coached my twin sons team for 6 years before i quit and let someone else take over. then my wife started coaching the daughters softball team and had me help w/that. i made 4 games and this one girl wouldn't stop w/this, "my dad says we need to do this," and "my dad says we need to do that". **** it...i was done. let her dad put up w/that shit.
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Yeah, our championship game was terrible.

One of my teams (out of towners) was undefeated and playing their team who was also undefeated and hasn't lost a game in a couple years. First they pulled a ref from another small town and put in a ref from their town who had a little brother on the team. I knew we were probably ****ed right then.
We had 5 players depantsed in the first half and if those parents hadn't been acting like such assholes I probably would have ended up blowing my top.

the good thing about my guys was I think they realized their dads were douchebags

My sons hockey coach (age -12) argues or complains after every call and it is even worse when his kid (he's an idiot) gets one even though he deserved them, he calls the ref over to the bench repeatedly and eventually the calls get worse for us, never better. It is also extremely embarrassing as a parent and assume for the kids.

I like Andy's style, and would try to mimic it in some fashion. He seems to take the approach that "what's done is done, let's move on to a play for the down / distance"....I like that. In reality, the call isn't going to change, so why dwell on it. Call the best play you have for the new down / distance, and focus on what's happening next.

I also think that, instead of arguing, I'd be asking the official what they saw on the play. So, instead of arguing, you're trying to understand why something did, or did not get called. But either way, I think the refs probably understand that you weren't happy with how that turned around, but in a more productive way...

For instance: A PI call you thought should have been made against the other team could sound something like this: "Hey ref, I thought I saw their guy their early, what did you see....", and let the ref explain their side. At the end of the day, the call wasn't made, won't change, but without pissing anyone off, you got your point across, and also allowed them the opportunity to respond as well.....

Of course, all of that is easier said than done, because I constantly yell at the refs while watching!

I generally like Reids approach, he only gets real fired up on super close/ticky tack stuff... hollering at the refs as a general practice seems counter-productive

But that's for the coach, with Mahomes I'm all in favor of him urgently but politely arguing a call/non call because all QB's do it

I liked that in flag you're on the field with the team and coaches. Made it easy to make the point but keep it low key

If you build a rapport with an official and treat them with respect then you can sometimes get the benefit of doubt and can even point out penalties occurring against you. But if you berate and admonish officials then they're may ignore your calls for penalties on the other team.

I bet Andy says a lot more to officials that we don't see, but he isn't blowing his top and probably does a lot of his communication prior to the game. But Andy also isn't a hot head and is usually pretty damn level throughout games.

Treating people with respect is always the best route to take.

Just once I'd love to see some ref knock a big mouth coach on his ass. Surprised we haven't seen that by now.

He remembers though. See the LA game. He got some digs in on that game well after it was over.

Some coaches know how to work the refs. They are nice to them, they yell at them. They know just what to do to push them into giving their team a slight edge when it comes to penalties. It also depends on how respected the coach, how good the team.

Just like in other sports, the winners get a bit of an edge.

The Michael Jordan rule etc

In baseball, the great pitchers get the strikes and balls.
In basketball, the great players get foul calls.
In football, the great teams get the 50/50 calls.