In replying someone who has sent you a message on a dating website, what are things guys expect (who aren't douches looking for one night stands)? I mean, if they've sent me a message, then I've obviously passed the cut on looks, right?

One other thing I've noticed is how someone checks your profile every time the send a response. Once they stop replying, I figure they don't like what I have to say or they've decided to pursue someone else. Some kind of second cut I didn't pass.

I'd imagine most guys genuinely looking for a relationship would just want you to send them a message asking basic things about them. Not too short, not too long. The goal is to get to know someone a little bit right?

Dating websites tell you when someone has looked at your profile? Really? That seems odd and creepy...

This.

The dating sites that I looked at before I got with my wife never did that.

You can see when people were last online, who's viewed your profile and when, etc.

I've used Plenty of Fish before and a lot of the chicks are stuck up in my area. Most of them are gold diggers and have waaaaay too high expectations. Sigh I guess I'll stick to dating fat or avg chicks.

I'm guessing you were at a site that was a little more professional than the OKC / PoF tier.

Why?

It's the internet version of checking someone out.

I think I'm back on the market.

Girlfriend was completely insufferable all weekend and now I'm pretty much over it. She ruined my vacation.

Wow, that's a quick turnaround.

Jesus what the hell happened

sorry to hear that dude. Maybe it was that time of the month or something. Women are generally bi polar in nature. Just something us guys have to deal with.

And I just saw all those other posts. Doesn't matter because I realized that I actually don't love her anymore. I'm ready to go home. I'm sitting next to her in the Denver airport and we haven't talked to each other in a friendly manner since breakfast.

Our flight to Denver left at 7 am so we had to leave for the airport at 5:30 am.

On Saturday we were going to a show and when I was getting dressed for the show I realized I left the shirt at her house. So I went to Ross and bought a new shirt. We went to the show and had a great time then we got back and she was just so mad a t me over the shirt thing and said she can't see herself with someone who forgets a shirt so I called her out on it as being a stupid excuse blah blah blah. We were both drunk at the time.

Sunday we made up and kept doing our stuff.

This morning we had breakfast at a Bed and Breakfast and they ****ed up because we told them she's a vegetarian who doesn't eat eggs and they were supposed to accommodate her, so I told the people to bring her something that she could eat. She wasn't happy about that and hasn't been talking to me.

Yeah I'm over it.

She sounds high maintenance.

Abort.

That bitch is crazy.

Abort.

Sounds like Buck is the high maintenance one

There's probably more to it than that, but at the end of the day, sometimes a weekend trip like that is a good way to tell you how things really are.We dudes can be every bit as bi-polar. There's even research showing we have our own monthly cycle.

Yeah....those are two bullshit excuses for someone to get upset about.

Yeah, she won't admit to anything, but getting that pissed over a shirt is a deal breaker for me anyways.

Yeah, the shirt thing makes no sense. The breakfast I could understand, although not why she'd be upset with you about it.

You & me both, Buck. My relationship 'officially' ended yesterday.

This is why I'm slow in telling someone I love them. If my feelings can do a 180 in a single weekend, then I wouldn't consider it love.

What?! I thought things were Awesome?

LMAO Can't see herself being with someone who could forget a shirt?

WTF Buck?

Sounds like her crazy is starting to leak out....

They were.

Something in particular happen, or was it just outside forces? Sorry to hear it.

Yeah, but how was Mt. Evans?

The key to determining long-term compatibility?

Do a move together. Not necessarily your own, but just do a move together.

It's hard to believe you can be so gaga over her one week and then let a few bumps in the road like this derail the situation completely. One thing you need to realize about relationships is that they aren't always smooth sailing. A couple of the skills you need to develop before you can have a successful long term relationship are (a) being able to forgive the occasional unpleasant realities of your partner and (b) being able to defuse a problem between the two of you without laying all the blame on the partner.

Of course, the partner has the same hill to climb so no matter how good you get at it, if she's not trying to do the same it can still fail. I don't know whether this gal is someone you can be happy with or not, but most likely, both of you have some responsibility for how this weekend went. And I'm not talking about the fact that you forgot your shirt. I'm mostly talking about how the two of you interacted when these hurdles confronted you. Defensiveness and blame begets more defensiveness and blame and a mild bump in the road can turn into a significant fight pretty easily.

Whether you work on your reconciliation skills with this girl or not, you're going to have to do it at some point. It's when you can both work at fixing relationship snafus that you can really say you have a meaningful relationship. Until then, you're really just along for the ride.

That sounds like way too much work.....

Not any one particular event or disagreement or anything. It'd been passively on life support for the past 2-3 weeks. Just not 'right' for each other and I'd been traveling a good portion of the last month so that put a strain on things too.

:thumb:

What site? And is that a paid feature?

