ChiefsPlanet - Life New Dating Megathread

As much as I hate to say it, you may be right. I don't think I can do a non-physical relationship.

Sounds like an asshole thing to say, but I don't think a successful relationship/marriage can be had without having sex.

Waiting until marriage for sex is a big gamble.

Cephalic Trauma

01-28-2014 11:48 PM

Yeah, especially if you marry her. When you bang her scrotal folds contorted into labia, she won't get pregnant.

Hammock Parties

01-28-2014 11:48 PM

You seem to like this girl, so give her another chance.

Date her for a month. Tell her you can't continue to see her without getting intimate.

She is honestly hopeless if she can't engage in a mutually pleasurable experience with her SO at that point. It's a healthy and natural thing, and draws people closer.

Of course you have to decide if she is worth that month, too. The girl I'm currently seeing is making me wait, and I'm perfectly fine with that, because we get along great. But I also know she isn't going to make me wait until freakin' marriage.

patteeu

01-29-2014 08:01 AM

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Originally Posted by RunKC (Post 10399841)

You just got done saying she's not anti-physical. She just won't go all the way... for now at least. If you had a good time, see where it goes and try not to obsess on intercourse. Don't let these guys talk you into blowing off a potentially good girl with their stupid macho bullshit. Be a gentleman and see (a) if you're good enough for her and (b) if she can make you happy. Like you said, if she gets to the point where she trusts you to treat her right and if you two hit it off, the embargo on sex before marriage might go by the wayside.

Don't mistreat her or use her for her body though. If that's what you want, look for a girl who's equally shallow.

Good luck.

KC native

01-29-2014 08:41 AM

IMO, a girl that puts a prescribed waiting period on sex is damaged goods.

DaKCMan AP

01-30-2014 02:09 PM

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Titty Meat

01-30-2014 03:06 PM

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Originally Posted by RunKC (Post 10399796)

Just got back. This girl is without a doubt one of the coolest girls I've been with. She's really got a great personality.

She did say she wants to wait until marriage. Why? Every guy she's been with has just wanted sex. There was no passion or dinner dates, spending time together (you know that bullshit that girls like) and she didn't want to just have sex. It ruined her past relationships/dates.

She said she would do everything leading up to sex, but it's weird bc she said that guys hated it that she didn't put out, so I don't get what actually happened?

This isn't a religious thing, and I would bet money on the fact that if I was close with her sex would eventually happen before marriage, like it naturally does.

She's ****ing other guys

sedated

01-30-2014 03:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Saul Good (Post 10397570)

I think you have that second part wrong. Men can impregnate a virtually unlimited number of women, so we are wired to be prolific. Women have a very limited number of children they can carry, so they are wired to be selective.

I think we were saying the same thing. Since women, in the biological sense, are more invested through the childbearing process and limited by the amount they can have, they have "more to lose" if pregnancy were to occur, and therefore are more selective.

sedated

01-30-2014 03:22 PM

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Originally Posted by RunKC (Post 10399796)

Its a test. If you ditch her, you are just another a$$hole. If you say "you are worth waiting for" and go along with it for a while, she will put out. No way she is waiting until marriage if its not tied to religion - its too hard to resist without the threat of an eternity of burning hellfire.

Just don't get too worked up in the "everything but sex" - seriously...no wonder other dudes ditched her, blue balls is torture.

The Franchise

01-30-2014 03:25 PM

Is she against sex or everything sexual? You need to find this out.

MahiMike

01-30-2014 03:50 PM

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Originally Posted by RunKC (Post 10393578)

Went on a nice coffee date at Starbucks for 2 and a half hours. This girl seemed to really be awesome, so I'm taking her out to dinner tomorrow night.

Basically that's a 2nd date I guess. Should I go in for the kiss if things go well again or wait?

Never kiss a girl you haven't banged. Makes you look weak. Better to withhold sex from her...)

MahiMike

01-30-2014 03:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Douche Baggins (Post 10394549)

Or just have exclusive sex with your girlfriend. Not hard, bro. Marriage is just a piece of paper.

Yep. One no man should sign.

MahiMike

01-30-2014 04:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Mosbonian (Post 10394677)

So what you are really saying is that if marriage doesn't go your way the whole time...."you are outta there"?

I'll say it again....you should consider never getting married. Ever.

Why does anyone get married these days? We're in a rut in our society that tells us we need a college degree, wife, 2 kids, house and dog to be normal. I have all these things and now ask myself why? Just so I can fit in? I'm on my 30th car and only my 2nd wife. How the Hell can I be expected to stay at those numbers? There is too much life left to live.

Big Poppa Payne

01-30-2014 04:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Pestilence (Post 10402782)

Is she against sex or everything sexual? You need to find this out.

Also you need to ask her if she's into anal because as everyone knows the vagina is the 3rd option.

Rausch

01-30-2014 04:08 PM

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Originally Posted by npayne1978 (Post 10402887)

Also you need to ask her if she's into anal because as everyone knows the vagina is the 3rd option.

And no matter what they say there's three good holes on a woman...