It seems like social media and cell phones/texting puts a lot of undue strain on relationships now days. It's like you are constantly expected to be attached at the hip 24/7 or something.

My impression anyway.

There's that, but I think despite social networking, cell phones, etc. it's more difficult to meet people. I go out with friends but through those communication methods you always know what time, where, etc. so that you have specific places & people you hang with instead of people just gathering at a central location. People go out in groups and, generally, stick to their groups. I meet new people when out with friends, but they're typically not individuals I'd want to date. It's difficult to meet people that you would want to potentially date, IMO.

Then you throw in the possible constant communication (though that hasn't been much of a problem with the girls I date - we're both busy, ambitious, working individuals). It seems to me more people go into dating with set expectations and instead of growing a relationship and molding those expectations the attitude is more looking for a perfect immediate fit, which just doesn't happen.

dont' tell my wife that. lol
I think I've finally convinced her we're too old. (36)

:evil:

One of the things that's hit me this year is that I'm never having kids (I'm 39). Really had a mixed reaction. Glad, because I'd be a terrible father, but I know it's something I may regret eventually.

This has been an interesting year for me. It's like the realization that I'm mid-life has hit me like a ton of bricks. Lots of "what the **** have I done with my life" going on. It's only taken me 10 years to figure out I'm not in my 20s anymore.

yeah; I mean if it happened I wouldn't be disappointed, but we're not actively trying. I think I'd make a good father but man....I just don't k now if I could handle the stress and $$. At this point, I want to just rat-hole money so I can retire before I'm 90.

Do you think it's partly because people isolate themselves from "real life" more now?

Absolutely.

For some, yes. The girls I date tend to not be constantly text messaging or on social networks or glued to their phones. For me, it's been more difficult to meet quality girls and then once we're going out it's been very difficult seeing each other often. It gets to the point where we have to schedule time in advance due to both of our schedules being full with work or travel. By the time it gets close to evening out the schedule where we can plan our schedules around each other to accommodate is when it falls apart.

:shrug:

I think the thing some of the young 20-somethings like DaKCman are experiencing is the increased difficulty you have finding dates once you leave the target rich environments of college/school. That's always been the case.

I don't know if dating is harder now or not, but I really don't see why it would be.

Yes - that's my main difficulty: finding quality dates.

Shotgun method on dating sites.

Don't ignore my adjective 'quality'. Have I ever dated anyone just for fun? Yeah, of course. However, the majority of the women I've dated are amazing individuals. Although I know each time I'll find someone just as (or more) amazing (it happens every time) in the future that's what gets me more disappointed than anything when a relationship doesn't work out. Many of the type of girls I date don't grow on trees and they're as selective (often more) than I am.

Match.com actually has some quality women I think you might be surprised.

I'm not saying there aren't any online - there are - what I was objecting to was the shotgun method.

I'm having a drink and playing chess with a girl who likes Starcraft on Friday. Should be interesting.

I challenge Clay and billay to an online dating duel!!! They can post screencaps and PM them to the neutral party of their choosing or just post them here for all to see. Time for the call outs to be answered.

Match or cupid?

How come no one ever mentions eHarmony? Is that site still around? My sister used to use it, I think. I'm not sure whether she considered it a successful experience or not. She eventually met her current boyfriend the old fashioned way, in a bar.

It's for pretty princesses who want a man who loves god as much as them!

Clay has fired the first salvo, can billay answer? I have received thy proof billay, now it's your turn. Let the battle begin!!

Should have turned this into one of my classic threads ROFL

Oh, it's a religious site? That's weird, because my sister is only nominally religious. She's not a regular churchgoer.

I bet she has "a relationship with God."

Give her a relationship with your rod.

You have to marry them first.

billay may have the upper hands in slaying these "hood rats". POF vs. OkCupid is a bit unbalanced of a matchup. He has yet to prove anything yet though....

Even hood rats can do better than billay.

That remains to be seen. Can he come through?

Or bury them first. if you're into that sort of thing. NTTWWT

So about 4 hours ago I was just hit by a wave of fear. I am talking to my gfs this weekend, and am very anxious about it. I don't want it to be over...not sure about her. Gonna be a rough couple days.

IMO, you can do better, Buck.

So just tell that ho what's up. And if she reacts negatively...just get up and leave son. Get up and peace the **** out.

Be strong, my man.