This. The shirt might be another issue. The breakfast is her not wanting a scene. These instances are part of relationships.

Seriously, who forgets a shirt.

Hell, I went on a trip last week and forgot to bring ANY underwear.

Your name is donger. You freeball.

I use OKCupid. I don't pay for anything.

My wife. She forgets tons of shit. I keep telling her that she needs to get her brain checked out.

This is two or three failed relationships for you in the last year or so, isn't it?

Do you simply attract crazy?

Maybe he attracts women who aren't looking for someone who think's he's the most awesome thing in any room he enters. Just a wild guess.

Actually I'm guessing he attracts very hot women, because he's a well-off good looking guy. And hot equals crazy. Especially down there.

No. The girls I've been in relationships with are pretty amazing - the relationships just haven't worked out for varying reasons. The last one that got to this level of seriousness was 3 years ago.

The others weren't more than casual dating & the one that ended a year ago this time was because the girl moved away.

LMAO

It'd be nice if you didn't just answer a question in your reply, but instead also expressed some kind of interest in something he's into. Or a question.

Don't just sit there and wait for him to drive the conversation.

I do that. I check his profile before responding. First I respond to whatever questions he might ask. Then I take something from his profile that interested me and ask him something about it.

That's good. It shows you're not a boring black hole like 90 percent of the girls on these sites.

Most of them have ZERO idea how to write an interesting profile, and then they get upset when they receive dozens of messages based purely on their looks.

Newsflash, ho. I don't care if music is your life, nor am I interested in you telling us all how unique and special you are, and then providing no evidence to back up said statement.

Probably cause your dick is too small:LOL:

ROFL Pretty much.

Get down the list and you get to 15) Meet the girl and realize that the pics she had are not from her current 25 year old state, but ones from when she was in college. 16) *Optional* Hate **** her for it anyway.

dude when I'd message girls on an online site I'd always be wasted and try to think of something so ridiculously random most of the time they would respond with a "uhm, wtf?"

so yeah, my humor doesn't go over well on those sites

Pretty much. I'd pick out and send messages to anyone I was interested in meeting. If I wasn't interested, why bother? I'd reply until no longer interested. Most women don't even bother replying though as they get bombarded by hundreds of dudes a day.

dude I can't do those sites anymore it is literally all fat girls and single moms

6's and 7's that think they are 9's and 10's because of their degree *that a billion other people have*, they are special, or some other inane bullshit.

The ones that have the newborn kid in the pic with them...WTF????

I just filtered out the undesirables and moms.

I already posted the blueprint for dating site lines.

Get on match.com.

SO many hot girls.

yeah match is definitely better. POF is filled with trashy hos that have kids already or are fat.

Home at last....**** Denver.

However, thanks to Donger and DaKCManAP, Mt. Evans was probably a top 3 experience of my entire life.

LOL, girlfriend already texting me apologizing for stuff in Denver.

We landed an hour and 40 min ago, I was wondering how long it would be before I heard from her, my guess was 3 or 4 days.

She should have dropped the attitude 10 hours ago if she didn't want to fight. Now I have to decide what I want to do.

That can't seem to read or write ROFL

match is loaded with hot ass snobs.

Wreck that ho.

POF is low hanging fruit

^this

... and don't forget your shirt, and anything else of value.

Well ****. My dad just texted me asking if I had a small portable grill, and I responded to him "Hey Dad. No, I don't have a grill."

Then I looked at my phone again and I somehow replied that to my girl's apology text.

Oops

Who cares? Tell her it was a mistext. If she blows her stack over that tell her she's being silly.

Ok??

I did, but I also wasn't going to text her for a couple days...so I ****ed up there.

Why weren't you going to text her for a couple of days? Why play games?

I just discovered Tinder.

It appears to be a young vagina buffet and makes playing the numbers game really easy.

The dreaded texting games.

Ahh technology.

I am not playing a game, I am legitimately pissed off at her and don't want to talk.

$10 says Buck takes this girl back

guaranteed

Someone would be stupid to take that bet.

That's bullshit. And it's a game. If you're mad, figure out a way to talk to her about it. You said she apologized, accept her apology and talk about what went right and what went wrong this weekend. Be a grownup.

Do you want someone who is going to give you the silent treatment for several days every time she's "legitimately pissed off at you"? I sure wouldn't want to deal with someone like that.

Holy ****balls, princess. How many times a month do you shave your pussy?

ROFL

(sorry. Buck)

Texting while in a relationship is pretty much the dumbest thing ever.

Especially if the couple is fighting or arguing.

LMAO

what are you, 50?

you can't text when you're in a relationship?

Nope.

I mean it as far as when a couple is arguing or fighting.

It is pretty easy to misinterpret what someone says via a text message.