Check out this obituary from my town.

[Buehler445]

How would you like your kids to write this obituary for you.

FWIW he was a resident in the rest home where my grandpa is and they entire staff is required to wear masks 100% of the time.

Obituary of Marvin J. Farr

Dr. Marvin James Farr, 81, of Scott City, Kan., passed away Dec. 1, 2020, in isolation at Park Lane Nursing Home. He was preceded in death by more than 260,000 Americans infected with covid-19. He died in a room not his own, being cared for by people dressed in confusing and frightening ways. He died with covid-19, and his final days were harder, scarier and lonelier than necessary. He was not surrounded by friends and family.

Marvin was born May 23, 1939 to Jim and Dorothy Farr of Modoc, Kan. He was born into an America recovering from the Great Depression and about to face World War 2, times of loss and sacrifice difficult for most of us to imagine. Americans would be asked to ration essential supplies and send their children around the world to fight and die in wars of unfathomable destruction. He died in a world where many of his fellow Americans refuse to wear a piece of cloth on their face to protect one another.

Marvin was a farmer and a veterinarian. He graduated from Kansas State University in 1968. His careers filled his life with an understanding of the science of life: how to nurture it, how to sustain it, and the myriad ways that life can go wrong. As a young man he debated between studying mortuary or veterinary science. He chose life over death. The science that guided his professional life has been disparaged and abandoned by so many of the same people who depended on his knowledge to care for their animals and to raise their food.

Marvin was a religious man. He was a lay reader at St. Luke's Episcopal Church. He saw no conflict between the science of his professional life and the belief of his personal life, each enriched the other. From religion, he especially drew on lessons of forgiveness and care. Perhaps the most important comes from the Lord's Prayer:

and forgive us our trespasses,

 as we forgive those who trespass against us;

He would look after those who had harmed him the deepest, a sentiment echoed by the healthcare workers struggling to do their jobs as their own communities turn against them or make their jobs harder. He would also fail those who needed him the most at times, as he was still human, with his flaws and limits.

Marvin was a man of the community. His membership in the Anthem Masonic Lodge #284 and the Scott County Shrine Club mattered to him for both the camaraderie of his brothers and for the good works that they facilitated, the most visible of which is the Shriners Hospitals for Children network. Even in a social organization, he chose one that centered the health and medical care of others.

Marvin was a family man, both of blood and chosen family. He was preceded in death by his wife Lottie Farr; son Justin Farr; brothers Everett Farr and Howard Farr; and parents. He is survived by his children Courtney Farr and Tamra Wilkens of Eudora, Kan.; Tesa Fansler of Sanford, Fla.; and Scott and Tracy Burling of Scott, La.; and numerous grandchildren, great-grandchildren, other family and loved ones.

Memorial donations may be made to the Scott County Hospital Foundation in care of Price & Sons Funeral Homes or https://www.scotthospital.net/getpage.php?name=Foundation

A memorial will be held at a later date due to covid-19.

[Buehler445]

FWIW it’s not my intention to make a DC thread out of this.

[Discuss Thrower]

We're approaching virtue signaling levels that are theoretically impossible.

[Delano]

Seems like the family needed to vent their justifiable anger and I’m glad they had the outlet.

[Buehler445]

Seems like the family needed to vent their justifiable anger and I’m glad they had the outlet.

For the record the newspaper (that posts obituaries) also has an avenue for letters to the editor.

[Delano]

For the record the newspaper (that posts obituaries) also has an avenue for letters to the editor.

Most newspapers do. A lot of them charge to publish obituaries giving families a platform to say whatever they please.

[Baby Lee]

Saddened in death to learn his devotion to mutual forgiveness was not imparted to his family.

[loochy]

Misplaced anger is common during times of extreme emotional distress.

[kc-nd]

This one was in today’s’ Bismarck Tribune. A little more pointed.

Lloyd Lauer

Lloyd "Fuzzy" Lauer, 86, of Bismarck, formerly of McClusky, died Tuesday, Dec. 1, 2020 at a Bismarck care center.

