time do you need?

[Stewie]

Whether it is to get away from kids, significant others, work, hustle and bustle.

Do you need time to read a book, watch your favorite show/movie by yourself, or just be alone thinking your thoughts?

I bring this up just having watched Johnny Carson's life story. He was able to separate the person we saw on TV and turn 180 degrees for what he relished as a private person. That is, he needed "alone" time in big chunks.

[Donger]

About eight hours a day.

[PunkinDrublic]

At least a day. If you're an introverted person, having some time away from people is how you relax and recharge your batteries.

[Sweet Daddy Hate]

Plenty.

[Kiimo]

Great another thread about masturbation.











ten minutes tops.

[Hammock Parties]

All of it.

I tend to get a little lonely in the evening sometimes though.

[Coochie liquor]

I don't need any. I work my ass off all day. Soon as I'm off I wanna get home to the wife and kids. I wouldn't know what to do with alone time as I have t had any in the last 20+ years.

[Coochie liquor]

All of it.

I tend to get a little lonely in the evening sometimes though.

You need a puppy!

[Abba-Dabba]

I have the week off. I came home from dropping my son off from school and was walking in the door and my first thought was I wish there was someone else here. I quickly pulled myself away from that nonsense.

[Dunit35]

I enjoy my alone time but don't have it anymore. When my wife is gone I have our two year old daughter. Usually, I get around an hour once or twice a week after I get off work at 7 am.

[Fire Me Boy!]

I have a half-hour each way commute to work, that works most of the time for me. Additionally, my wife often works later than I do, so more often than I'd like I get anywhere from 1-4 hours at home by myself. I tend to get a little lonely when that happens for very long at once, though. For instance, her schedule has been until 8 or 9 p.m. every day for the last couple weeks - I'm pretty tired of that now. Would like to see my wife once in a while.

[Coochie liquor]

I have the week off. I came home from dropping my son off from school and was walking in the door and my first thought was I wish there was someone else here. I quickly pulled myself away from that nonsense.

So you went on some porn sites then??

[Graystoke]

Once a month I take a day off. I get on my motorcycle, pack a fly rod and go the stream.
After that I am good for a month

[Abba-Dabba]

So you went on some porn sites then??

Eh, maybe later.

Actually been on the FTE forums

[blaise]

I'm lucky if I can take a dump without my wife or one of my kids knocking on the door.

[BucEyedPea]

That is, he needed "alone" time in big chunks.

This is what I need. I need it to create my own designs etc. I like to be alone when I do that. Then I need time with people but not as much as I need alone.

[Katipan]

I'd like a lot but it wars with my desire to take care of my immediate family. So I get up really really really early and get it then.

I don't sleep much but I haven't slept much in years.

[Mennonite]

"L'enfer, c'est les autres"

[Fire Me Boy!]

"L'enfer, c'est les autres"

He's speaking French! Help him!

[BucEyedPea]

"L'enfer, c'est les autres"

"Hell is other people."~ Jean Paul Sartre's No Exit

[Fish]

Divorce was sufficient.

[MahiMike]

23 hrs a day. Just like Clay. The other hour I'm at the store.

[Stewie]

I'd like a lot but it wars with my desire to take care of my immediate family. So I get up really really really early and get it then.

I don't sleep much but I haven't slept much in years.

That's still alone time. What do you do when you're up so early?

[Iowanian]

I don't have enough, that's for sure.

In reality, I need about 15 minutes to decompress when I get home from work, but rarely make both feet inside the door before at least 2 people are talking to me about 2 different things. It doesn't happen often enough, but I really need about an evening a week to go do my own thing, be it fishing, puttering on my projects without interference from kids, or play cards or something.

That's the best part of bow season, is I kind of recharge my batteries for the winter.

[blaise]

"L'enfer, c'est les autres"

You know, when I read that play I though, "Well, if that's hell it's probably not as bad as it could be."

[mikey23545]

As much as I can get, and I never get enough.

Alone time, I mean.

[cosmo20002]

I'm lucky if I can take a dump without my wife or one of my kids knocking on the door.

Just leave it open. Problem solved.

[Pepe Silvia]

Long enough to masturbate and punch myself in the face.

[ptlyon]

Long enough to masturbate and punch myself in the face.

Use less lube

[gblowfish]

Great another thread about masturbation.
ten minutes tops.

Unless you use a hand puppet. Then maybe twenty minutes....

[ptlyon]

Unless you use a hand puppet. Then maybe twenty minutes....

