Don't do it... Reconsider... Read some literature.

Maybe you're right, but I'm not willing to commit to that yet.

Have you fixed your facebook status?

So my girlfriend and I of over 2 years are breaking up. This breakup is likely going to be quite difficult, as we live together, and work at the same place. She's a lying, cheating bitch and I need to move on.

What are some decent dating sites out there? I played around on okcupid and got a few messages sent to me. Anything else worth checking out?

so, I've been poking this gal. Apparently she's been shacking up with some schmo for like 2 years, and now he's just finding out about it. I guess they work together or something. Oops.

Have her and the other guy join ChiefsPlanet so they can talk it out in a neutral setting.

if you don't pay for it, it's not worth it

however

the worst way to get over a girl is trying to date someone else right away

find a new place, ask for a different schedule/look for a new job...delete her #, hide her statuses and posts on facebook...distance yourself from her 100%...

and then find a few hobbies...bet a little $ on baseball...go work out every day...rent a bunch of movies...jerk off a lot

you're not going to be happy until you're happy with yourself by yourself

time heels all wounds...if you just bounce from this long term relationship into another one you're never going to get over this one

Good advice. Thanks!

Didn't you say you were married a few pages ago?

Rings don't block holes.

The more married you are, the more psycho girlfriend wants to have your baby!

Will it be:
Bachelorette number one?
Number two?
or
Number three???

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Do you guys believe in such a thing as "she's out of my league?"

uh yeah. It was a joke aimed at Big Smoke.

Not for me. For you, however...

:evil:

So I have been browsing around okcupid the past few days and found two ladies I really seem to like. We have talked via messaging and texting. When do I ask the question if they want to go out and something?

Do it tomorrow.

The only way they will go out with you is if you man up and ask.

I waffled w/ this current chick for so long before asking because I was scared of rejection. I should have asked her out earlier.

I did just that Buck. And she said yes! We are meeting for lunch and then doing something afterward. I was thinking of taking her to a movie? She loves baseball so 42 might be an option. What else might be fun for a first date?

A real baseball game would be better than a movie because you can't talk at a movie.

Movie is a no-go for a first date. It takes away the opportunity for you to talk, which is especially important for her.

Non-movie ideas: museums, hike, farmer's market, sporting event, any cool festival/live music going on, mini-golf, etc.


Something that you can do together but still communicate while doing so.

I think we are going to the Royals game this afternoon and then out to lunch. Thanks for the ideas!

Good job dude. Have fun.

My relationship is still going pretty great. I think this might be the longest I've ever gone without getting somewhat bored with a relationship.

I remember when I was in my mid-30s

How old are you?

I've always assumed you were in your mid-20's.

Started talking to a girl about a month ago. We have talked everyday and it is going well. Been on several dates. This last weekend was weird though, we talked all Friday then she just got busy Friday night and Saturday. It was a couple of her friends birthdays.

We would text and sometimes instead of saying anything back, she's just send me a picture of her.

Maybe I'm looking too much into it, but it just seemed weird that she stopped talking to me out of nowhere.

Should I ask her about what she sees with this? Or should I just keep going and see what naturally happens?

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If its nice out take her to a nice park and do a picnic.

Or go to a bar with a patio have a few drinks and talk.

Things are going Awesome (duh!) for DaKCMan AP and his lady.

Went out with her and one of her girlfriends Sunday night and that went well. Still planning to meet some of her other friends and her some of my friends in the next 2 weeks.

Unfortunately, my busy travel schedule starts next week. I'll be on the road 21 out of 31 days including 4 out of the next five weekends. Boo!

Any way I can parlay my sixth sense of automatically knowing if a lady isn't single with one look?

Got the friend speech on Saturday! Yay! Another friend!

Congrats! My favorite is the "I'm not looking to date anyone right now." speech.

When they give me that speech I always ask them if they have any hot single friends. Despite, putting me into the friend zone, I have yet had one that hooked me up or did not get pissed. Some ****ing friend.

At least they didn't IM you drunk while you're at work.

**** I hate that...

"I'm really enjoying getting to know you. I feel I need to be honest, though, and let you know that I want to continue getting to know you just as a friend."

Also something about "We can never have too many friends." **** that.

