Yes.

See the part I have bolded....that tells me you put the value of sex so high that if it isn't rocking your world you want to leave the marriage.

I would venture to say that if there is any one thing you need to understand better before you go into a marriage, that is it.

I would appreciate a link to something to substantiate your claim.

You just don't get it.

Do you think two people who have no interest in having sex with each other can stay together for 40 years?

Interesting...you added that last line while I was answering you.

Marriage isn't like buying a car....you don't get to "try out" the person before "buying" them.

SO much will change after you get married....I won't speak for women here, but I am betting that a woman won't leave you because you don't rock their world in bed, especially if you are a good hubby in other ways.

Go look it up....see what women value in a marriage vs. what a man values in marriage.

Really? I don't get what?

You keep missing my point because you can't think beyond the end of your Johnson....

You think the ONLY thing that is important in a marriage is sex. I am telling you that the longer you are married, the less you FOCUS on sex. It is still there, and it can still be great, but the reason you stay with a person has nothing to do with performance in bed.

Let me ask you this.....would you want your wife to leave you if you had an injury that rendered you incapable of sex?

That's exactly what dating is. Sex included.

And you aren't answering my question.

What if you are completely sexually incompatible with a person?

What then? How do you stay together?

I didn't say that. At all.

But if you are not sexually compatible with a person...getting married is a bad idea.

I can't, of course, but don't need to. I rarely ever speak in absolutes (just to avoid people like you) and even in your post that I bolded and agreed with, you qualified it with a "probably".

I'm not saying there aren't some women out there that have waited until marriage to have sex for reasons completely separate from religion.

Dating is the "trying out" period - that's pretty much the whole point. No, you won't get the "I've lived with you for 10 years" experience while dating, but you try and figure out as much of that as possible.

Sexual compatibility is an important part to any relationship. Nobody here is saying it has to be the best sex of your life, but making sure sexual interests and similar, and most importantly, sex drive/frequency are along the same lines is extremely important. Devaluing sex is crazy. There's a reason why sex and money are the two biggest issues of contention in marriages.

Source: was married for 10 years.

I answered your question....you are avoiding mine.

People don't stay together JUST FOR SEX!!!!!!! You really need to understand that.

Read my post above.....

No you didn't.

You are completely sexually incompatible with someone. The sex isn't even mediocre. It's awful, at best. Horrific. Disgusting. Putrid.

How do you stay with them for 40 years? Do you even think you would be happy having awful sex, or no sex, for 40 years?

Answer that for me.

You are correct....dating is a trying out period, but not specifically for sex.

I never said sexual compatibility isn't important...quite the contrary. But I say it isn't a reason to leave marriage. And trust me, women adapt more to mens sexual desires that vice versa. And in all reality money is the biggest reason that marriages crumble...infidelity is the second.

Source: Married for 30 years.

So people who aren't sexually compatible...shouldn't be married?

Yes or no.

I answered your question....you are sticking your fingers in your ears and pretending I am not.

You are saying that the only way that a marriage can last 40 years is if people "try each other out" first....I say that you are wrong.

Let me turn this around....do you think if people are compatible in bed they will last 40 years in marriage?