Two words : Carrol Channing

[Dayze]

I need a good hour a day. then a good 3-5 hour window each weekend. My commute usually accomplishes most of this during the week (my commute is 50 minutes at best, each way. and my car radio doesn't work) , and the motorcycle covers the rest. ....which sucks in the winter when I can't ride. Then I just get antsy, bored, and irritable.

my wife went out of town this past weekend, and it really recharged the batteries (I'm sure she'd say the same on her end). Friday night, I just hung out watching TV and playing with my dogs. Saturday I had lunch with my brother and his kids, where we then picked up my motorcycle from service. That evening, I grabbed some dinner, and watch 4 movies that night. Sunday, woke up, coffee and NFL pre-grame then met my brother for a ride to grab some $1 tacos and a few miles. Ended up getting home around 6pm. My wife got home about 6:30pm with dinner. I had a great weekend.

[DiaperBoy27]

No wife, no kids, no roommates, easy job with little human interaction. And I'm a social person. I struggle to fill all the alone time I have and it sucks. I'd love to be someone that likes being alone.

[Ming the Merciless]

about 3 -5 minutes

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[Rausch]

Probably much more than most people. Oddly enough much of my "alone time" is spent on here but the house is still quiet and usually I'm the only one up...

[tooge]

40 minutes after work during a nice crap is enough for my daily needs. Then I spend about 4 hours on a tractor once a week, and that takes care of that.

[Dayze]

tooge; we should hang out and holla bitches. I work up in Liberty. LMAO

[ptlyon]

A 40 minute crap - wow

[Mennonite]

40 minutes after work during a nice crap is enough for my daily needs.

You were awesome in Halloween.

[TripleThreat]

I need a good hour a day. then a good 3-5 hour window each weekend. My commute usually accomplishes most of this during the week (my commute is 50 minutes at best, each way. and my car radio doesn't work) , and the motorcycle covers the rest. ....which sucks in the winter when I can't ride. Then I just get antsy, bored, and irritable.

my wife went out of town this past weekend, and it really recharged the batteries (I'm sure she'd say the same on her end). Friday night, I just hung out watching TV and playing with my dogs. Saturday I had lunch with my brother and his kids, where we then picked up my motorcycle from service. That evening, I grabbed some dinner, and watch 4 movies that night. Sunday, woke up, coffee and NFL pre-grame then met my brother for a ride to grab some $1 tacos and a few miles. Ended up getting home around 6pm. My wife got home about 6:30pm with dinner. I had a great weekend.

Sounds like the life :clap:

[Katipan]

That's still alone time. What do you do when you're up so early?

I like you Stewie so I'm really trying to figure out how to make my post clearer.

I like lots of alone time.
I like taking care of my family.
So I get lots of alone time early in the morning while they sleep.

I paint my toes. Detail my car. Watch the late version of Sportscenter. I check ChiefsPlanet to make sure everyone is alive and well. I check Facebook for the same thing. Start prepping breakfast. Maybe dinner depending on what it is. I get the lessons ready for homeschool. If I have to go to Walmart, this is when I do it. I run the dog. I clean my bathrooms because nothing is better than waking up to clean bathrooms. I work. When needed and only in a very broad sense of sitting at my computer. And through it all I get very very very stoned. Then at 5 I get the man off to work.

And that takes an hour.

[Rain Man]

Probably much more than most people. Oddly enough much of my "alone time" is spent on here but the house is still quiet and usually I'm the only one up...

I'm kind of that way myself.

I've discovered that there's an upper limit to alone time. If I'm by myself for two or three days I'll go out to the mall or something just to walk around. But the first two days generally isn't a problem at all.

[ptlyon]

" And through it all I get very very very stoned."

ROFL

[Dayze]

best mom evar!

[Reerun_KC]

None. Especially don't like being away from the wife.

[Discuss Thrower]

I spend all but about 30 hours a week alone.

[Dayze]

we don't like being away from your wife either.

ZinG!!!!!

[Reerun_KC]

we don't like being away from your wife either.

ZinG!!!!!
Bazinga?

[Dayze]

haven't tried it yet. hell, I'll give it a try

[Katipan]

" And through it all I get very very very stoned."

ROFL

It wears off by 6am and thats usually when I yell at people on CP. Off to bed by 11pm, wash rinse repeat by 2-3.

[Kaepernick]

Most. I used to go to parties and events and in minutes I would feel the the need to get away. I will plan events with folks and when it is all finished, I remember why I rarely plan events with folks.

I have rarely been more happy than riding a motorcycle alone cross country.

I need people but apparently in small doses.

Loner since birth. While all the kids were in the street playing kick ball and tag, I was in my bedroom playing with my toys, my imagination on afterburners.

[Mojo Jojo]

As much as I can get...what I do...depends on mood, but it's never going out to a movie.

