Tell me about it. Lose my v-card then go on a FEMA level drought.

I'm willing to bet that your standards are probably just way too high.

You'd think, but no, I've been rejected by the whole gamut.

Sept 2011 would only indicate an 18 month drought, not 25. Feel better?

2010.

I guess just purchase a fleshlight and call it good. :shrug:

Go **** a whore.

I haven't had sex since the end of January and I feel like a loser?

How often do you actually try, and put yourself out there? I've been rejected plenty of times, but you just have to let that shit slide off your shoulder.

Are you fat? I used to be and now that I'm normal sized so many girls have flirted with me.

Not if you break your glasses often.

I have a friend who is 5'4" and he gets laid all the time because he is a funny alcoholic and a persistent creep. They aren't all great looking, but he doesn't seem to mind. Probably gets rejected 10x more than his game actually works, but he gets laid.

Dude, you're going to smash a bunch of broads(if you want to).

Growing up as a fat kid myself, I was forced to develop a badass personality. As soon as I got into fitness and shit like that everything became much easier. But I'm still a nice guy, and don't hate women like Clay does.

6'0 215lb college-fratboy beer gut and a tight neck that doesnt give me a good jawline or manly chin, so I hide it with goatee.


I don't try; I have no game, and I'm okay with that. It's all confidence and I have none of that. When you wake up every morning and realize who you are and have to put on a false front just to impress people who wouldnt normally give a shit about you, it doesn't seem worth it.

I have my friends and that's all that matters now.

What if I told you the same number of girls flirted with you before, but you didn't realize it because you had zero self confidence?

Forgot the Laurence Fishburne macro

Yeah, Discuss... dude.

I don't know you, but I'd be willing to bet my next paycheck that its not your looks, but something else that's the problem. Be it your confidence or approach, there's just something wrong in what you're doing/thinking.

Are you putting the pussy on a pedestal?

I agree with her about tucked.

Untucked is passable, but runs the risk of sloppy.

If you're going to go untucked, it's usually best to do it with shorts in summer.

The shoes don't look great in the photo, but that doesn't mean much.

I can see that. If some guy is nice to me, I always write it off as to him humoring me. If I was thinner, I'd think there was substance to it.

Not anymore.

I have no clue what he looks like, but he seems to me to be the overly intellectual type. Kind of socially awkward in the sense that he hits on chicks that are not as intelligent, and his advances go over their heads. That, or he hits on the intellectual chicks that are looking for bronze and less thinking.

I posted a pic in the doppleganger thread. Or, just google Mancow Mueller. Ive set my FB pic to his headshot on occasion and no one notices it's not me.

Yeah....the shoes I have also have completely different laces. I think they look nice. We'll see how it goes.

You're standing on third with an elite hitter in the box and a wild pitcher on the hill. Stay calm and you'll be fine.

Buck.

Dick me.

Discuss Thrower....growing up I always thought I was a decent looking guy. I had the odd girl that was interested in me, but for the most part all my buddies got the attention from the girls. I had buddies who were not good looking, had terrible jobs, etc etc and they could get girls and I couldn't.

Eventually I met a great girl when I was 21 and have been married for 15 years now. Thats not the point though........

I always struggled with confidence growing up even though I had no reason to. About 8 yeas ago I started my own company. Well, it took off and I started to realize that I was good at my job and I didn't need to feel inferior to others. Because of the success of my business I started to feel better about myself. I started to gain confidence in who I was and it started paying off in all aspects of my life. There was a time would I would sit in a bar/pub in the corner with a sour look on my face. When my attitude changed and I became more confident everthing changed. Girls would just come up to me and talk to me. Girls who knew me before but never talked to me would all of a sudden start talking to me and flirting with me. Buddies who i went out with and would always pick up girls would be sitting there wondering why girls would come up and talk to me now. My whole life changed overnight and for one simple reason....... I smiled more.