Sorry to hear it, luv. It always sucks to be on the receiving end of that. You just have to remember that it's not worth it being with someone who isn't legitimately interested in you. Don't let it affect your confidence and it'll just be a matter of time.

Eh, I'm used to it. This one just really bummed me out. He could write, he loved sports, he was tall (I tend to like taller guys), etc, etc, etc. Usually, if I find someone who likes to write, they're not into sports or really have no sense of humor. If I find someone who likes sports, they usually end up being the macho sort like we have on here. It's hard to find someone so well rounded.

I know I'll get over it. I just had to vent about it somewhere. He's a friend on Facebook, so I can't really say anything about it on there. I've already messaged a few guys on okcupid. One messaged back. Invited me to a soccer game Friday night. I'm kind of unsure about him. Just a gut feeling. Can never count someone out until you meet them, though.

At least it wasn't a text at 2am saying "I'm about to be arrested. It'll be awhile".

Life is fun. ROFL

I've heard the not looking to date anyone right now many times as it has happened to several of my friends. Almost always the person who used the line started dating someone fairly soon afterwards. It's a BS generic answer that is essentially "It's not you, it's me." in a different form.

I've only had it happen to me once but it was fairly recently. I work out of town fairly often so when I'm on the road I'm stuck communicating via phone. We were talking on the phone nearly every night for about an hour as well as hanging out quite a bit when I was home. This went on for a couple of weeks. Anyways, I was home for a few days and we spent four days in a row together doing various things.

I figured I'd ask her out on an actual date and start heading towards a more official relationship. Asked her out, "If it's just as friends. Sure. If not, I'm not really looking for a relationship right now."

I got out of there as diplomatically as I could and have only talked to her a couple times since then. Needless to say, she was dating someone else within the month.

Nope. I'd ignore her until she texted you.

So Mother's Day and my girl's birthday fall 3 days apart.

This is going to be a stressful week.

Only because you're beholden to women.

And what are you?

I buy IMAX tickets because they cost twice as much as regular movie tickets.

I spend the money I would spend on bitches on myself.

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I stick my penis in a vagina on the reg.

And you'll get over it.

My thoughts exactly. :clap:

As someone who comes off desperate for sex, you sure have a weird way of thinking about women, GoChiefs.

Luv, how are you going about these first dates? If you like the guy, try to hold hands, maybe give him kiss. It seems you are putting yourself in the zone.

And I do not think you have ever answered, do you not have any male groupies yet for roller derby? I have seen some straight up male looking females get men by just playing that sport.


And to the person that said the girl he was seeing is not messaging as much but yet sent you a picture, that is strange. Seems like she might be juggling.

This was my first thought too... but I've went through a couple really dumb bitches lately, so I figured I was just jumping to conclusions.

Explain what you mean with juggling?

I remember a long time ago I got the “we need to just be friends” speech. And not just “get the F away from me”, it was more like, “no, seriously, we could be good friends”.

I shot off random texts, maybe 3 over the next 6 or 8 weeks, just seeing what was up, friendly stuff. Finally I got a response….from her new boyfriend, saying that I am embarrassing myself, I need to “get over her”, and never attempt to communicate with her again.

Don't younger girls send more pics these days than texts? Instagram, etc?

Maybe it depends on what the pics were. Post 'em!

I'm facebook friends with him. Outside of a few occasional comments or liking a status (on both our parts), I haven't texted him.

Ouch. What a ****

Ouch.

Reminds me of a line from a song called "Devil May Care"

New Guy seems clingy and jealous. Seems like the perfect prize for the way she did you dirty.

Sounds like she was just being nice to avoid confrontation.

I've had an epiphany from reading this thread:

People suck and you're better off on your own.

How much does the bottle of Unscented Olay cost you? Do they allow it in or do you sneak it?

I've never quite gotten the whole "trying to stay friends" part. Once a relationship is over, I want a clean break. There are too many complications otherwise.

I've stayed friends with one ex. And there was about an 8 year period in there where we didn't see or talk to each other.

I wish this was true with several of my friends.

Seeing/talking to multiple guys at once, she keeps the one she is most interested in one hand, and juggles the others with the other.

