Originally Posted by beach tribe (Post 7322809)

I'm really sorry to hear this bro. These things can be HARD. Whatever you do don't bitch up. Don't beg and whine. Be strong my friend.

Nice, but firm. Be accepting of the things she has said, but don't say you're gonna change.
Be self sufficient. Do not blow up her phone.

The more you try to pull her back to you, the further you will push her away. It's 50/50 right now IMO.

If it doesn't work out in the end. I'm really sorry, but we've all been there.
I know I wanted to die as I laid face first in the carpet for about a month, and carried the pain for what seemed like forever.
That taught me a lot, but I'm not going to lie. It still stings 9 years later. The wounds heal but the scars never go away.
I don't sweat it though......






cause my new GF is WAY HOTTER, and is into more of the same shit that I am.
Old GF used to give me shit about my Chiefs addiction. This GF buys me an Eric Berry jersey, and herself a little tight pink #7. Oh man I grab her by her ass, and throw he on the bed then I....*ahem*..... sorry.



Seriously though, its not the end of the world, even though it feels like it.

OK here comes the REALLY hard part. I'm not doing this to hurt you, but I know women.

99% chance she's met someone. And if you guys are under 25 like I think you are. This is probably the best thing that ever happened to you. If you were ready to break out the ring, her doing this now IS the best thing you could've hoped for. Live your life dude. By your own rules. Do what YOU want to do. Bang some strange.

And just as a word of advice, make sure you've survived something seriously straining, and came out of it stronger before you break out the finger cuff.

Originally Posted by Pushead2 (Post 7322819)

She hasn't met anyone else.....we've always had honesty. I've left someone before because I was interested in someone else & I wasn't torn up one bit. With her she's hysterical crying, if there was another guy she would be hurt but not hysterical.

and today I feel good.....I feel a little bit better. I have a ton of friends & I have hockey buddies so I'll be keeping busy with that & finishing my degree.

So life will go on....

Originally Posted by Pushead2 (Post 7322819)

She hasn't met anyone else.....we've always had honesty.

Originally Posted by Phobia (Post 7322804)

Did you have a good time for 3 years? Did you learn and grow from this relationship? Has it helped you narrow the dynamics relating to the personality of a gal with whom you would want to spend the rest of your life? Has this relationship left you scarred, hating women, needing a lawyer, paying child or spousal support, or missing half of your worldly possessions?

Frankly, it sounds like you had a great time dude. It hurts, yeah but this one will pass fast. You'll have fond memories of this gal in no time at all. Now, live your life and when the one shows up you'll be in a better spot.

Originally Posted by Pushead2 (Post 7319707)

another thing is she has NO family here in NYC & very little friends....She's from Oklahoma but came here to go to NYU.

So the fact that she's willing to accept being VERY lonely is making me think it's over but at the same time thinking once she sees how lonely she will be she'll think twice.

Originally Posted by Pawnmower (Post 7322823)

SOrry bro...

You may be wrong here....

DOn't just assume this if she is acting like you say she is. I was with someone for longer than 4 years and she acted almost exactly how you describe..

And I found out much later she was a liar and cheated on me.

Just ****ing be warned, they are not like us.

Originally Posted by Dunit35 (Post 7322826)

Keep your head up.

Three years ago I had to leave a relationship and I thought it was the end of the world. I am now happier than ever with my fiance of 16 months. She is so much better than any women I've ever dated. She's into sports, guns, cooking, cleaning, playing video games with me...what more could a man ask for?

Originally Posted by beach tribe (Post 7322828)

**** yeah dude. And I will bet anything that if this guy just lets this chick walk, he'll find someone that he can be himself around, and not have to worry about someone trying to change him.

Originally Posted by Pushead2 (Post 7322827)

I'm just not going to sit & think about that because it will do me no good you know?


She said there wasn't & that's that for me.

Originally Posted by Pushead2 (Post 7322829)

for sure, I've ceased contact on all ground. It's time to go forward with or without her.

Originally Posted by Dunit35 (Post 7322832)

I ceased all contact with her probably a month after we left each other and it felt like a weight was lifted off my back. With the help of a fellow cp member, I was getting much better daily. You'll be on your feet and ready to rock out before you know it.

Originally Posted by Pawnmower (Post 7322834)

Hit the gym.

Forget that bitch.

Everythign she says is lies.

Thats all you need to think of.


(youll thank me in a couple years)