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cdcox 12-04-2009 08:43 PM
Sorry for your loss, Tiny. The Ben Stein story was very cool. Lots of other good stories in this tread.

Sweet Daddy Hate 12-04-2009 08:57 PM
Good job TE, you handled that incredibly well.

TinyEvel 12-04-2009 09:01 PM
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Originally Posted by C-Mac (Post 6317259)
Well they appeared to tell you what was happening but did they ever diagnose what would cause such to happen?
I've only heard of poisoning doing that kind of damage that quick.
Either the marrow stopped making the platelets or a disease was causing the immune system to destroy them. Possibly cancer. Possibly a tick-born disease that the test will come back in two days about. Every option required extensive examination/tests and she was so far gone at that point we wanted to give her peace. The thought has crossed my mind. I will call and ask again, on Monday.

Pioli Zombie 12-04-2009 09:32 PM
I would have blamed it on Obama
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TinyEvel 12-04-2009 09:36 PM
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Originally Posted by Pioli Zombie (Post 6317332)
I would have blamed it on Obama
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No wonder you have red rep. :shake:

SenselessChiefsFan 12-04-2009 09:41 PM
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Originally Posted by scorpio (Post 6316668)
My dad told me my dog died while we were at Disneyland. I was 9. You can't do much worse than that.
Okay, so my father died, and my mom went off the deep end. I took her car to go see a girl (I was 14, but I had been driving since I was 12)

She took me to the hospital to have a drug test. When that came back negative, she had me held over for a psych evaluation. After the doctor met with her and I, he refused to let me go home with her until she started seeing a therapist. So, they put me in the psych ward at Shawnee Mission, and she was supposed to come and do counseling with me. Well, she didn't like coming to counseling because the doctor would often 'attack' her. (Her words).

So, I was in there six weeks, through the winter. My mother, who has always been kind of a partier and gambler, left my dog outside and it froze to death.

She told me over the phone as she was telling me that she wasn't going to continue her counseling. So, I spent another two months in there before they had to let me go because the insurance ran out.

That 'might' be worse than learning that your dog died at disneyland.

Fat Elvis 12-04-2009 09:44 PM
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Originally Posted by JD10367 (Post 6317161)
A man went on vacation and asked his brother to watch his house, and take care of his cat, whom the man loved.

A few days later, he called his brother. "Hey! How's everything going?"

"Good," his brother said. "But the cat's dead."

"What? What do you mean, the cat's dead?!?"

"Sorry, man, it just died."

"Jesus, dude! You had to tell me like that?!?"

"What do you mean?"

"Well, couldn't you break it to me a little easier? That was harsh!"

"How?"

"I dunno! Maybe the first time I talked to you, you could've said, 'The cat got out and is on the roof'. Then the next day you could've said, 'The cat fell off the roof'. Then the third day you could've said, 'The cat's not doing so good.' THEN you could've told me the cat died! You know, sort of ease me into it!"

"Oh, geez, bro, I'm sorry."

"That's okay, it was just a shock to hear you blurt it out like that." The man sighed. "So, anyway... how's ma?"

"Oh... she's on the roof."



Our pastor told us that joke in the sermon last Sunday.

Easy 6 12-04-2009 09:44 PM
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Originally Posted by stevieray (Post 6316741)
...with the promise of a new puppy?
Yep, the kids would move on very quickly.

Pioli Zombie 12-04-2009 09:51 PM
I read a story somewhere, one of those "most embarrassing stories ever", from this woman whose dog came home with the neighbors bunny rabbit dead in his mouth. So she and her husband came up with the brilliant plan of sneaking over and putting the rabbit back in its cage. So they did it and ran back home, figuring the family would be sad by finding the rabbit dead but at least they wouldn't get in any trouble. A few hours they hear horrified shreiks. They run outside to find out why the hysteria. The mom says "Ginger died yesterday and we had buried her!!!!!!!!!"
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Oxford 12-04-2009 09:52 PM
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Originally Posted by TinyEvel (Post 6317228)
Well, I did it.

We took them to yogurt after school and I told them. I said I had some bad news to tell them. I told them about what happened. I didn't tell them we euthanized her, just said she fell asleep at the hospital and succumbed to her illness and died. My 9 year-old cried pretty severely, which is OK.

.......
I told the kids the story of how we got Josie. I was volunteering at a no-kill shelter, installing some cabinets in a room of surplus cat pens. There was a small Shephard mix up in one of the cat pens, quietly and attentively watching me work. We had never talked about getting a pet, but I went home and told my wife we should adopt this one. Somehow she touched my heart.