Clay, did you just finish watching a Boyz N Tha Hood marathon?

Day one of the duel....

Clay 1
billay 0

I'll show you another girl who was really interested in me until I started ignoring her tomorrow.

We all know chicks want a 32 year old virgin basement dweller

Does she look like liz cheney?

Billay, this stopped being funny, what, two, three years ago? Come on man.

Just stop blowing hot air. No one wants to read your lies.

I would show pgm in private if it meant you left forever but we all know this site is one of your only friends.

Tap out acknowledged. Concession accepted.

Go on...

Send me some proof billay. I am a man of honor and it won't go further than my inbox. I didn't even post the one Clay sent.

Side bet for the loser? I'll be the judge.

You're wasting your bandwidth. Billay doesn't get messages from girls on dating sites.

I have no doubt he could conquer some POF skanks. I just need the proof.

You looking for videos or what

How about a single message from one girl on any dating site agreeing to meet you anywhere at any time?

IS SUCH A THING EVEN POSSIBLE?

Probably not because I always get their # and talk in text

Oh, sure. I'm guessing chicks are just flooding your inbox with their numbers.

Your obession with me is creepy. Your obsession with Geno Smiths penis, the video of you eating a hotdog sexually in barrys tailgate video, and your screen name are all very suspect.

Billay again deflecting.

It's not about me, chump. It's about your boastful lies and all the hot air you constantly spew.

You've been called out. Step up, or step off.

I made a bet offer you ignored it.

This is not about me vs you, billay.

I'm just trying to expose you for the fraud you are. You continue to shoot off your mouth. I call bullshit.

Prove it or STFU. No one wants to read your lies.

If you are so certain why won't you bet me?

I will say no more.

Cripple fight aside..

DaKCman, your relationship just sounds like a weird one to me.

"I'm out of town and coming back this weekend when she'll be out of town, but we have a date planned for next Tuesday"

Then:

"I'm back on the road, she is too. I sent her a good night text 3 nights ago; things are going well. We have a fondu dinner date planned for next Wednesday"

How do you really get to know someone like that? I know I don't have all the facts, but it just seems like maybe you're too busy to date seriously. Know what I mean, playa?

A little bit, now that you mention it.

Whenever I get that anxious/nervous/fearful feeling in my gut it's pretty much over. Good luck to ya, bro.


It was definitely not ideal and pretty challenging. We spoke daily but both have very busy lives. There were a couple of weeks where we were both in town and saw each other 3-4 times, but then there were also droughts where we only met once per week. Most of the women I date have very busy lives. I've done the long distance thing before and for me it doesn't work.

LMAO @ the fondu dinner date - good stuff.

billay says the evidence won't attach.

If he can't provide proof by tomorrow, Clay is the winner and has braggin rights.

A simple screencap like Clay provided is all. He provided evidence of what he was talking about.

This is not a competition. I am not bragging about something as stupid as a message on a dating site. Those are not hard to come by.

But if Billay can't even produce that...just more proof he's a lying sack of shit.

Yeah, I'm not seeing anything to believe that he's telling the truth.

Billiar.

OkCupid is crawling in 7's BTW

Show me how to attach a photo in pm using taptalk.

Post for everyone to see :evil:

Slam it?

The **** it is...

Welp. This thread has definitely become the boys' club.

Spoke with a girl last night that I dated for a month last year. Timing wasn't right back then but we'll plan on getting together sometime in the next week or so.

Trying to line up some dates with other girls too, but that may take longer.

Pray for my dick tonight. It could use some blessings.

Depends on where you live, but there definitely are alot of 6's to 7's on there. Not much above that and even MORE below that threshold, but I just block them all. That might have something to do with my perception of it.

I just sent one out to the nerdy girl's vagina.

This site is 5000:1 men to women and the "1" are mostly married. Pick up the slack!

Love ow it says I got x number of views or rated you highly on the tab... But there's nothing actually in there registered

so this is my new trend

I drink until about 3 AM when I go out...and I drink heavy

so I'm still 'tipsy' until at least noon the next day

well I'm always up at 9 for work

and I've been texting girls and then making dates with them for the night and then by 5 PM I so dread it

and that's happened today

and I hate it

Not like you ever use it.

Just got home. She won the chess game. Nice tits.

I had the most amazing pounding session ever last night.

Some thoughts that came to mind:

1) Sure, but will he ever call you again?
2) Catcher or pitcher?