:spock: so much for all of your well reasoned advice and concern

I think the Internet and forums like this are fine for releasing frustrations and venting... but counseling on sensitive issues like this, when the details are unknown... not healthy.

I wish the guy the best for what he's going through, but take little of what's said here to heart, outside of the best wishes type stuff. Only you and your wife/significant other (didn't read to see if you're married, just making the assumption) know what's best for you here, if it's meant to be, you can work through it.

Wouldn't make a **** to me lol

I have forgiven her.

My son comes first.
Making his mother, whom I love, my enemy will not create anything positive for anyone involved.

We've talked about what needs to be done.

We are getting along and moving things forward.

It's going to be a big change. I've never been away from my son.
I don't know how it will be good for either us. I'm kinda his window to the world.

She has no idea what she's in for with me not around all the time.

I worry for them both.

I love them both.

I will miss them both.

Keep your head up, brother.

Sound advice.

Everyone's is regarding their reference point for what inspired it in them.

Information is only as valuable as how you decide to use it..or not use it.

I like to kid around. If anyone gets a chance there is a book "Sperm Wars" that will make you the most cynical person ever.

The best advise I received was to feel your pain and let it run it's course (but not too long). Let it happen. Don't try and cover or suppress it. Deal with it how YOU deal with it.

because it's easier to place anger on someone that you don't still love

This...and move forward and do things that make you happy and continue with that. Heartbreak sucks...esp when you believe you are with the one. Trust me it gets better!

It really is..

I think that was actually just me shaking out the last bit of juvenile BS left in the tank.

I thought I was pretty tough once upon a time.

The last time I got my heart broken was in HS.
And it was the only frame of reference I had for how I was feeling.



Noooooooooooow,

this guy is an ex-con, and ex crack head and he's gonna be around my son.

Though I'm not hoping that it will happen, this increases the chance that he does catch an actual beating quite significantly.

Something tells me he won't be around your son very long.

Damn.

Well said.

Tribe... dude, sounds like this is really going to test you

I'm glad the juvenile BS is spent, you'll need all your best wits right now... you may have forgiven her, but this thing seems far from over IMO

Steady as she goes, no hard turns

Supposedly he's cleaned up.

She is clean and lives right. She's a nurse and won't allow BS around her son.


Of course I also thought that she wouldn't **** the dude. So what do I know.



FTR She's always loved this dude. I have no idea why. He's not attractive.

This is what happens when you hook up with someone for their looks/physical attraction.

I've actually felt guilty over the years for leaving a woman who really, truly loved me for this one......For one reason, and one reason only. Because she's hot.

I was flying all over the world taking her on my business trips. Bar-tending weekends. ****ing loving life, man.
And shit has done nothing but get worse since I've met this woman.

Bitch beat me down. Almost KO'd me with this shit.

But I didn't hear no bell.