On Nov. 16, after 35 weeks of being imprisoned in a long term care facility under the pretense of "keeping him safe," Lloyd contracted the very thing they were supposed to be keeping him safe from - facility acquired COVID-19. He battled through another two weeks of fear, isolation, and illness before his body finally surrendered and released his soul to go be with his Jesus. This process stole his freedom, his dignity, and his health, but it was unable to steal his beautiful spirit and his handsome smile which he hung unto until the very end. As a society, what we have allowed to happen to Lloyd and all those in long term care is despicable. It robs the residents and their families of the most fundamental of needs-freedom, love, and affection-and makes the working conditions for their caregivers unbearable. If anyone thinks we are doing the right thing, they have not lived our nightmare of a journey for the past nine months. And, if you think this doesn't affect you, you are wrong-it just hasn't affected you yet.

Private services will be held at the United Methodist Church in McClusky today, Dec. 4. Burial will be held Monday in the North Dakota Veterans Cemetery, Mandan.

Lloyd, known to many as "Fuzzy" was born Sept. 26, 1934 in McClusky to Fred and Katherine (Neff) Lauer. He grew up on the family farm near McClusky and attended country school and the McClusky High School. Lloyd entered the Army on Dec. 6, 1956 and served for two years including being stationed in Korea where he was a medic. He was honorably discharged Dec. 5, 1958 and returned to McClusky. He started working at the CO-OP Elevator of McClusky and was later promoted to manager. He worked there for 37 years and retired in 1996. He then began working for the North Dakota Department of Transportation in McClusky for approximately 12 years. He also began working as an assistant at Hertz Funeral Home in McClusky from August 1997 until he retired in December 2018.

Lloyd was a member of the United Methodist Church where he served on the Board of Trustees and as treasurer. He also was a church caretaker. Lloyd loved to sing in the choir and in men's groups. Lloyd served his community on the McClusky City Council and served a short time as mayor. He was a member of the McClusky Lions Club, School Board, and City Fire Department. Lloyd was also a member and past commander of the McClusky American Legion Post. He was a lifetime sponsor of the McClusky FFA.

Lloyd was passionate about his sports. He followed the local athletic teams and traveled to many games. He enjoyed bowling, fishing, and golfing.

Lloyd is survived by his wife, Jan of Bismarck; children, Perry and Cecilia Lauer of Ramsey, Minn., Sheila and Patrick Faul, Corey and Melissa Lauer all of McClusky, Lauri and Greg Schlosser of Bismarck; Brendon and Stacy Lauer of College Station, Texas; 12 grandchildren; one great-grandchild; brother, LeRoy (Alice) Lauer, McClusky; sister, Shirley Wilson of Coleharbor; sister-in-law Doris Lauer of Bismarck.

Lloyd was preceded in death by brothers, Rudy, Ted, Melvin, Albert, and Ray; sisters, Edna Reile, Viola Murray, Freda Broeckel, Ruby Wahl, Darlene Roth, Violet Lauer, and Adeline Lauer; son-in-law, Troy Hanson.

[Buehler445]

Most newspapers do. A lot of them charge to publish obituaries giving families a platform to say whatever they please.

Pretty sure this one doesn’t. Could be wrong though.

[Rain Man]

This Farr lived close to you?

[Discuss Thrower]

This one was in today’s’ Bismarck Tribune. A little more pointed.

Lloyd Lauer

Lloyd "Fuzzy" Lauer, 86, of Bismarck, formerly of McClusky, died Tuesday, Dec. 1, 2020 at a Bismarck care center.

On Nov. 16, after 35 weeks of being imprisoned in a long term care facility under the pretense of "keeping him safe," Lloyd contracted the very thing they were supposed to be keeping him safe from - facility acquired COVID-19. He battled through another two weeks of fear, isolation, and illness before his body finally surrendered and released his soul to go be with his Jesus. This process stole his freedom, his dignity, and his health, but it was unable to steal his beautiful spirit and his handsome smile which he hung unto until the very end. As a society, what we have allowed to happen to Lloyd and all those in long term care is despicable. It robs the residents and their families of the most fundamental of needs-freedom, love, and affection-and makes the working conditions for their caregivers unbearable. If anyone thinks we are doing the right thing, they have not lived our nightmare of a journey for the past nine months. And, if you think this doesn't affect you, you are wrong-it just hasn't affected you yet.

Private services will be held at the United Methodist Church in McClusky today, Dec. 4. Burial will be held Monday in the North Dakota Veterans Cemetery, Mandan.

