This.
I wouldn't give random stuff to people just to do it but items that mean something to you or them would mean more if you gave it to them in person.
You hang in there hon.
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Do you have a will? I would say it's good to give what you can, but a will & testament will cover whatever you miss. As for how the receiver will feel, I think that depends on who they are. If they know your situation and your intentions, then I would think they wouldn't think it was morbid at all. That's just my opinion though. There are a lot of people who probably wouldn't accept it given the circumstances (like maybe they don't want to accept that you won't always be there). In those instances, it's good to have a will. Generally, even if people contest it, unless you weren't of age or of sound mind, or if it was not executed properly, then the court will do what it says. A person's last wishes are serious business.

Give the personal approach a try and see how it goes. It's your life.

I'm really saddened to hear things are moving to this stage. Your dignity is a model for us all, Pam. Thanks for sharing this part of your life with us.

I'd give them all of your threads. That way you're not really out anything of value.

I just want to give some personal things to my family and some of my friends. I want them to know why I think they will be "good stewards" of said things. Why they mean what they do. That sort of stuff.

my clothes, CD's all that stuff, my kid and hubby can figure out that...

My husband wants nothing do do with these kinds of conversations but I feel I need to...Makes it hard sometimes.

Hubby thinks if he sticks his head in the sand it will go away.

I NEED to plan things (reverse nesting I guess) to help ease my mind.

For instance: in our home town, Cemetary plots are 200 dollars each in ICT they are 1500

Hubby says he will deal with it when needed and he won't need it for 50 years.

Yes, I would want to give away some very personal items while I could still try to tell the recipient why I want them to have them and answer any questions they might have.

I'd also schedule my own wake for a time that I'd still be around to enjoy it with the people I love.

Would you invite some of us to the celebration ?

A great big party would be cool

You bringing bacon?

This... :(

:( x eleventybillion

Absolutely. I don't want to leave anything behind. I want to spend it all or give it all away while I'm still alive.

It's ok Pam I'm at that stage also,I give everything to my 3 kids and let my Mom sort it out :( They all know how I feel about my critters and I have no doubt they will do the right thing.

I wonder if it would help to approach your husband from this angle:

=Let him know that you understand it's very hard to talk about/think about.
=Tell him that talking about this issue will clear your mind and allow you to face what you're facing as best as you can...almost as if you need to address this in order to feel better.
=He could be in denial...or he could understand but wants to be strong for your family.

Just a few thoughts.

I would give my special items to those who I thought should have them. However, being the receivee would make me sad (at first).
Do what you think's best. That way you can't go wrong.