Her name was "Benny" because when the person brought her in as a stray the shelter was going to turn her away because every dog pen was full. Well, one of their biggest benefactors happened to be in the lobby. He said, "You're going to take her, no matter where she has to stay, and he wrote them a big donation check.
That man was Ben Stein.

TE
Sounds like your kids need to go to the shelter and experience being adopted by a dog.

Good job by the way with the bad news. Just put down my 12yr old rottweiler mix last month... know how you feel.

Pioli Zombie 12-04-2009 10:01 PM
Has it been ruled out the possibilty that Jews did this?
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Easy 6 12-04-2009 10:07 PM
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Originally Posted by Oxford (Post 6317367)
Sounds like your kids need to go to the shelter and experience being adopted by a dog.
Thats a perfect way to phrase it, you can see a dogs personality instantly at the pound, its almost like the smart ones know whats at stake...

Red Beans 12-04-2009 10:40 PM
First pour them a large glass of kool-aid....

Redrum_69 12-04-2009 10:57 PM
if i were you I'd put that antifreeze out of reach....

88TG88 12-04-2009 11:00 PM
That sucks bro, I would go for the new Christmas puppy route. Then you have an excuse to name him Santa's Little Helper.

88TG88 12-04-2009 11:02 PM
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Originally Posted by SensibleChiefsfan (Post 6317350)
Okay, so my father died, and my mom went off the deep end. I took her car to go see a girl (I was 14, but I had been driving since I was 12)

She took me to the hospital to have a drug test. When that came back negative, she had me held over for a psych evaluation. After the doctor met with her and I, he refused to let me go home with her until she started seeing a therapist. So, they put me in the psych ward at Shawnee Mission, and she was supposed to come and do counseling with me. Well, she didn't like coming to counseling because the doctor would often 'attack' her. (Her words).

So, I was in there six weeks, through the winter. My mother, who has always been kind of a partier and gambler, left my dog outside and it froze to death.

She told me over the phone as she was telling me that she wasn't going to continue her counseling. So, I spent another two months in there before they had to let me go because the insurance ran out.

That 'might' be worse than learning that your dog died at disneyland.
JFC dude thats the saddest story I ever heard.

chasedude 12-04-2009 11:09 PM
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Originally Posted by SensibleChiefsfan (Post 6317350)
Okay, so my father died, and my mom went off the deep end. I took her car to go see a girl (I was 14, but I had been driving since I was 12)

She took me to the hospital to have a drug test. When that came back negative, she had me held over for a psych evaluation. After the doctor met with her and I, he refused to let me go home with her until she started seeing a therapist. So, they put me in the psych ward at Shawnee Mission, and she was supposed to come and do counseling with me. Well, she didn't like coming to counseling because the doctor would often 'attack' her. (Her words).

So, I was in there six weeks, through the winter. My mother, who has always been kind of a partier and gambler, left my dog outside and it froze to death.

She told me over the phone as she was telling me that she wasn't going to continue her counseling. So, I spent another two months in there before they had to let me go because the insurance ran out.

That 'might' be worse than learning that your dog died at disneyland.
That is a horrible story! I think I would have disowned my mother after that.

chasedude 12-04-2009 11:10 PM
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Originally Posted by Pioli Zombie (Post 6317332)
I would have blamed it on Obama
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I don't think I've ever given out neg rep before. Congrats on being the first.

chasedude 12-04-2009 11:12 PM
Sorry to hear about the loss of a part of your family Tiny.

crazycoffey 12-04-2009 11:29 PM
sup chase?

hard to do tiney, try to be truthful is my best advice. Let them cry, and try to get an understanding about life and death, it happens to us all someday. how indepth you go would of course depend on their ages.

Remindes me of a saying I like;
Life is a sexually transmitted desease with a 100% mortality rate....
I wouldn't say it that way to your kids though, LOL

memyselfI 12-05-2009 09:16 AM
Honesty is the best way to go. They will cry but it's ok for them to do. It's ok for them to see you cry as well. It's a sad event but one they will experience over the course of their lifetimes.

Your beloved dog will provide the gift of being the first time they encounter death and grief. How you handle this news will set the tone for how they see death and grief in their lives. Your dog, in it's death, gave you an opportunity to have her legacy touch their lives for the rest of their lives. It's devastatingly hard and sad but it need not be hidden.

Let them be part of the process.

If you saw Marley and Me then you saw their family have a small ceremony and the kids drew pictures and wrote letters to their dog and then they buried the ashes. We did this with our cat and it really helped everyone deal with the death part. The missing them part is what has been hard.

joesomebody 12-05-2009 09:35 AM
Very sorry for your loss. I would suggest being completely open and honest. It's not good to go with the whole, we took her to a farm to be happy line.

It will be tough, but honesty is the best policy. Have a memorial so you and your kids can say good bye.

