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If you keep score on favors, you're not doing favors, you're banking tokens to cash in later.
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Since when is it the groom's responsibility to pay for everyone's tux? Now, as part of being in the wedding party, I gave them a sweet gift, but I never knew of this theory that the groom pays for the GM tux. |
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I've been in about 5 weddings and the only 2 i didnt pay for my tux were 2 of my life long buddies who covered it. It is expected to pay your own shit, but when they pay its nice. I will do the same for those my groomsmen too since i know they will be close friends that are in the group when they are in my wedding as well. I say get over your friends detail he missed out on and if you feel he takes advantage of you then don't go out of your way then. Atleast he tried, but i would've atleast gotten a ride back with a group or planned that ahead of time.
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He probably would have given you a ride home but you would have had to work it off in trade...
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Dude just got hitched.
He's right - you're not his first priority. Nut up, pussy. Get a ****ing cab and get over yourself. |
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I think you are really pissed because you didn't get a wedding hook up
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Dude you have every right to be. That sounds like a arrogant pompous little prick. That and it sounds like you're that one friend that gets shit all over by him and he knows it.
Either way... chalk it up as a lesson learned and start handling him with a long handle spoon. Keep your distance. |
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In my opinion, your friends shouldn't have to pay for you to get married, but that's just me. |
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I've been in several weddings over the years and I think I've probably not paid for my own tux 2-3.
I assume it's part of the honor of standing up with your friend and family. They have enough expenses and problems, that myself and my attire aren't going to be one of them. |
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First off, it's an HONOR to be in someone's wedding party. You don't make the groom PAY for your services, especially if you're such good friend that he asks you to stand up for him. Secondly, I've had friends fly cross-country (and visa-versa) for weddings and to be in wedding parties. I'd NEVER ask ANYONE that took time out of their busy schedule to pay for their own tux, and I'd never THINK of asking anyone to pay for mine. It reeks of ****ing DOUCHEBAGGERY. RedThat should be ashamed. |
If this were an isolated incident - I'd say blow it off. Men don't always plan well and they have enough on their mind on wedding day. But since it's a pattern with him feel free to vent and cut your losses. No worries. You're sick of being taken advantage of and we all reach that point eventually. I think you handled it well, rather than to make it about you on his day you just moved on. It's probably the same thing I would have done - though I might have reached the conclusion a little earlier - or maybe later. Dunno without having been in your shoes.
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You don't even know our past relationship to make such comments. I bent over backwards for this guy, but he rarely did it for me. Ive always done stuff, but never asked for anything back. That represents goodness, but eventually after a while you get sick of that. i sensed he depended on my kindness. He has been doing that for years and years. He chose me to be a part of his party because he feels and knows im a kind person, and everytime we were together he feels im good for a laugh. You know what? I tried dude. I tried to be as good as I could with this guy, and eventually I got sick. Its hard to sustain goodness with someone when they in turn treat you like a piece of trash. As a result, you end up becoming garbage back to them. Yeah you can be good, but when there is a lack of respect towards you that is a reflection on how others in turn will be treated back. Treat others the way you wish to be treated. I treat people with kindness and generousity and wished I was treated the same way. Treat others the way you wish to be treated is biblical. And Im not trying to get biblical on you here. Honored? yes..i feel that way to be in someones wedding party. but still cant neglect the way a person treats you because if you do then you're not listening to your own consciousness inside you. Eventually the negatives will show up no matter how positive you are about a situation. That is part of being human! Kindness is part of my identity, but after this situation, I feel robbed and stripped of that quality. I learned to never bend backwards for people who are selfish. NOBODY likes to be used...You fail to see the humanitarian aspect of how I feel..But why am I telling you this, im wasting my time. |
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Clearly, you know your situation better than anyone. He probably should have figured out the ride thing, but obviously he had other things on his mind. Only you can decide if this was a case of "dude is being an asshole like he always does" or "the guy forgot and didn't want to be bugged about it after he really couldn't do anything about it." |
Look at the bright side, he's the one that got married. I'll bet he's already having to cheat on her to get some sex and she's probably laying on the sofa with a box of donuts trying to see how fast she can hit 200 pounds.
