I don't know we'll see. I just might, not gonna lie about it.

I went to a family reunion last weekend and my cousin told me that her daughter and her son-in-law can only argue via text. They spent a good portion of the first part of their marriage separated because he was in the military so they got used to using text a lot. But now that he's home, when they get into an argument, they often go to separate rooms and text it out. Sounded weird to me, but whatever works, I guess.

I may have worded it poorly.

From someone who probably texts more than he should -- a lot of arguments or fights have escalated more duringa text conversation because it is so difficult to hear someone's tone.

I don't know that it's bullshit man.

That was my first vacation in a year and a half and it was ****ing ruined. She ruined it. And I had to put up with it for 3 ****ing days.

It's over.

What use is being a little brat about it?

Are you a woman?

File it away under "well, that sucked." And if it happens again...ditch her.

She may be the devil incarnate and you may be perfectly justified in your anger, but giving her the silent treatment isn't the grownup way to deal with that. Talking it out with her now or telling her that you have to give some thought to what happened this weekend and it's going to take some time for you to figure it out are a couple of alternatives you have. Try to think about how you'd want to be treated if the roles were reversed and you just texted her apologizing for whatever it is that "you" did. Would you want to experience radio silence for a few days?

What was bullshit was that you didn't think it was a game. It's definitely a game. Don't play those kinds of games. Be upfront. Be honest. Be understanding. Be a non-game player and insist that she treat you with the same respect. And at the same time, allow yourself to move on if she's really not right for you. Don't just bail at the first sign of trouble though, unless it's a real showstopper.

But it was my Chargers hat!

Yea, let's give someone the silent treatment when we are in our late 20's.

Jesus, lots of growing up to do. If you can't be honest and straight up tell her what pissed you off, you might as well never get into a relationship until you can do that.

I'm drunk so I know thus wont make sense, nor will people listen to this but I feel that I have to say this:


Buck, if this girl is what you want then let her know. she might be what you want *right now* or for the rest of your life_ I havent a ****in a clue_ but regardless let her know exactly what you want at this given moment.

If she what she wamts doiesn't agree with what you want then.,.. well... I guess c'est la vie... I've mever been in that situation. But as long as you communicate then you should be in the green for whatever may happen,

You were gonna tell this girl you loved her this weekend and because she acted like a female you're not gonna text her for a couple of days? Since when are you 14?

Then tell her that, silly boy. At least acknowledge that you received her apology, but that you need a few days to mull things over.

This.

And be honest about everything. Tell her that the whole "getting mad" over leaving your shirt behind is immature bullshit and you're not going to put up with it again. If you need a couple of days to cool down though.....tell her. Tell her that you need time. Don't just ignore her for days.

I wouldn't even tell her that much. If they weren't talking during the trip, she probably knows what he's mad about. She's apologized for it. Just tell her that he needs a few days and leave it at that. It will give him a few days to get over being irritated, think things through, and not respond based on emotion. Trust me, I do that all the time. The less said now, the less he'll have to worry about not being able to take back later.

billay, tell us some POF stories....

Man where do you want me to begin?

I've met chicks who wanted 1 night stands, threesomes, girls who would talk about wanting to **** you then coming over and doing nothing, felons. I seriously could write a whole book on pof women.

Ill tell you this much though. They are severely flawed. All of them.

Yeah, I figured as much. Took one look at the first couple pages and ran the other way. Did you pull off any of said threesomes?

Yes I was being immature, I just am not used to being this mad at someone. It usually happens the other way around. Not sure what I'm going to do.

After a night of sleeping on it I still don't feel like talking to her.

Well, dude, I don't know you, but my guess is that you're really upset because you went into the weekend thinking it would be great, maybe one you'd look back on as an important time, and then it turned into a nightmare. Nothing went the way you wanted. And that ****ing sucks. You're frustrated and you're probably scared and confused. I mean, how could things turn on you like that?

I would say "take a breath". Seriously. Think about it. Less than a week ago you were going to tell the girl you loved her. And then you had a bad weekend. That's all. A bad couple of days. So what you gotta decide now was whether that one bad weekend is enough to cancel out all the rest of the time you two've spent together. And, unfortunately, you also have to ask yourself which is the real couple, the one from this weekend, or the one that isn't crazy.

It's a hard thing, figuring out what to do.

If arguments over stupid things, irrational anger, and the occasional weekend getting ruined are going to turn you into such a little girl, you better give up on women altogether and embrace your inner gayness.

You had a shitty trip. She apologized. There are only two choices: forgive her and get on with the relationship or decide she's not for you and end it. Playing the silent treatment game and going on and on about it on the Internet is something a teenage girl would do.

No shit. Buck even mentioned how they had a great time at the show, and that Sunday was fine. It must me hard keeping up with his mood swings. Poor girl.

Start with the first lie..

No lies unlike you I have a real life that extends beyond breaking copyright laws online.

Bullshit. You're the biggest fraud on this entire forum.

I'm guessing you've never even landed a single POF date.

Irony.

You can't prove a single thing.

Big fraud, you are.

Someone from athans crew calling anyone a fraud defines irony blue steel.

How is Phil's business these days?

This isn't about me.

It's about you, and being a windbag that has been full of hot air for years around here.

This is your chance to prove you're not.

how does one prove if he went on a date through pof.com?

I'm merely asking for proof that a girl on POF even responded favorably to any of his impure intentions.

I have no doubt no such proof exists.

He like some of the women on pof want to suck my dick

It's my belief that no one in the world would touch you.

I must not be understanding the story correctly if everyone is piling on Buck. She got mad at him for forgetting a shirt - he didnt get mad or do anything batshit, he just went and bought a new one. She gets mad at him. Then the restaurant they went to didnt serve vegetarian food, despite claims that they did, he said something about it, and she still got mad at him.

