My brother just got divorced after being married for 14 years. He's a bum who doesn't want to pay child supprt or see his kids. My mom goes over to my ex-sil's house about three to four times per week. Helps with household chores, goes ofer my nephew's math and spelling homework with him, etc. I love to hear stories about how my younger niece made student council, my nephew got his bonus words right on his spelling test, etc. She talks to my brother, and all he asks is if she gave his ex his phone number, how she's a bitch, etc. Says she was texting him about child support, but not wanting him to see the kids, etc. She has good reason. He bitches, but has he ever tried to see them? No. Does he ask mom about them at all? No. She talks about what they've been doing, and he starts text messaging his friends. He is 36 years old, yet has never gotten over feeling like the world owes him something for nothing. He's a total douche.

He sounds like a real prince of a man.

Lived with you for FIVE(5) years...and now makes excuses to not see his kids when he's back on leave?

Maybe her new man will want to be their father.

yea, that is what I am afraid of. I would be devistated if I didn't get to see those babies.

I really don't think she would do that to hubby and me as we try to get them at least once a month and spoil them when we have them...clothes and toys not to mention all the love and attention we can give them

If its anything like the situation I'm familiar with....the last 10 words are the most necessary and needed.

My ex-sil has a new man in her life. He's awesome with the kids. Has one of his own from a previous marriage that's their age that he has part time. My mom has told both my brother and ex-sil that she is not getting in the middle of the two of them. She's there to see the kids and is only interested in what's best for them. My ex-sil told her she's welcome over anytime she wants.

Good chance her problems are with him, not you...

I've got to fight my ex for time with kids. She will look you in the eye and say "I will work with you whenever you want to see the kids." and turn around and call the cops claiming that you kidnapped them.

I guess I lucked out. My ex walked out of the house when my son was almost two. (It was a Thursday.) Said that he would be back the next day to pick up the babe so he could spend the weekend with him.
My son just turned 16 in December.
One of the most heart wrenching things, as a mother, is to walk out of the kitchen and see your child sitting on the porch step, waiting on a father, which you know will never come.
I may not understand it, but I have lived it.

Plenty of ex's try to keep the other parent from seeing their kids. However, that's not what this sounds like. Sounds like he just doesn't care and doesn't have the guts to be a dad.

I just don't understand people like this. I have my daughter 3 times a week and it's not enough. Luckily my ex and I get along fine and my daughter and I are best buddies and I can get her a lot.

Damn that's sad.


A long but fascinating story of Dr. J and the daughter that he was estranged from for 20+ years, and their recent reconciliation.

http://sports.espn.go.com/espn/etick...rjandalexandra

Exactly! No one would keep me from seeing my kids.

My buddy is going through the early stages of divorce. His wife is a useless mother. She has no maternal instinct whatsoever, she just wants to party down like it's college, and she's in her early 40s!

I'm keeping my fingers crossed. He's a great dad, but in Mass., getting custody is pretty tough for the father. We'll see.

This

It might be a good idea to stay away if the woman pisses you off so much it effects your action toward you kids

great story, thanks for the link