[Fire Me Boy!]

Most. I used to go to parties and events and in minutes I would feel the the need to get away. I will plan events with folks and when it is all finished, I remember why I rarely plan events with folks.

I have rarely been more happy than riding a motorcycle alone cross country.

I need people but apparently in small doses.

Loner since birth. While all the kids were in the street playing kick ball and tag, I was in my bedroom playing with my toys, my imagination on afterburners.

It's OK. Because we need you in small doses. Can you stay away more often?

[tooge]

tooge; we should hang out and holla bitches. I work up in Liberty. LMAO

Fo Sho. Grab a brew after work or something

[DaFace]

Eh, the wife and I get along pretty well, so I'm probably only truly alone for maybe an hour or two per day, and that's if you include my commute. There are exceptions of course when one of us is out and about doing something, but that's more about doing things with our friends than needing alone time.

[BWillie]

At least a day. If you're an introverted person, having some time away from people is how you relax and recharge your batteries.

I'm introverted too, doesn't mean I don't want to hang out with people, but I just can't do it indefinitely. I need to have 2 days a week on my own to recharge. Alot of people I went to college with probably didn't really even know I was introverted because I just felt like I had to look like this social butterfly when I was younger. Now that I am adult, I really do not care what people think about me. I have my group of friends, people I respect, and that is all I need.

[BWillie]

I'm lucky if I can take a dump without my wife or one of my kids knocking on the door.

See this is one of the reasons I don't want to get married, or have kids. I just would go berserk. My girlfriend already has an hard time understanding that I need two days a week away from her, and I know that really bothers her. My GF is really shy, so she thinks she's an introvert. But, I really don't think she is because she wants someone around every waking second, whether it be me, friend, or family. She is unable to go to the store, or do virtually anything by herself. To me, I think you can definitely be an extrovert, and still be shy.

I don't know how married family guys with four kids do it. I really don't. Is there any relevance to being an introvert and not seeking a family vs extroverts?

[Pepe Silvia]

I spend all but about 30 hours a week alone.

Your junk must be chafed. J/K :)

[LoneWolf]

Several years ago my Dad and I purchased 250 acres in eastern Kansas. There are 2 stocked ponds on the land and a creek that runs through the middle. I take off from work one Friday a month and drive out there. I shoot my bow, fish, and drink a few beers. That's enough to keep me sane.

[teedubya]

I cherish my alone time. I have too many responsibilities these days to too many people... so I'm working a lot... and I like to work without distractions.

[Why Not?]

I'm lucky if I can take a dump without my wife or one of my kids knocking on the door.

Mostly this. But everyone else is asleep by 9 so I get a few hours at night.

[Katipan]

See this is one of the reasons I don't want to get married, or have kids. I just would go berserk. My girlfriend already has an hard time understanding that I need two days a week away from her, and I know that really bothers her. My GF is really shy, so she thinks she's an introvert. But, I really don't think she is because she wants someone around every waking second, whether it be me, friend, or family. She is unable to go to the store, or do virtually anything by herself. To me, I think you can definitely be an extrovert, and still be shy.

I don't know how married family guys with four kids do it. I really don't. Is there any relevance to being an introvert and not seeking a family vs extroverts?

I would think so. I am definitely an introvert and most definitely not shy.

I don't think you have to rule out marriage because you're an introvert. You just have to make yourself clear to your wife before it goes very far. And make sure you don't have a crazy wife.

But really, don't get married.

[Rain Man]

On another note, I enjoy traveling with my wife, but I'm also happy traveling by myself. If she doesn't want to go somewhere and I do, she just bids me adieu and I go have a nice time. I like being an anonymous stranger in a strange land.

[cdcox]

My wife and I can be alone in the same room. I love that about her.

[Katipan]

My wife and I can be alone in the same room. I love that about her.

love love love this.

[Simply Red]

love love love this.

I love you - you seem nice to me.

[MOhillbilly]

I used to go days without seeing or speaking to anyone.
Growing up out in the country solitude becomes a gift.

Now I have four kids and work at home. Sometimes it makes me fuckin crazy.
I mean I didn't have a phone for close to ten years.
It's constant chatter.

So usually when I make morning and evening rounds I go alone.
But sometimes I wanna bug the fuck out for a week or two.

Ya dig?

[Sweet Daddy Hate]

I love you - you seem nice to me.

JFC....LMAO

[Katipan]

I love you - you seem nice to me.

I love you too pumpkin.

[rockymtnchief]

I used to go days without seeing or speaking to anyone.
Growing up out in the country solitude becomes a gift.