Lloyd, known to many as "Fuzzy" was born Sept. 26, 1934 in McClusky to Fred and Katherine (Neff) Lauer. He grew up on the family farm near McClusky and attended country school and the McClusky High School. Lloyd entered the Army on Dec. 6, 1956 and served for two years including being stationed in Korea where he was a medic. He was honorably discharged Dec. 5, 1958 and returned to McClusky. He started working at the CO-OP Elevator of McClusky and was later promoted to manager. He worked there for 37 years and retired in 1996. He then began working for the North Dakota Department of Transportation in McClusky for approximately 12 years. He also began working as an assistant at Hertz Funeral Home in McClusky from August 1997 until he retired in December 2018.

Lloyd was a member of the United Methodist Church where he served on the Board of Trustees and as treasurer. He also was a church caretaker. Lloyd loved to sing in the choir and in men's groups. Lloyd served his community on the McClusky City Council and served a short time as mayor. He was a member of the McClusky Lions Club, School Board, and City Fire Department. Lloyd was also a member and past commander of the McClusky American Legion Post. He was a lifetime sponsor of the McClusky FFA.

Lloyd was passionate about his sports. He followed the local athletic teams and traveled to many games. He enjoyed bowling, fishing, and golfing.

Lloyd is survived by his wife, Jan of Bismarck; children, Perry and Cecilia Lauer of Ramsey, Minn., Sheila and Patrick Faul, Corey and Melissa Lauer all of McClusky, Lauri and Greg Schlosser of Bismarck; Brendon and Stacy Lauer of College Station, Texas; 12 grandchildren; one great-grandchild; brother, LeRoy (Alice) Lauer, McClusky; sister, Shirley Wilson of Coleharbor; sister-in-law Doris Lauer of Bismarck.

Lloyd was preceded in death by brothers, Rudy, Ted, Melvin, Albert, and Ray; sisters, Edna Reile, Viola Murray, Freda Broeckel, Ruby Wahl, Darlene Roth, Violet Lauer, and Adeline Lauer; son-in-law, Troy Hanson.


This is also tacky but whatever.

[BigRedChief]

We're approaching virtue signaling levels that are theoretically impossible.

This is also tacky but whatever.you should write the dead mans family and tell them your feelings.

[Buehler445]

This Farr lived close to you?

Affirmative.

The deceased. Not the family.

[Discuss Thrower]

you should write the dead mans family and tell them your feelings.

Anyone narcissistic enough to think that their particular opinion must be heard through hijacking a relative's obit probably doesn't care about what an anonymous person like me thinks.

[kcclone]

Anyone narcissistic enough to think that their particular opinion must be heard through hijacking a relative's obit probably doesn't care about what an anonymous person like me thinks.

Or maybe the ones who knew him the best, knew he would have been miserable living in those conditions and felt like venting. It’s interesting that you’re labeling someone who you don’t even know and who is grieving as narcissistic

My grandfather who died last month (not of Covid) told me living on lock down in his nursing home was like living in a prison. And he told my uncle he’d rather die than live in those conditions any longer.

This was just a family venting. And they’re entitled to their opinion.

[jerryaldini]

This is the part that's so dreadful, and still somehow doesn't seem to get the attention it deserves. Glad they highlighted how painful that must have been for him and them.
"He died in a room not his own, being cared for by people dressed in confusing and frightening ways."

There are thousands of families experiencing this excruciating reality right now, unable to be at bedside with their loved ones.

[Discuss Thrower]

Or maybe the ones who knew him the best, knew he would have been miserable living in those conditions.

My grandfather who died last month (not of Covid) told me held like his nursing home was a person and told my uncle he’d rather die than live in those conditions any longer.

This was just a family venting. And they’re entitled to their opinion.

This isn't about the deceased in either case: it's about the motivation of people using a relative's casket as a soapbox. If either of these two guys imparted to their surviving families that they wanted their feelings publicized to the world then that's fine and bully bully to whoever put the proverbial pen to paper.

In both cases that whoever is penning these obituaries have chosen to slant them such that they did either because it makes themselves feel better by humanizing the pandemic aftermath or because they want to be seen as making a statement because they need to be validated.

I'm surmising that it's the latter moreso than it is the former because the vast majority of people in the country understand that death through a disease is pretty horrible regardless on how they might feel about how they view everything else about the virus.

