TIP: walk up to a mirror and look into it. Stare at the person you see and ask this question: What did you do or not do to prevent this?!? Are you at fault?

If the answer is nebulous, then you need to BARK.

B.A.R.K!

B = Be somebody
A = Act like somebody
R = React like somebody
K = Kollect your reward.

BARK: WOOF! WOOF!
Growl til you get what you want.
Don't let anybody push you around.