At my old job, I'd go all week not talking to anyone and then go to my house 13 miles out of town. Being alone definitely worked for me. If I got bored, I'd step out the back door and go through a box of shells. PARADISE!

Now I live in town and work with six people. Three of them are chatter boxes and I'm the "quiet guy". It's like heaven getting home to an empty house.

However, get a few beers in me around friends and I turn into the chatter box.

[Psyko Tek]

all I can get
but I am a father, and have to earn a living

and get drunk and think I need people (female)
then I get drunk ,
and realize I have no social skills
so then I go back to my cave

rinse and repeat

[Mennonite]

I have become such a hermit that I have a hard time even leaving my house. It's about to cost me everything.

[Simply Red]

I'd like a lot but it wars with my desire to take care of my immediate family. So I get up really really really early and get it then.

I don't sleep much but I haven't slept much in years.

Almost everyone I know has issues sleeping.

[Simply Red]

I used to go days without seeing or speaking to anyone.
Growing up out in the country solitude becomes a gift.

Now I have four kids and work at home. Sometimes it makes me ****in crazy.
I mean I didn't have a phone for close to ten years.
It's constant chatter.

So usually when I make morning and evening rounds I go alone.
But sometimes I wanna bug the **** out for a week or two.

Ya dig?

You seem nice.

[Simply Red]

I have become such a hermit that I have a hard time even leaving my house. It's about to cost me everything.

You should set some goals of some sort - just something small.

[ROYC75]

I'm loved so much I'm never alone!

[Buehler445]

I need some decompress time to shut my mind off. It doesn't have to be alone and it works better when it's not.

I spend a huge amount of the workday by myself most days. Some days aren't, but if wheels are rolling, odds are I'm by myself. But that time is far from relaxing. My mind is always going about the operation and what needs to be happening outside the that specific operation. When the clock is ticking it's incredibly stressful. Maybe I don't handle it well, but I think I do.

Accordingly, I need time to shut my mind down and not worry about logistics, timing or analyze decision criteria and profitability implications.

[ptlyon]

I'm loved so much I'm never alone!

"I'm always talking to myself, I guess I'm never alone "

[PunkinDrublic]

I'm introverted too, doesn't mean I don't want to hang out with people, but I just can't do it indefinitely. I need to have 2 days a week on my own to recharge. Alot of people I went to college with probably didn't really even know I was introverted because I just felt like I had to look like this social butterfly when I was younger. Now that I am adult, I really do not care what people think about me. I have my group of friends, people I respect, and that is all I need.

It used to bother me because I thought me looking forward to having some time to myself meant I had these anti social, loner type tendencies. Then after reading up a couple things about people who are introverted I realized it had nothing to do with your ability to be outgoing and social. It has more to do with that time alone being vital to helping me recharge and figure things out for myself. I've found that once I've had sufficient time away from others, I'm able to function a lot better around other people.

[lewdog]

My parents relationship and my relationship with my wife are very different as far as this question goes.

My parents do everything together. Same TV shows, same time doing work in the house, almost going to all the same social events. Very limited time apart and has been for their 35 years of marriage.

My wife and I are much different. I come home and we see each other a bit before dinner and one of us cooks. After that it's me to my man cave to watch baseball and her in the living room reading or TV. I am an only child and I think my upbringing has a lot to do with me still loving my alone time. Glad my wife appreciates the same and doesn't hassle me for it.

[eDave]

I'm at a point in my life where I would be fine being alone, forever. I think.

I need a lot of alone time anyway, to unwind, smoke up, play some guitar, hit CP, etc, and that doesn't always work out with the ladies. Yes, I am an introvert. Fortunately, my current lady requires alone time as well. It's been a real plus for us.

But if we don't work out, I would relish the aloneness.

[sedated]

I am an only child and I think my upbringing has a lot to do with me still loving my alone time.

Seems logical, but I was practically an only child (closest sibling was 8 years older), my parents divorced when I was about 10 and my mom went to school at night until I was in college. I was always alone and now I cant stand it.

[lewdog]

Seems logical, but I was practically an only child (closest sibling was 8 years older), my parents divorced when I was about 10 and my mom went to school at night until I was in college. I was always alone and now I cant stand it.

I could also be the fact that I talk to people all day, every day at work. That gets tiresome on the old mind.

I wouldn't have liked being in an empty house at that age like you though. My parents were always home but being an only child and living outside of town, I usually played by myself all the time.

[Aries Walker]

But for two specific people, I could easily spend my entire life as a hermit.

[eDave]

I am an only child and I think my upbringing has a lot to do with me still loving my alone time. Glad my wife appreciates the same and doesn't hassle me for it.

As the 3rd child, I agree. :(

It's like a group session up in here.