[bringbackmarty]

Nobody deserves to suffocate to death or not have their loved ones by their side. But now it happens nearly 3,000 times a day. As someone who has nearly died and been intubated for several days from respiratory arrest due to a severe asthma attack it's a horrible, chaotic and terrible way to die. Also because of my experience I no longer believe in an afterlife. I didn't breathe for over 8 minutes, was unconscious and intubated for 5 days. No white light, no memories of my parents whispering in my ear even though they did. Covid patients that are intubated don't hear the last phone calls, don't know anyone is there. Can't squeeze your hand. They are unconscious and cannot hear anything.

[bringbackmarty]

Or feel anything, the last thing you see is some brave doctor in full ppe about to intubate you and then it goes black. With a lot of luck and skilled drs you might wake up but you will never be the same. Unless you are a weak minded fool you quit believing in god because when your brain gets shut down down in that situation you know what death is and there's not even a pretty light show like you would get with a heart attack and your brain dies slowly, it's already shut down.

[loochy]

Or feel anything, the last thing you see is some brave doctor in full ppe about to intubate you and then it goes black. With a lot of luck and skilled drs you might wake up but you will never be the same. Unless you are a weak minded fool you quit believing in god because when your brain gets shut down down in that situation you know what death is and there's not even a pretty light show like you would get with a heart attack and your brain dies slowly, it's already shut down.

But if some random guy would wear a mask then that all can be avoided...temporarily

[loochy]

Or feel anything, the last thing you see is some brave doctor in full ppe about to intubate you and then it goes black. With a lot of luck and skilled drs you might wake up but you will never be the same. Unless you are a weak minded fool you quit believing in god because when your brain gets shut down down in that situation you know what death is and there's not even a pretty light show like you would get with a heart attack and your brain dies slowly, it's already shut down.

Maybe when a loved one of yours dies, you should hijack their obituary and share some of this info.

[TLO]

Nobody deserves to suffocate to death or not have their loved ones by their side. But now it happens nearly 3,000 times a day. As someone who has nearly died and been intubated for several days from respiratory arrest due to a severe asthma attack it's a horrible, chaotic and terrible way to die. Also because of my experience I no longer believe in an afterlife. I didn't breathe for over 8 minutes, was unconscious and intubated for 5 days. No white light, no memories of my parents whispering in my ear even though they did. Covid patients that are intubated don't hear the last phone calls, don't know anyone is there. Can't squeeze your hand. They are unconscious and cannot hear anything.

Or feel anything, the last thing you see is some brave doctor in full ppe about to intubate you and then it goes black. With a lot of luck and skilled drs you might wake up but you will never be the same. Unless you are a weak minded fool you quit believing in god because when your brain gets shut down down in that situation you know what death is and there's not even a pretty light show like you would get with a heart attack and your brain dies slowly, it's already shut down.

I was in a good mood until I read this... Man.

[Delano]

Maybe when a loved one of yours dies, you should hijack their obituary and share some of this info.

That third sentence of bringbackmarty’s really struck a nerve with you.

[loochy]

That third sentence of bringbackmarty’s really struck a nerve with you.

It did?

[stevieray]

As someone who has nearly died//// No white light

makes sense.


:shrug:

[Delano]

It did?

You quoted a post twice spouting the same bullshit in different dialects of moron.

[Baby Lee]

Looks like this family got their money's worth . . .

[Demonpenz]

This one was in today’s’ Bismarck Tribune. A little more pointed.

Lloyd Lauer

Lloyd "Fuzzy" Lauer, 86, of Bismarck, formerly of McClusky, died Tuesday, Dec. 1, 2020 at a Bismarck care center.

On Nov. 16, after 35 weeks of being imprisoned in a long term care facility under the pretense of "keeping him safe," Lloyd contracted the very thing they were supposed to be keeping him safe from - facility acquired COVID-19. He battled through another two weeks of fear, isolation, and illness before his body finally surrendered and released his soul to go be with his Jesus. This process stole his freedom, his dignity, and his health, but it was unable to steal his beautiful spirit and his handsome smile which he hung unto until the very end. As a society, what we have allowed to happen to Lloyd and all those in long term care is despicable. It robs the residents and their families of the most fundamental of needs-freedom, love, and affection-and makes the working conditions for their caregivers unbearable. If anyone thinks we are doing the right thing, they have not lived our nightmare of a journey for the past nine months. And, if you think this doesn't affect you, you are wrong-it just hasn't affected you yet.

