I also want to add, that all this shit happened Sunday night, and Monday morning, she sent this text.......

"I honestly care about you but not in the way you want. I just don't feel out connection anymore and haven't for awhile. I'm sorry I haven't been honest. You deserve better. Try to have fun this week and in Florida."

Wait for ol boy to knock her up and then MTG#10 dat ass!

Say goodbye, Gracie.

Move on to the next chapter. You're done here, and as others have mentioned, be glad that it's happening without a bunch of lawyers. (No offense to the lawyers around here.)

So i'll never hear from her again?

She's a skank, and you chose poorly. Find another one of the 3.5 billion women on Earth to date. At least none of them have used your sheets to wipe off another man's jizz.

Unless she has your three wolf shirt, I wouldn't bother getting your clothes back.

They are all Bitches...except our Mom's.

You've already missed several opportunities to exit the situation with the cards falling in your favor, and might have screwed up your opportunity to get the revenge **** you desire. If you've been allowing yourself to get played all along you're screwed and might as well start licking your wounds and forgetting about her. If you've kept cool through this and have any kind of an upper hand.. DO NOT initiate contact with her in any way. Go silent, disappear, move on, work out, play cards, do whatever it is you do. If for some dumb ass reason you have contact with her mom again, leave the conversation with a subtle compliment to her daughter from a straight face... It'll get back to her.

We all know a cute "girl next door", so scoop her up and make a couple public appearances with her while remaining single. Break out the black book and work over a few of the good ones who know how to keep their mouth shut so you're not tempted to nut youself by getting drunk and calling your ex in the middle of the night. Give her enough time to cycle through the current loser, gain 10 pounds, and crash and burn. When your phone blows up a week, a month, or a year from now show no emotion but hit the buttons and pull the strings that'll land her on her knees. LEAVE ALL YOUR EMOTIONS OUT OF IT... from here on out its a business transaction, she just doesn't know it yet. Buy the dinner, the drinks, & go through the motions... wrap the night up with trying to put her head through the head board, PuttingIIHB, and painting her face. Leave absolutely nothing behind when you leave in the middle of the night. Play it out right and it'll happen more than once.

If you don't have the experience to make this play out right, learn from it and put the knowledge gained into play on the next one.

Hopefully not.

And that's no offense to you or to her, but you're done with her. She's made that pretty clear. The ideal solution is the one mentioned earlier where you bump into her 20 years from now when you're happy and affluent and have a two-vaginaed wife with K-cup breasts, and when she asks how you're doing you say, "Couldn't be better!"

But yeah, a clean break is good in this type of situation. We've all been there.

If I ever need someone to help clean up a murder scene, I'm thinking that ghak99 is my guy. He's got this stuff down.

Does the "Asking For Personal Advice on Chiefs Planet" rule work?

Only if people take it.

How are you coming along on my advice to convert to a Chiefs fan?

I'm trying man but it's hard to change. It seems like one Bronco is too many and a thousand aren't enough.

Lots of good advice here, especially the ones that tell you to leave it alone. I'll repeat one thing that was said. It's best you find out now instead of after there was a ring and kids involved.
I will tell you that romance with an ex rarely works. There's too many hurt feelings and unanswered questions to bury. Since she's been lying to you over the last few months, would you ever be able to trust her again? If you do do the horizontal bop again, how do you know she isn't cheating on another guy?
Let her go and be glad you have your freedom. There's a good woman out there just waiting for you. Forget the liar and move on.

You should have really posted a pic, and still should.

I have before!

Link?

Just sit in your car outside of where she works. When she leaves work follow her home and everywhere else she goes; staring out your window at her at all times.
This will show her how much you care, and that if you can't have her no one can.
Girls like that.

He emailed pics to his girlfriend's mom, her boss and a few other co-workers at her work, a few friends and her as well. Rather graphic pics.

Lasted a week.

I have pics like that, but they're NOT getting posted......they're not that graphic though.

The work thing was too much. He should have just stuck with the family and future BF>

I may have to ban you if you don't post the pics

We would have nailed him harder but the lawyers for both sides left a lot to be desired for evidence for their sides case.

Did she cheat on him? I doubt it matters legally, but it's probably a mitigating factor for the jury.

Seriously, how will we know whether a grudge-3some is worth it without pics?

The no contact rule didn't work last nite, you can ask my wife if you don't believe me.

i find it ONLY WORKS if you really mean it.


The problem is that you can't really mean it if it's a ploy.


it's similar to the problem about finding a girl when you NEED a girl.

It's always easier to get a chick when you already have one because you truly act different.

You have to really move on ... REALLY,REALLY move on, or it's just fake and it won't work.

As always, Swingers has sage advice on the topic.

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She was just divorced and wanted to have some fun (the kind you see in porn films), he wanted to get married she didn't and cut him off. So he sent the pics. He spent some money on her flying back and forth from KC area to out to California and a few resorts.

Interesting. They also charge him with violating the Mann Act?

Oooouuuuch! Let me translate for you. "I needed a guy when I was lonely to hang out with. You were there and it was, well, Ok. Then, I realized a really wanted a guy I could have lots of fun with and have sex like crazy. You weren't that guy. You wanted to be, but I found some other guys that were more fun to let treat me like a $40 **** doll. Soooo, even tho you want to be that guy, I'm gonna let you off easy and just tell you that I needed a break and go back to getting pummeled by other guys"

I know it hurts now, but the reality is that a year from now this chick will simply be fap memory material while your new girl is upstairs getting ready.