Sometimes you just gotta put yourself out there and you will be surprised. Believe in yourself and people will pick up on it. Myself now, I don't care anymore what others think. I have a great wife and a couple kids and I couldn't care less about what I wear, what car I drive or what I do for work. But I will tell you one thing...I will never let my kids grow up with no confidence. Having no confidence ruined the first 30 years of my life and I won't let the happen to my kids.

Dont let it happen to you either. Just go out there and put yourself out there. And smile !!!!!!

That's what I would do if I were on an epic drought.

One of my buddies was on a 2.5 year drought and was thinking of getting a hooker and I told him not to, unless he could guarantee safety in not getting arrested... so we did lots of research to insure his safety.

Turns out there are review sites for hookers. The one we found was http://eccie.net He found one that had a couple of reviews and he was safe and got no police escort... but a live woman escort.

We did some math on it and called it "hookernomics" In the end, it's much cheaper to **** a hooker once or twice a month than to get married, have kids, buy a house, buy 2 cars, put kids through college, etc. LOL

Be safe dude.

Where do you live, Discuss Thrower, KC area? It sounds to me like you need confidence more than anything.

I'm a fat dude, who has more confidence than I probably should... and I'm married, but I have beautiful women throw me vibe all the time. Confidence, humor and intelligence turn on more women than Jersey Shore abs, at times.

Springfield area.

The insight into the male mind these threads provide me is both scary and priceless.

I'm out of your league.

Lol. Dude I'm cute and I know what forward progress means. I can assure you you are not.

Hey pussycat be respectful when replying to the living legend and... Pics or GTFO!!!:D

Don't sweat the shoes bro, they are fine. What do these folks know...

ROFL

"Simply put, you become your most beautiful self when you begin believing in your own power to attract others. It has everything to do with how you feel about yourself, and how you project that to others."

Rinse/Repeat

Don't worry about all that. Just learn to be happy with yourself being single and don't dwell on being "alone". I've been divorced for 11 years and been single almost all of that time. I love the freedom to take vacations and go where ever I want at the drop of hat without having to make plans or ask permission. I only had 2k in the bank when I got divorced and now I am getting ready to close on a nice 3br house that I am paying cash for.

I've found your problem, but I don't have an easy solution:

This points to some kind of depression or other emotional issues. It's a self-perpetuating thing as well in that you feel like shit, so you don't get laid. You don't get laid, so you feel like shit (and I hate boiling it down to sex, because the same formula likely applies to all sorts of other aspects of your life as well).

The answer is "stop being depressed," but we all know it's not as easy as that. Find some things that you enjoy that you're good at (preferably that involve physical activity, Xbox doesn't count). Engage in those things on a regular basis. Begin to feel better.

....don't make me repeat myself!

But bro I've got a 1.5/1 KD spread

And you aren't getting laid?! Wtf is the world coming to? I have a 1.3 KD and I get mad poon as a result. Perhaps you should advertise it more often. Get a t-shirt made or somethin! There's a world of women out there dying to get with digital war heroes such as you and I!

I can't believe what is happening to me right now. I am going to see this girl tonight, and I have 2 other girls feeding out of the palm of my hand. I'm not sure what to do.

The girl I'm seeing tonight is my #1 choice, but one of the other girls has the best looking body. Problem is she is a coworker, though I don't work in the same department as her.

Stay away from workplace drama. That's my advice. Especially if you work somewhere you intend on staying.

pics or GTFO buck

Try to get a threesome. Gotta strike while the irons hot.

threesomes are overrated

Said no man ever.

In a threesome, I'd probably nut within 10 seconds, then the chicks would send me to the gas station for doritos or something.

ROFL ROFL ROFL

This is like an inverted Plotline to many a pornographic movie.

A little blog I wrote today.

My Dilemma

Does anyone else thing there’s a line to be found between “waiting and letting things happen to you” and “if you want something to happen, you have to make it happen”?

I so often hear from people that I need to just be patient and let things happen. I get what they’re saying, but what they don’t know is that I’ve been waiting for so long that it seems that it’s never going to happen.