Private services will be held at the United Methodist Church in McClusky today, Dec. 4. Burial will be held Monday in the North Dakota Veterans Cemetery, Mandan.

Lloyd, known to many as "Fuzzy" was born Sept. 26, 1934 in McClusky to Fred and Katherine (Neff) Lauer. He grew up on the family farm near McClusky and attended country school and the McClusky High School. Lloyd entered the Army on Dec. 6, 1956 and served for two years including being stationed in Korea where he was a medic. He was honorably discharged Dec. 5, 1958 and returned to McClusky. He started working at the CO-OP Elevator of McClusky and was later promoted to manager. He worked there for 37 years and retired in 1996. He then began working for the North Dakota Department of Transportation in McClusky for approximately 12 years. He also began working as an assistant at Hertz Funeral Home in McClusky from August 1997 until he retired in December 2018.

Lloyd was a member of the United Methodist Church where he served on the Board of Trustees and as treasurer. He also was a church caretaker. Lloyd loved to sing in the choir and in men's groups. Lloyd served his community on the McClusky City Council and served a short time as mayor. He was a member of the McClusky Lions Club, School Board, and City Fire Department. Lloyd was also a member and past commander of the McClusky American Legion Post. He was a lifetime sponsor of the McClusky FFA.

Lloyd was passionate about his sports. He followed the local athletic teams and traveled to many games. He enjoyed bowling, fishing, and golfing.

Lloyd is survived by his wife, Jan of Bismarck; children, Perry and Cecilia Lauer of Ramsey, Minn., Sheila and Patrick Faul, Corey and Melissa Lauer all of McClusky, Lauri and Greg Schlosser of Bismarck; Brendon and Stacy Lauer of College Station, Texas; 12 grandchildren; one great-grandchild; brother, LeRoy (Alice) Lauer, McClusky; sister, Shirley Wilson of Coleharbor; sister-in-law Doris Lauer of Bismarck.

Lloyd was preceded in death by brothers, Rudy, Ted, Melvin, Albert, and Ray; sisters, Edna Reile, Viola Murray, Freda Broeckel, Ruby Wahl, Darlene Roth, Violet Lauer, and Adeline Lauer; son-in-law, Troy Hanson.

Rip

[Demonpenz]

This one was in today’s’ Bismarck Tribune. A little more pointed.

Lloyd Lauer

Lloyd "Fuzzy" Lauer, 86, of Bismarck, formerly of McClusky, died Tuesday, Dec. 1, 2020 at a Bismarck care center.

On Nov. 16, after 35 weeks of being imprisoned in a long term care facility under the pretense of "keeping him safe," Lloyd contracted the very thing they were supposed to be keeping him safe from - facility acquired COVID-19. He battled through another two weeks of fear, isolation, and illness before his body finally surrendered and released his soul to go be with his Jesus. This process stole his freedom, his dignity, and his health, but it was unable to steal his beautiful spirit and his handsome smile which he hung unto until the very end. As a society, what we have allowed to happen to Lloyd and all those in long term care is despicable. It robs the residents and their families of the most fundamental of needs-freedom, love, and affection-and makes the working conditions for their caregivers unbearable. If anyone thinks we are doing the right thing, they have not lived our nightmare of a journey for the past nine months. And, if you think this doesn't affect you, you are wrong-it just hasn't affected you yet.

Private services will be held at the United Methodist Church in McClusky today, Dec. 4. Burial will be held Monday in the North Dakota Veterans Cemetery, Mandan.

Lloyd, known to many as "Fuzzy" was born Sept. 26, 1934 in McClusky to Fred and Katherine (Neff) Lauer. He grew up on the family farm near McClusky and attended country school and the McClusky High School. Lloyd entered the Army on Dec. 6, 1956 and served for two years including being stationed in Korea where he was a medic. He was honorably discharged Dec. 5, 1958 and returned to McClusky. He started working at the CO-OP Elevator of McClusky and was later promoted to manager. He worked there for 37 years and retired in 1996. He then began working for the North Dakota Department of Transportation in McClusky for approximately 12 years. He also began working as an assistant at Hertz Funeral Home in McClusky from August 1997 until he retired in December 2018.

