Originally Posted by Iowanian (Post 9901531)

Regardless of how you feel about the topic, the letter itself is psychotic and about as asshole of a thing as you can say to the parent of a special needs child.

Originally Posted by Squatch (Post 9901546)

The letter is bad for sure but, there really are people on this forum that stoop to that level regularly and that's why this thread is funny. Some of you guys are like, "It's an outrage!" but, have treated people the same way for years.



Nope, I'm just a sasquatch lurking in the woods waiting patiently to strike.

Don't **** with the sasquatch! ROFL

Originally Posted by JASONSAUTO (Post 9902456)

Yeah, at that point I didn't remember if the child was a boy or girl.


Trust me dude there is no need to try and check ME here. And I'm not even going to explain why.
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Originally Posted by jspchief (Post 9901623)

I assumed it was rhetorical.

No. I would not want to live in a neighborhood with a troublesome mentally handicapped person. Or a neighborhood with high crime. Or on a dangerous road, etc.

No one wants to live in a neighborhood with difficult neighbors. But that's so far removed from justification for that letter, I'm not even sure how you think it enters the discussion.

Originally Posted by ThaVirus (Post 9902484)

I was just ****ing with you, man.

Are you aware of the multi-quote feature, though?

Originally Posted by Squatch (Post 9901624)

Sorry if I offended you. I do unto others as they do to me.

I know exactly what you mean and that's why I have said some things here.

What I said has nothing to do with you but, I meant exactly what I said about JasonsAuto.

Originally Posted by Mosbonian (Post 9901659)

I don't mind answering....

90% of the time you would see my son in public and think nothing of it. He is well-mannered, respectful and everything a man could ask of a son. He loves his parents, is overly-protective when it comes to his little sister, and he and his dog are inseparable.

It's the 10% of the time that his emotional issues take over that my wife and I have to handle. And at his size, sometimes "handling" becomes more about mental than physical.

We have always taught him what is acceptable behavior...although recently he has taken to using more profanity than what I find acceptable when trying to get "attention". I don't think that is anymore different than a normal 21 y/o so I don't get highly angry when he does it...I just try to be more paternal and remind him that if offends his mom.

At times we leave him home alone because he is independent enough to handle himself without needing us. Other times when we will be gone for a period of time he will accompany my wife and I. And most of the time he just sits in the car/truck reading because that is what he really likes to do.

Our dilemma...no different than any other parent in a situation like us is this...what do we do with him when we are incapable of taking care of him?

There will come a day when my wife and I can no longer care for him, much less ourselves. And that is what I have to prepare for. And it kills me.

Originally Posted by JASONSAUTO (Post 9902483)

yeah, bullshit. I really don't think there are many people here that would stoop to THAT.

and again **** you bitch.
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Originally Posted by Mosbonian (Post 9901695)

There are fewer and fewer options for group homes for Adult Special needs....and even the ones that are out there are suspect in nature. There is nothing worse than worrying about what will happen to your child when you are gone.



Good luck to your client....with the new health care insurance reform coming next year he is in for some real fun.

Originally Posted by Pitt Gorilla (Post 9902497)

To be fair, folks here can be fairly cavalier vis-a-vis death.

Originally Posted by Mosbonian (Post 9901706)

1) This one we are comfortable that we have done our best.
2) This one we are just plain out of luck. It's too much to ask friends to be support for your special needs child when you are gone, and quite frankly my family (all my family) has been little to no support. Most of the time they are no more than interested spectators willing to give advice that has little to no foundational intelligence. The only thing I am sure I will be able to count on is my daughter....she says (even at her present age as a Senior in HS) that any man who loves her and wants to marry her must understand she will never abandon her older brother.

As for your situation.....my heart goes out to you my friend. Your situation is much more tough to deal with.