Kinky

Some.... and holy shit is it annoying when they expect you to send pics of you and your day to day life at the same rate in return.

Jesus ****, step away from the damn phone! :cuss:

Sent my chick flowers, all her friends are jealous she told me. I didn't think I would see her for a couple weeks because of my busy schedule right now, but my plans for last night were delayed until tonight so we went out and had a really nice dinner and spent the night together.

Man, I'm really happy.

Remember all those fun seasons with Norval running your team? Because I do.

Blah Blah Blah Scott Pioli, Herm Edwards, Todd Haley, King Carl

I ****ing agree.

And I've done it every single ****ing time in my life except for this last time where I did a 90%. I said, "no more texts." She obliged. I hid her from facebook (I usually defriend), I hid her from chat, I hid her statuses, I hid her friends that were my mutual friends. I was 100% over this girl, a girl I really liked...a girl I never fought with. We were at stressful times in our lives and it just wasn't working. Clean break.

She texted sometime a few weeks ago...she usually checks in like once a month. Whatever. I pass it off. Well we met up a few weekends ago and spent the whole night/next day together...

and of course I ****ing **** myself by being the moron that I am

and now last night was just a ****ing mess

...

so dumb

should have left it alone

I will never, ever do this again. Once I break up with/get broken up with...done. No friends. No animosity. No texts. No drunk dials. Just move on.

I hate being an idiot.

That sucks.

I told my girlfriend last night that I don't do on-again/off-again relationships because it seems like most of her friends have done that with their men. I just wanted to make that clear so she doesn't try to play any games, not that I think she would.

I had a really, really, really tough breakup when I was 19...and couldn't sleep, eat...the only time in my life I was truly depressed. 3 years. I was always very reserved, kept to myself...never showed any feelings to family. Couldn't hide it. I'd wake my mom up and she finally got fed up and said, "Rick...you can't make someone love you."

Stuck with me. I acted so ridiculous then I told myself right then and there...any future breakups are just breakups. Just be done. So any time in my last 9 years on this planet when I'm done with a girl I just try and delete the memories. I don't hold on. Just move on.

This last girl is just pissing me off now. We started dating and her last boyfriend had terminal cancer...and he'd send her terrible texts about how he was just going to kill himself because she wouldn't be with him etc etc etc

I felt bad. What could I say? Dude was/is dying. It literally destroyed our relationship. We ended, I was mature...and gave her A TON of space.

She solved that riddle/got over having that dude guilt trip her...and so I tricked myself into thinking somehow we were going to work.

and last night she was such a complete bitch to me I couldn't believe it

Done.

Never again.

I'm just so mad at myself because I've learned from these mistakes before. Whatever. Time heels all wounds.

my thought on that topic:

if you broke up for a reason...for fighting/anything...

and get back together?

Sure. For a minute it may be all good and great. But the problems before are ALWAYS going to resurface.

After my first break up I was so shook up that I guaranteed the next girl I dated I was going to marry. I'm so easy to get along with. I don't fight with girls...I'm a pushover.

I just choose the wrong god damn girls. I'm tired of it.

****in A man. Feels shitty, but you already have experienced getting over it and know it's possible. When I feel like shit, I hold onto that thought that I know I will get over it eventually and it seems to help.

I don't even feel like shit. I've gotten over this girl. She was the easiest one yet. Every one gets easier with age.

I just feel like an asshole for telling her how I feel about her, her getting to take all of those nice things in...and then her being a total ****ing bitch about it.

It's ridiculous.

I know I'm an asshole on here but that girl doesn't deserve to hear those TRUE things I felt about her if she's going to act like that.

Whatever.

She'll regret it. I'm done with it.

Learning experience.

and yeah, that's basically what I tell myself/friends when shit happens

I say...

"you know what, in 5 years...will it really matter?"

these are all defense mechanisms I learned after my terrible 19 year old breakup

two relationship tips I received from mom/best friend (I'll repeat)

1. Time heels all wounds.
2. You can't force someone to love you.

some day I'll stumble into something that actually works

OkCupid sucks

They all suck.

Dear lord Hootie, pull it together. Your emotional diarrhea is hard to read.

I'll suck your dick you ****ing bundle of sticks.

Yeah Hootie actin' like a lil bitch right now.