Also, try rescuing a pup from the pound for Christmas. You can't replace your last friend, but it helps the healing process a lot to have a new dog to take care of and love.

bevischief 12-05-2009 09:42 AM
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Originally Posted by Pioli Zombie (Post 6317332)
I would have blamed it on Obama
Posted via Mobile Device
d#$% gov't healthcare...

bevischief 12-05-2009 09:44 AM
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Originally Posted by SensibleChiefsfan (Post 6317350)
Okay, so my father died, and my mom went off the deep end. I took her car to go see a girl (I was 14, but I had been driving since I was 12)

She took me to the hospital to have a drug test. When that came back negative, she had me held over for a psych evaluation. After the doctor met with her and I, he refused to let me go home with her until she started seeing a therapist. So, they put me in the psych ward at Shawnee Mission, and she was supposed to come and do counseling with me. Well, she didn't like coming to counseling because the doctor would often 'attack' her. (Her words).

So, I was in there six weeks, through the winter. My mother, who has always been kind of a partier and gambler, left my dog outside and it froze to death.

She told me over the phone as she was telling me that she wasn't going to continue her counseling. So, I spent another two months in there before they had to let me go because the insurance ran out.

That 'might' be worse than learning that your dog died at disneyland.
That's messed up, sorry to hear.

bevischief 12-05-2009 10:02 AM
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Originally Posted by TinyEvel (Post 6317228)
Well, I did it.

We took them to yogurt after school and I told them. I said I had some bad news to tell them. I told them about what happened. I didn't tell them we euthanized her, just said she fell asleep at the hospital and succumbed to her illness and died. My 9 year-old cried pretty severely, which is OK.

Honesty is the best policy, as long as you don't go into too much detail. I think the worst part of this, for all of us, has been how quickly it happened. less than 24 hours from completely normal to gone.

I told the kids the story of how we got Josie. I was volunteering at a no-kill shelter, installing some cabinets in a room of surplus cat pens. There was a small Shephard mix up in one of the cat pens, quietly and attentively watching me work. We had never talked about getting a pet, but I went home and told my wife we should adopt this one. Somehow she touched my heart.

Her name was "Benny" because when the person brought her in as a stray the shelter was going to turn her away because every dog pen was full. Well, one of their biggest benefactors happened to be in the lobby. He said, "You're going to take her, no matter where she has to stay, and he wrote them a big donation check.
That man was Ben Stein.

We renamed her Josie because we already had two cats. Josie and the Pussycats.

Maybe I'll name our next dog Buehler.

Thanks for listening guys.

TE
I had to put my 11 year old yellow lab down here about a year and half ago, (we have no kids) to cancer he lasted about a week after they figured out what was going on, 2 choices spend thousands of dollars to and he might live another month or we can make him comfortable he might last a couple weeks. After about a week he was so weak miserable he made the call to put him down. A few weeks later I started placing my name on adoption lists at several shelters around town for when I ready I wouldn't have to wait long for the back ground checks. Long story short we ended up with our 2nd Basset and about 6 months latter we got a 3rd one.

LaChapelle 12-05-2009 10:09 AM
The bitch ran off with the junk yard dog from across town. If you want to visit her you'll have to take a cab to the trailer park.

Dartgod 12-05-2009 10:26 AM
The douchebaggery is strong in this thread. :shake:


Sorry for your loss, Tiny. Dogs are good people.

Fairplay 12-05-2009 10:30 AM
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Originally Posted by chasedude (Post 6317436)
I don't think I've ever given out neg rep before. Congrats on being the first.


I think he is use to it.

KC Jones 12-05-2009 10:42 AM
Sorry to hear about your loss.

SenselessChiefsFan 12-05-2009 10:46 AM
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Originally Posted by chasedude (Post 6317435)
That is a horrible story! I think I would have disowned my mother after that.
I am a Christian, and I will admit the one commandment that I struggle with the most is: Honor thy father and mother.

I have no issues honoring my father, he was a good man. My mother, on the other hand..... even now, she doesn't hold down steady work. She blames everyone else in the entire world for her problems and uses anyone who will let her.

She lives on public assistance though she could easily get and hold down a job. She is just too lazy to do so. She sued Nebraska Furniture mart and got a settlement, and blew that money in less than a year.

I didn't even go into how she spent the money my dad set aside for my college education... and I didn't find out until the second half of my senior year.

Chief Henry 12-05-2009 10:51 AM
Loosing your family pet is absolutley brutal. We lost our dog several years ago. I spilled my guts on this board and many responded in kind with kind words.

I'm very sorry for your loss. I don't have any advice for you on speaking with your kids.
We didn't have children when our dog died.