Lloyd was a member of the United Methodist Church where he served on the Board of Trustees and as treasurer. He also was a church caretaker. Lloyd loved to sing in the choir and in men's groups. Lloyd served his community on the McClusky City Council and served a short time as mayor. He was a member of the McClusky Lions Club, School Board, and City Fire Department. Lloyd was also a member and past commander of the McClusky American Legion Post. He was a lifetime sponsor of the McClusky FFA.

Lloyd was passionate about his sports. He followed the local athletic teams and traveled to many games. He enjoyed bowling, fishing, and golfing.

Lloyd is survived by his wife, Jan of Bismarck; children, Perry and Cecilia Lauer of Ramsey, Minn., Sheila and Patrick Faul, Corey and Melissa Lauer all of McClusky, Lauri and Greg Schlosser of Bismarck; Brendon and Stacy Lauer of College Station, Texas; 12 grandchildren; one great-grandchild; brother, LeRoy (Alice) Lauer, McClusky; sister, Shirley Wilson of Coleharbor; sister-in-law Doris Lauer of Bismarck.

Lloyd was preceded in death by brothers, Rudy, Ted, Melvin, Albert, and Ray; sisters, Edna Reile, Viola Murray, Freda Broeckel, Ruby Wahl, Darlene Roth, Violet Lauer, and Adeline Lauer; son-in-law, Troy Hanson.

Rip jr

[WhiteWhale]

Anyone narcissistic enough to think that their particular opinion must be heard through hijacking a relative's obit probably doesn't care about what an anonymous person like me thinks.

You realize you, yourself, are virtue signaling right?

A bit of glass house stone tossing in the thread.

That one is my virtue signal.

[InChiefsHeaven]

It's the world we live in. People virtually vent now, it's what we do and most don't see anything wrong with it. In point of fact, they think it is their right and probably their duty to inform everyone of how they feel.

I guess I understand, but I can tell you this, both my parents died years ago and I never said shit about how I felt about the doctors or the circumstances, only that we loved them and they were great great people.

To each their own I guess. Pain and mourning suck, that's for sure.

[Abba-Dabba]

How would you like your kids to write this obituary for you.

I can't neither like it or dislike it. Because I would be dead.

[BWillie]

There is something to be said with the level of training, care, and give a shit of workers at long term care facilities. Do they test employees daily? Do these employees properly quarantine after seeing extended family or large gatherings of ppl? I doubt it. Hard to expect too much from low wage employees. Its life or death to these ppl over 70.

[eDave]

Nobody deserves to suffocate to death or not have their loved ones by their side. But now it happens nearly 3,000 times a day. As someone who has nearly died and been intubated for several days from respiratory arrest due to a severe asthma attack it's a horrible, chaotic and terrible way to die. Also because of my experience I no longer believe in an afterlife. I didn't breathe for over 8 minutes, was unconscious and intubated for 5 days. No white light, no memories of my parents whispering in my ear even though they did. Covid patients that are intubated don't hear the last phone calls, don't know anyone is there. Can't squeeze your hand. They are unconscious and cannot hear anything.

Or feel anything, the last thing you see is some brave doctor in full ppe about to intubate you and then it goes black. With a lot of luck and skilled drs you might wake up but you will never be the same. Unless you are a weak minded fool you quit believing in god because when your brain gets shut down down in that situation you know what death is and there's not even a pretty light show like you would get with a heart attack and your brain dies slowly, it's already shut down.

This is pretty heavy, man. I hope you are OK in general.

[BWillie]

Or feel anything, the last thing you see is some brave doctor in full ppe about to intubate you and then it goes black. With a lot of luck and skilled drs you might wake up but you will never be the same. Unless you are a weak minded fool you quit believing in god because when your brain gets shut down down in that situation you know what death is and there's not even a pretty light show like you would get with a heart attack and your brain dies slowly, it's already shut down.