I apologize for not taking this thread seriously, but this is the best advice you could take. You might take the low road and give her an earful but it would be better to not have ANY contact at all with her and let it go.

The "No Contact" rule also works when imposed by a judge. A common result when the self-imposed "No Contact" rule is ignored.

nope, just call a cab and move on

Thank your lucky stars you didn't get an STD and walk away.

Just be glad the gal told you and move on. Lots of sluts don't even tell you until they're caught in bed with your best friend and then you're scarred and turn gay. That's how it happens.

Huh?

I think she's being pretty reasonable. It sounds like he's pushed her away with borderline stalkerish behaviour.

Tip: Girls don't like obsessive boys. At least not the ones worth having.

it's true, the girl has got to need you before you let her see/know that you need her.

This is like rule #1 for dating

NEVER,EVER be needy until after you have her hooked ... EVER!!!

are any of her friends hot?

or maybe double or triple Ds?

just thinking out loud.

cut bait brother, have fun in florida. wrap it before you tap it.

You'd think after ONE AND A HALF YEARS i'd have her hooked........and like I said, I didn't keep tabs on her, until I caught her first lie.

sucks man, sorry.

A week, a month, a year, a decade... It doesn't matter. You're dealing with an emotionally unstable species that's incapable of looking in the mirror and seeing reality. The sooner you figure out ~90% of women are bat shit crazy time bombs just waiting for a reason to come out of the closet, the sooner you'll be ahead of the game.

Find the cycles, hedge your bets, & ride the good waves till they quit.

Ignoring girls is a surefire way to get them to chase you.

I once deleted some annoying bitch from facebook...a couple weeks later she gets on IM and says "hey, why did you delete me?"

I had deleted her from my IM list and had no idea who she was and told her so. Boy did that piss her off. I had shattered her little world where every guy she meets gives her oodles and oodles of attention for no reason...AND SHE COULDN'T HANDLE IT!

She wanted the break to keep you on a leash in case things don't work out the way she wants.

I've been there. With a couple chicks the one thing they couldn't stand to see was me with someone else. They didn't want me but they didn't want anyone else to have me either.

If she really cares, she'd be calling the next day after seeing you with someone. At that time you can make your next move.

Good luck. It's prolly an effed up time in your life right now but time heals all wounds.

As my Mom always told me, "Keep your chin up!".

Then you woke up. The end.

Just move on and don't look back.

If your set on breaking up, the no contact is the only way to go.

Small update. She has some stuff at her house that I had forgotten about. Things like some work shirts, dress shoes, etc. Well, I leave for Florida on Monday for a business trip, and need these items. If I could have gotten by without them, i'd have said '**** it', but I needed them (especially the work shirts since they're embroidered with our logo). So I contacted her with a short message, and here's how that conversation went.

ME - Put my things in a bag, and I will make arrangements with your mom to pick them up after work tomorrow or Friday.

HER - I was going to wash them and have them ready when u got back from Florida

ME - No need. Put them in a bag and I will get it tomorrow.

HER - I don't know if i'll have it ready for tomorrow.

ME - Friday at the latest.


And that was the end of the conversation.

Hire a hot escort for an hour. Drive with the escort to her house. Let the escort ring the bell and pick up your belongings. Tell the escort the only thing she's allowed to say is "God of Thunder says he'll give you a call in 3 weeks. He has a business trip next week and then we are going to the Caribbean for 2 weeks for an all exclusive vacation he just won." Get a hummer on the ride home. Don't ever call.

Her new Beau is wearing your shit man. He must be a real class act. Let her go

He's not wearing my shit......when I dropped her shit off, I saw my stuff spread out all over her floor with a million other dirty clothes. I just wasn't going to go digging through her room looking for it all.

you MUST show up to pick your shit up with some hottie. I don't care if you have to pay someone to go with you, it is worth it. Even though she is letting another guy rub his balls in her face, it will still drive her batshit to know you have replaced her so fast.

I agree with this.

The last really contentious split I had involved a woman I had an apartment with. She was in the process of moving out when I stopped by to grab some clothes (I was staying the hell away from her during the process). She wasn't there, but had started breaking down the waterbed, which was hers. It was nearly completely drained, and so I poked several holes in the bottom of the mattress with a fork. Just a little something for her to remember by.

Never heard anything about it, but I'm sure that ended up being a nice watery disaster for her. Bitch. :evil:

**** no. Waaaaaaay too obvious. You'll just look like a tool.

Show up like Switzer, One girl under each arm.

Now, to update, she sent a text this morning........


"Your stuff is all in a bag on the couch and if you really want the necklace back it's on the shelf. I know you don't believe me but I did care about you and im sorry I was a horrible gf. Have a good time in Florida and good luck with everything u do."


The necklace is one of those 'open heart' necklaces that I gave her for Christmas.....I guess she's assuming I might want it back. Not sure if i'll pick it up or not. I don't really want to look at it, and I CAN sell it, but I would never give it to another girl, so maybe it's best for her to hang on to it. Thoughts?

Leave the gun, take the cannoli.

It was a gift leave it. Better to live the memory of it with her.

"Don't really want to look at it"?
Man the **** up. Grab that necklace, hit happy hour then go to your favorite gentleman's club where the dancer who pleases you most will find herself wearing a new open heart necklace.

Have you checked the price of gold lately?