I’ll be alright as long as I’m not calling out an attorney for having a booger on their nose at a Chiefs game!!!

Some things should be sacred.

JMO.

I think I would function very well with a Long Distance Marriage. That would be awesome. Don't ever have to see her, get all of the benefits. How does one sign up for such a thing?

Not seeing each other day and night, 8 hrs a day, IMO is the key to a successful marriage. It's important to have hobbies and interests of your own, and then have couple hobbies as well that you do as a couple. But all day, everyday, that is exasperating.

Was there ever any hint that maybe you shouldn't have married her?


Anything at all............?

You've never been married, but you know the keys to a successful marriage.

If ever a post summed up ChiefsPlanet...

What are some things that should be sacred? Not being facetious...just wanting to hear your take on it.

Your personal relationship, including all problems, past and present. (especially with parents and in laws). better to keep those issues in house...it's extremely personal information, and can lead to a feeling of betrayal.

Your sex life..while it's easy to boast or brag about it, in the end cheapens what is actually pretty amazing and special...being with your wife. Having that all to yourself is cool. Don't get too many of those in life.

You raise an interesting point, and I am actually going to think pretty hard about it because I think it may be a better way of looking at it.

With me and the sex life, to start, I know my wife doesn’t care and she thinks it’s funny to talk about. So I know I am safe there. I could say that I wake up with her bare ass in my face 5 times per week and she would laugh...and it is true. I do wake up with her ass in my face 5 times per week. Talk about waking up in a good mood. To be honest, when we were separated, I hated that I didn’t have that in my life. Woke up very grouchy. But also, I’ve just always been a pretty open dude about that stuff. I just get a kick out of talking about it...like locker room talk. I don’t know why I am that way.

However, your post has me thinking. You could be right on here...at the very least, you are more mature about it.

Her and I were pretty cold and distant to each other for a month or so, but then the last two weeks she started dolling up and batting her eyes at me and looking at me in a way that I haven’t seen from her since we were 18 and began dating the first time. I knew then, yeah...we aren’t gonna go through with it. She loves me now and is feeling those same butterflies she felt when we first met at a wrestling meet when we were Seniors and she was all flirty and batty-eyed. It’s been like that since. I swear, the 6 week absence did make us grow fonder.

If I were to think of a happy thought that put me in a happy place, I’d think of how she has looked at me like I’m the hero of her world the past couple weeks...the same way she looked at me the first couple years. I am so happy to have gotten that back for now.

I moved to Florida for a year before my wife and son moved down here. It sucked.

This thread should have been named - Marriage - well yes is sucks!

It’s a bittersweet symphony.

Do you know why she looks at you like you're cool, or are you just accepting it and enjoying it temporarily, hoping it'll last but deep-down expecting it won't?

Clearly, there was something cool about you that attracted her in the first place, that caused her to fall in love with you first.

But what does she have? Does she have any "game" other than showing her pussy and asshole in the morning? If not, then she's the one with little value, not you, and your attitude should reflect that.

This is a thought provoking post.

I see what you mean and it’s not a bad point because I made it come off that way. It’s not like our relationship was/is solely based on her waking me up with her butt in my face. There is more to it. And she didn’t totally lose the glow from the first couple years, it’s just back then she idolized me because I was the local powerhouse wrestling team’s captain and she was a cheerleader for a rival school and she thought I was hot and funny. She’s always thought I was/am funny. It’s like when we met, a lot of these cheerleaders had crushes on me and the look I described I guess could be considered a flirty expression...I know the expression. I hadn’t seen that flirty expression in years. When you get to know someone and date them long enough, you start not really seeing the need to flirt. You get passed that stage. You get comfortable and used to it. And her flirty face came back. It was nostalgic and nice to see. I felt 18 again.

The way I look at it, we both have our qualities, both have areas we need to work on, both have areas where we are mutually awesome together and both have areas where we can be toxic together. I don’t think there is a good/bad guy or a good/bad gal in our situation. She’s very funny, selfless, caring, nice, etc. I won’t get into the things I think she needs to improve. I will save that for counseling. I make her laugh to this day, I’ve been working out, I provide, I take care of the bills, I care for her beyond words, I’m loyal and literally only have eyes for her...don’t even watch porn, I am generally nice. However, I upset her when I get distracted with things not related to the family. 3rd shift can also make me short and cranky...I hate it. I can be argumentative when it’s not necessary. I get jealous. There are things I can work on. Together we excel at raising our kids, having fun, being fun to be around, telling each other constantly that we love each other, conversation in general...we are best friends. However, the toxicity from us as a duo shows its face at times...we shouldn’t drink together. We spend too much time on our phones at times. We have a difficult time letting go of the past. We argue. We make assumptions. Things took a nasty turn when we both began taking each other for granted... that’s when I think things imploded.

I am optimistic that we can fix all of this. I reallllly wanna get off 3rd shift. We’ve been doing good lately. Been working out together, fishing, camping, etc. Need to keep the positive momentum going.