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Maybe you are being a little whiny. I dunno. I wasn't there. Don't know your friend. But if he takes advantage of you then cut him off. This stuff isn't rocket science. Some friends are for life and some aren't. It's not a big deal either way. |
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Alright. It could have been a lot more organized. Like I said previously, if I was told beforehand that it was my responsibility to find my way back home, no complaints about that. I understand its a wedding and sh*t gets stressful and stuff like that can easily be overlooked. But when you ask a simple question, and someone says to you, "it's not my responsibility." Or, offers me suggestions on what I should do..i.e, like go hitch a ride with someone else. Think about that? Put that together, and the guy sounds like a real dick to me. Now, if he was apologetic about the incident and said it straight like, "hey you know something, Im really sorry about that. I should of told you beforehand, that it is your own responsibility to find a ride home. Or you know something, let me see if I could do something for you." THATS WHAT A DECENT FRIEND IS ALL ABOUT BUDDY! |
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Seriously, if you continue to go through life with that line of thinking, this won't be the last time you'll be enraged over something like this. Personally, I've found that expecting the worst from people and being occasionally surprised is far better than expecting the best and being constantly disappointed. |
Hey - RedThat - why don't you pick us up a twelver and come over. We'll drink your beer on my deck and you can cry in your beer. Then you can pass out. I promise to throw a mosquito net over you.
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You're "friend" is definitely a dick. I know where you're coming from, having helped out those in need only to seen it thrown back in my face. Drop the dude like a big pile-o-shit and hang out with those that appreciate your friendship.
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Would it have been nice had he told you ahead of time? Yup. Could you have acted like a man and fended for yourself instead of throwing a hissy fit? Yup. At that point when you ask him how you are going to get home... what did you expect him to do? Drop you off on the way to take what is maritally his? "Hey guys, can you swing me by my place before you seal the deal?" Really??? What did you expect from him at that point? What kind of a man tries to cockblock his buddy on his wedding night? |
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*I see your point of view, but Im grateful in a way that stuff like this happens because it shows the true colours of a person. jmo |
I don't know if I'm the only one, but this would never happen with my friends. I don't mean the limo, money, etc issues-- that's life. No, I mean the in-fighting and drama. If somebody ****s me over, we get angry at one another. Once the tiff is over, we buy each other a beer and life goes on. If it becomes a pattern, you have everyone call the guy on it until he mans up; if he doesn't, nobody calls him anymore to hang out. I guess that's just our way of handling things. I wouldn't think it's too uncommon though.
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Stop giving a **** what these mother ****ers think
giving is what got you into this mess to begin with do what you gotta |
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All i wanted was a little decency. Thats it. |
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Have a beer shed a tear. Its all good. |
The way you're bitching about this incident leads me to believe that you have been pissed off at this dude for a while. You obviously have come to some conclusions about his behavior based on past experience..........So what are you really angry about?? Because you agreed to be in this douchebags wedding or are you in love with his fiancee?
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Something tells me you surround yourself with a fair amount of people who like your so-called friend sh** on you alot?????
But seriously you already knew for along time this guy was a "me first type" exhibiting many times to you his self-absorbed life. How in the hell could you expect "ANYTHING" from this narcissistic prick 'ESPECIALLY' on his wedding day/weekend?????????????????????? The question then becomes what 2ndary dysfunctional emotional gain do you get from this guy/or people that you set yourself up to be sh** on, on a regular basis?? |
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Step 1: Realize your friend is a dick...
Step 2: Get your gameface on and try to grab a bridesmaid to take with you in your cab. |
Well, One would assume the Groom would make arrangements for the grooms party to be escorted back to their transportation. Whether you all were going to spend the night there or drive home drunk is another story. He should have at least told you up front that the bus wasn't going to drop them off, at least letting them know before, as opposed to AFTER everyone was already drunk at the reception. Dick move on his part, just sounds like he's un-organized thoughtless idiot.
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you two need to talk, talk THROUGH this. You may need some third party counseling. Nobody likes a dramatic Bridal party.
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i found the bold pretty funny. He ordered a limo to pick YOU up and drive around to the banquet, church, etc. But you bought a bottle of sky vodka for $20 and he's entitled to drop you off at home instead of going to his honeymoon? hahaa it mightve been overlooked how you guys were going to get home, but that shouldve been arranged earlier. oh well. That doesnt mean you have to storm off like a girl. really though, it's his night. the last thing on his mind is worrying how YOURE getting home. You should be more worried about things go his way for the rest of the night and honeymoon on. |
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You'd feel bad asking someone you knew at the wedding for a ride, but you had no reservations about asking the groom how to get home on his wedding night? You are showing your true colors of being a drama queen. |
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Your friend is a total Ahole. |
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I had friends like that.
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Your as wrong as he was. |
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Phobia already proved the guy is a doorknob(been there done that)
his so called friend just twisted one too many times he's seeing it and will correct it -a lot of us do |
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