Whoa

[BigRedChief]

Nobody deserves to suffocate to death or not have their loved ones by their side. But now it happens nearly 3,000 times a day. As someone who has nearly died and been intubated for several days from respiratory arrest due to a severe asthma attack it's a horrible, chaotic and terrible way to die. Also because of my experience I no longer believe in an afterlife. I didn't breathe for over 8 minutes, was unconscious and intubated for 5 days. No white light, no memories of my parents whispering in my ear even though they did. Covid patients that are intubated don't hear the last phone calls, don't know anyone is there. Can't squeeze your hand. They are unconscious and cannot hear anything.

Or feel anything, the last thing you see is some brave doctor in full ppe about to intubate you and then it goes black. With a lot of luck and skilled drs you might wake up but you will never be the same. Unless you are a weak minded fool you quit believing in god because when your brain gets shut down down in that situation you know what death is and there's not even a pretty light show like you would get with a heart attack and your brain dies slowly, it's already shut down.

I was in a good mood until I read this... Man.I have been that one intubating. The one holding a phone. I’m
There when they come off. His story is very similar. His reaction more the norm. 90% when asked what they saw while dead, they just say black.

Maybe if people would have heard more personal stories like this, really taken it in, maybe things would have turned out different.

[Hog's Gone Fishin]

Meanwhile Buehlers obituary will be short and sweet:

"Fuck DONK forever"

[KChiefs1]

For the record the newspaper (that posts obituaries) also has an avenue for letters to the editor.

More people read the obits instead of the letters to the editor. :hmmm:

[stevieray]

when asked what they saw while dead



:spock:

[Buehler445]

Meanwhile Buehlers obituary will be short and sweet:

"Fuck DONK forever"

Could be. LOL

[Coogs]

Meanwhile Buehlers obituary will be short and sweet:

"**** DONK forever"

Surely have to be a little love for Herm Edwards on there too!

[Buehler445]

Surely have to be a little love for Herm Edwards on there too!

And love for Mahomes and Reid.

[Titty Meat]

Bue would like for Herm to speak at his funeral

[Buehler445]

Bue would like for Herm to speak at his funeral

I better outlive him.

[Discuss Thrower]

You realize you, yourself, are virtue signaling right?

A bit of glass house stone tossing in the thread.

That one is my virtue signal.

It's an anonymous message board... the whole point is to have discussions over topics.

[DaneMcCloud]

FWIW it’s not my intention to make a DC thread out of this.

I just read the obit and personally had no issue with it.

:shrug:

[louie aguiar]

Why didn't he protect himself? If you don't want to get COVID, you are free to stay at home, order groceries, eliminate all person-to-person interaction. Why blame others for not wearing masks?

[BWillie]

Why didn't he protect himself? If you don't want to get COVID, you are free to stay at home, order groceries, eliminate all person-to-person interaction. Why blame others for not wearing masks?

They were both in a long term care facility per the obit.

[DaneMcCloud]

Why didn't he protect himself? If you don't want to get COVID, you are free to stay at home, order groceries, eliminate all person-to-person interaction. Why blame others for not wearing masks?

Good fucking god.

[louie aguiar]

They were both in a long term care facility per the obit.

Ahh, my bad.

[louie aguiar]

Good ****ing god.

FWIW, I'm very pro-mask; I think it's clear they can reduce transmission. I wear mine wherever I go and I see almost everyone wearing masks indoors. That being said, I think it's also clear that masks are not a silver bullet. This has continued to spread even in areas with extremely high mask compliance.

[BWillie]

FWIW, I'm very pro-mask; I think it's clear they can reduce transmission. I wear mine wherever I go and I see almost everyone wearing masks indoors. That being said, I think it's also clear that masks are not a silver bullet. This has continued to spread even in areas with extremely high mask compliance.

That's because extended families don't give shit. No families wear masks when they see each other.

[MahiMike]

This guy was old. Covid just gave him the push. He knew the risks from the beginning. His age group is supposed to be the ONLY group staying in lock down.

[Mosbonian]

Unless you are a weak minded fool you quit believing in god .

Yeah....here is where you lose me. I've always respected the right of people to believe/not believe in God as that is a personal choice.

But where many atheists or agnostics lose me is when they deign to insult Christians for their belief in God, yet demand respect for their non-belief.

IMO...the only weak-minded individual is one who seeks to denigrate/belittle those who they do not agree with.

[DaneMcCloud]

This guy was old. Covid just gave him the push. He knew the risks from the beginning. His age group is supposed to be the ONLY group staying in lock down.