I haven't read the rest of the thread, but I'm guessing taking your kids to a local pet shelter could be a nice place to start.

Good luck


Henry O

Phobia 12-05-2009 10:55 AM
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Originally Posted by SensibleChiefsfan (Post 6317824)
I am a Christian, and I will admit the one commandment that I struggle with the most is: Honor thy father and mother.

I have no issues honoring my father, he was a good man. My mother, on the other hand..... even now, she doesn't hold down steady work. She blames everyone else in the entire world for her problems and uses anyone who will let her.

She lives on public assistance though she could easily get and hold down a job. She is just too lazy to do so. She sued Nebraska Furniture mart and got a settlement, and blew that money in less than a year.

I didn't even go into how she spent the money my dad set aside for my college education... and I didn't find out until the second half of my senior year.
Dude, that's all awful. Your mother has some terrible problems. But she's the only mother you'll get. I don't envy your situation at all. Sounds like people have been enabling her for many years. As long as you're not one of those people, seems like you've overcome those issues.

DumbHillbillies 12-05-2009 02:24 PM
Go to the pound and find a similar dog as pass it off as Josie. JK. All you can do is be up front with them and get a new puppy/dog. End of life, beginning of new life.

andoman 12-05-2009 03:48 PM
So sorry for your family's loss. {We recently went through a similar situation} Adopting at your local shelter is a great idea, but let your family grieve first. It might be the way to start your new year off.

shakesthecat 12-05-2009 04:24 PM
Sorry for your family's loss Tiny

Bowser 12-05-2009 05:06 PM
Really sorry to hear, Tiny.

KC Jones 12-05-2009 06:08 PM
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Originally Posted by DumbHillbillies (Post 6318251)
All you can do is be up front with them and get a new puppy/dog. End of life, beginning of new life.
No offense, but I'm not a fan of this line of thinking at all. To me - it's better for everyone to have some grieving time before you try to cover over a loss with a replacement.

kcfanXIII 12-05-2009 07:03 PM
no way you should be considering another dog for christmas. that would be way too soon. you need time to grieve. bringing a new pup into a grieving environment will ensure new puppy has plenty of bad habits. better to wait on the pup than to rush into things.

Redrum_69 12-05-2009 09:57 PM
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Originally Posted by KC Jones (Post 6318735)
No offense, but I'm not a fan of this line of thinking at all. To me - it's better for everyone to have some grieving time before you try to cover over a loss with a replacement.

just ask the kids who wants "hot dogs" for supper....then tell them that the dog has been "recycled for food"

Sweet Daddy Hate 12-05-2009 10:26 PM
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Originally Posted by Redrum_69 (Post 6319500)
just ask the kids who wants "hot dogs" for supper....then tell them that the dog has been "recycled for food"
hahahaha.....Neg Rep.:shake:

Mr. Plow 12-06-2009 04:14 PM
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Originally Posted by Pioli Zombie (Post 6317381)
Has it been ruled out the possibilty that Jews did this?
Posted via Mobile Device

You seriously are a POS.

GloryDayz 12-06-2009 04:46 PM
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Originally Posted by TinyEvel (Post 6316646)
It's been a rough 12 hours.

last night our dog Josie (small Shepard mix who's been in the family 11 years) was all of a sudden extremely catatonic and panting on her side. Her head was twitching and eyes shut. We took her to the animal emergency room around midnight and admitted her. Diagnosis was that she was bleeding in her eyes and gums and her blood had only 1 percent the platelets it should have.

Without the ability to clot, she had developed internal bleeding. There was blood filling her head and causing neurological damage form pressure on her brain. Today it got worse and we made a tough, difficult decision to euthanize her.

24 hours ago she was 100 percent normal.
This has come so sudden and so difficultly. Our kids are 8 and 9 and we haven't told them. They don't even know we took her to the hospital yet, but they saw her sick last night.

I'm sure some of you have gone through pet loss with kids. Just looking for some tips. We're supposed to go get a Christmas tree tonight after school. Do I tell them first? afterward? I cannot believe we'll be able to do it without us crying. my wife for sure.
Wow, sorry for your loss. Been there though. We told the kids different people and different pets get called to God's house at different times. Still sad for them, but I think it helped a bit.

Baby Lee 12-06-2009 04:50 PM
I wouldn't tell them right after this last Chiefs game, unless they're fans of physical comedy.

Skip Towne 12-11-2009 11:42 AM
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Originally Posted by Mr. Plow (Post 6323139)
You seriously are a POS.
Is that what got him banned?

Gonzo 12-11-2009 01:41 PM
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Originally Posted by Skip Towne (Post 6336991)
Is that what got him banned?
Heh... I was just wondering the same thing. Is it a vacation or a real ban?


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