Wtf? What am I missing? Maybe it was a product of being in a strange place, or she was on the rag, but neither of those experiences seem like behavior I would want to put up with. Especially considering the relationship is new - it will get much worse as time goes on and she gets more comfortable.

Maybe so. Of course, it's also possible that we're hearing a distorted version of events since we only have one side of the story. It's not hard for me to believe that she did some things during this trip that were annoying (she's a girl, afterall). But it's hard for me to believe that it was an entirely one sided affair with Buck behaving like the perfect gentlemen and using flawless dispute resolution techniques to no avail. Chances are that when the going got tough, both of them cracked a bit and the situation escalated from there. I don't know who deserves the lion's share of the blame, but I doubt if either of them are blameless.

And if they want to get back on track, figuring out how much blame each person deserves is probably not the right approach. Forgiveness, understanding, and self-improvement should be the focus for both.

Self projecting.

Again, this is not about me, chubs.

Prove your POF boats or GTFO. A simple inbox screenshot would suffice.

You're full of hot air like you've always been. Calling you out.

You're on my dick plenty no screen shot needed. I attract women and guys apparently.

As for Buck I'm not sure why people are mad about the silent treatment that works both ways. He needs to slow down though if he wants his relationship to be successful.

You are a pathological liar.

Your crush on me is disturbing.

I'm just fed up with reading your BS. It's all lies. Shut up.

No.

Until you provide some proof, you're just a dumb windbag.

C'mon ladies, there's no need to fight. I'm sure you both are very pretty.

That means alot coming from a 32 year old virgin.

You keep trying to make this about me.

It's not.

It's about you. Being a liar.

You've officially been called out.

You're the biggest full of shit fraud on this forum.

I'm glad some of the heat is being taken off me in this thread now.

Also, I think I'm siding with Wendler on this one.

Yep.

Billay's pathetic boasts have an air of "look at how cool I am!"

Same thing could be said about your hero, Hootie.

Yeah but he's not lying.

Thats nice in theory, but if one person is consistently the source of the majority of the issues, then you gotta wake up and realize that its a problem.

It may be too early to say definitively, but thats the deal with new relationships - you dont have a solid foundation to rely on when times get tough.

OK, where's the proof. What's good for the Pelini is good for the Hootie.

I'm facebook friends with Hootie. He's a legit slayer of stupid 19yo slutbags.

If true, then proof should be easy to post. Pictures of said slutbags hanging all over Hootie, a piss stained mattress, or Hootie making out with another dude.

I don't know that you ever deserved any heat, but I'll reiterate that I think you need to take a deep breath. Don't do anything impulsive. Which includes the silent treatment. Not necessarily what you're doing, but that's often times just a passive-aggressive way to strike back when somebody hurts your feelings. Try to be polite, or friendly of you can. Tell her you need some time if you need some time. Don't burn any bridges yet. There might even be an explanation for her behavior that you just don't know about yet. People carry a lot of weird baggage.

If it turns out that it's a deal breaker, then so be it. I guess I'm just saying don't be rash. Relationships are complicated things.

Irony

Not all of us can be 32 year old virgins

I am neither 32 nor a virgin.

You, however, are a liar.

Here's the thing. If anything gets posted you know Clay will bother/stalk them

I've seen lots of Hootie's facebook pictures. No stalking.

Keep talking and maybe you can fly away in a balloon someday.

You live through other peoples lives cause you have none of your own further backing up my claim that you are indeed a loser. Your attempts to troll are about as successful as your wikipage. Keep crying for attention we understand a female isn't going to give you any.

I'm not trolling.

I am calling your dumb ass out.

And you can't prove shit.

But you are full of it.

All you do is lie, lie, lie. Constantly.

I don't trust anyone who chooses to live in Nebraska.

You calling anyone else out is hilarious but if theres someone who knows about failure its you.

Continue lying, then. Liar.

Bluesteel keeps it real

I don't think the girl is the only source of issues here.

The worst part of breaking up (amicably) are all of the things you planned on doing together that now aren't going to happen (at least together). I've been traveling so much lately, which definitely put a strain on the relationship, but now I'm in town for a solid 2-3 weeks. I was looking forward to being here so much and now I don't care anymore. LMAO I'm ready to go back out of town - it's a distraction.

At least I have plans for Friday night & Sunday. Working to line something up with a girl for Saturday/Saturday night.

The beat goes on.

What happened Dakc? You had just met her friends and everything....

Yeah - that went very well. Things peaked after that and then something changed. Can't say what, just felt a change.

That's exactly how I feel right now.

We have so much stuff planned for the next couple months...

bitches come & go

On to the next one

It's amazing to me that you can't find a girl willing to like you.

I would seriously just calm down. Don't jump into any rash decisions.

Unless you left a lot out I wouldn't think anything you said us enough to be done, especially with the way you said you felt about her.


Traveling is stressful, I happen to hate my whole family every time we attempt it, but it was your first time and both of you probably hoped out would go perfect.

sounds like you both overreacted when it didn't.
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thank god I'm married. If I'm ever single again, I don't even want to screw around with dating. I'll spend my money on beer, bourbon, steak, and guns.

I've made it 10 years. And you know, sometimes it sucks. There are sometimes moments when I really hate being alone. But most of the time I'm like "why the **** didn't I figure out how awesome this could be before I wasted 7 years of my life on a bad relationship".

LMAO
I lucked out with my wife; hit it off immediately. so I didn't have to 'date' much at all, thank god.

People shouldn't get married til atleast 35.

This. Dating sucks and it looks like it's 10x harder now.

It is.

Holy shit, I actually agree with you on something.

Although maybe 30. Start having kids at 35.