What the fuck?

How did the old man that passed away "know the risks?".

What were his and his family's options for care if they removed him from that or any facility?

Where else could they move him in which he could receive the care he needed yet not be exposed to COVID-19?

You're just talking out of your ass, as usual.

[scho63]

I hate to say that suddenly obituaries are turning into a page of grievances.

Engagement announcements, the stupid father/daughter dance at weddings, and several other traditions are morphing into stupidity and one upsmenship.

What a giant page a PC puffer. Makes the guy look like a bitter douche. I don't get the impression he was.

[vailpass]

We're approaching virtue signaling levels that are theoretically impossible.

Yep. So ridiculous it has transformed into comedy. I started laughing half way through. Not about the dead, but at the living.

[R Clark]

That's because extended families don't give shit. No families wear masks when they see each other.

Bullshit as usual your talking out your ass cause your head doesn’t know better

[Pablo]

This guy was old. Covid just gave him the push. He knew the risks from the beginning. His age group is supposed to be the ONLY group staying in lock down.

All praise be to the #boomerremover right?

[Delano]

Yep. So ridiculous it has transformed into comedy. I started laughing half way through. Not about the dead, but at the living.

It isn’t surprising that you get your jollies from someone’s grief when their only distinguishing features are opinions that differ from your own.

[vailpass]

It isn’t surprising that you get your jollies from someone’s grief when their only distinguishing features are opinions that differ from your own.

I have nothing but sympathy for the grieving. It’s the overboard reactions, on both sides, in which some in this country are currently engaged that I find so ridiculous as to be laughable.

[loochy]

You quoted a post twice spouting the same bullshit in different dialects of moron.

My issue is not with Marty, it's with the ding dong obituary writers.

Got a problem with me? Maybe you should tell people about it in your grandpa's obituary.

[Lzen]

Nobody deserves to suffocate to death or not have their loved ones by their side. But now it happens nearly 3,000 times a day. As someone who has nearly died and been intubated for several days from respiratory arrest due to a severe asthma attack it's a horrible, chaotic and terrible way to die. Also because of my experience I no longer believe in an afterlife. I didn't breathe for over 8 minutes, was unconscious and intubated for 5 days. No white light, no memories of my parents whispering in my ear even though they did. Covid patients that are intubated don't hear the last phone calls, don't know anyone is there. Can't squeeze your hand. They are unconscious and cannot hear anything.

I'm truly sorry that you feel that way. I can't explain why you don't remember anything about an afterlife, I'm sure that's disappointing to you. Not trying to pick on you but I wonder if you truly believed before this happened. I would recommend you and anyone else who has read your post to read the book IMAGINE HEAVEN. The author didn't believe in the afterlife, either. He started off studying the countless documented cases of reports of NDEs (Near Death Experiences) with a healthy skepticism. After doing that, he definitely believes. All of the cases have things in common. And many of them weren't even Christians or believers in God. I can understand why you would feel the way you do. I'm only about a third the way through myself but I can't see how you would maintain the hardened heart after reading this book.

[neech]

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[Buehler445]

I just read the obit and personally had no issue with it.

:shrug:

It's apparently a thing.

The top google search Results for "Marvin Farr Obituary" are:

1. Local Funeral home.

2. USA today Article.

3. NY Post article.

0% chance I'm reading any of those, but I'm guessing they're political in nature.

Not much of a thing for me, I just don't understand what kind of headspace you'd have to be in to make your Father's final remembrance bitching about your town wearing masks, when everyone that would have seen your father in the last 8 months would have had a mask on. :shrug:

[Baby Lee]

It's apparently a thing.

The top google search Results for "Marvin Farr Obituary" are:

1. Local Funeral home.

2. USA today Article.

3. NY Post article.

0% chance I'm reading any of those, but I'm guessing they're political in nature.

Not much of a thing for me, I just don't understand what kind of headspace you'd have to be in to make your Father's final remembrance bitching about your town wearing masks, when everyone that would have seen your father in the last 8 months would have had a mask on. :shrug:

Everyone tends to think their own pain is the only pain being endured in the world.

[Buehler445]

Everyone tends to think their own pain is the only pain being endured in the world.

Ha. It's been awhile since I've thought that.