At the same time, I hear from people that sometimes you just have to go out and make things happen. Whenever I do this, I always end up trying too hard, and then I get frustrated whenever trying too hard leads to the same things not happening.

I honestly believe that, at the very core of things, this is ultimately why I’m still single. I either wait and watch as other people end up with guys that I’m interested in, or I try too hard and end up coming across as clingy.

I’ve realized other past mistakes: wanting to feel needed, thinking I could change or “fix” people, changing who I am in order to be the type of person they want, etc. I really feel that I’ve hopefully fixed those problems. I now need to feel wanted, I’ve learned to accept people based on who they are right now, and I will never be anything but me.

This most recent problem, finding that line, is proving to be rather difficult. Do I play the waiting game? What if I end up waiting on one and overlook someone else in the process? At least if I go for it, I’ll end up knowing for sure. However, going for it typically lands me in the friend zone.

I get too comfortable with people too quickly, and I can never listen whenever I’m telling myself to shut up. I’m too trusting. I let people in on private details of my life too easily (apparently, lol). These are just part of who I am, though. Surely, there’s someone out there who’s able to look past them, or, better yet, accept them. Anyway, I seem to have gone off on a tangent.

Any advice for the relationship challenged? :)

You should definitely try the online dating thing. That way, what you both are looking for is out in the open, and you can't end up in the friend zone.

I am master at ending up in the friend zone.

4some

How is that not obvious?

You are probably just unattractive.


It happens.

Waiting games never work, Luv. They may be playing the same game and you both miss out. If you like someone, let them know. If they don't feel the same way, it wasn't meant to be.

Already an asshole and you only have 59 posts. :shake:

I was an asshole when i had 0 posts

That's a very likely reason.

I've never used online dating (it wasn't really a thing when I was still single), but CHENZ A!'s suggestion sounds like a good one to me. Sign up for online dating and see how it goes. Just be prepared for more misses than hits and keep trying.

It's better for women than it is for men.

Congrats. Do you think you deserve a medal or something?

Whatever. Majority of guys are on there looking for the hookup. They say what they think women want to hear until they meet them. If you don't hook up with them, then they move on. How many times have you seen guys on here say they use it to find all kinds of strange?

Yes

Where in the hell are your manners? If you want something, say "yes, please".

SAY IT!

Yes, please.

Damn it, Saul. Go away. I'm trolling. :D

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Stop thinking so much. What you said makes it seem like you're worried about everything, about other people, about yourself, your self image, how other people perceive you, about why this and about why that. Take it from someone who's dealt with this for his whole life: if you spend so much time in your own head obsessing about this stuff, you start to lose touch with the real world.

And it's not about waiting and watching, or about trying to make something happen. Because those are actually just opposite ways of doing the exact same thing. You're trying to force a relationship to happen. The difference being one approach is passive-aggressive and the other's more assertive, but in the end it's essentially the same move.

My advice is to just relax and let go and let life happen. Be open to things that come your way, and try not to stress yourself out.

I really don't know what the hell I'm doing in this thread. Boredom? Who knows. LMAO

But, I will say this... keg's advice is pretty damn solid, Luv.

Agreed. I've yet to find the off switch for the thinking portion of my brain though.

I don't think you need to turn it completely off, just replace your switch with a dimmer. :)

It's easier because you have a higher volume of dudes that you can screen for that kind of thing.

I'm not blind to the fact the XY set just wants sex. If you're savvy you can discern which ones fall into that category and the ones that aren't.

Not to hijack the thread, but I feel I'm in the same boat a lot of guys are in. It's hard for me to meet new people. First of all, I'm lazy. I don't go out a lot in the first place. I'm not a big bar or club guy. I've always found the whole hooking up at a bar or club thing a little silly. I mean, clearly it's effective for most people, but I'd rather meet someone by chance doing a random thing and have a relationship based on the fact that we liked one another, rather than just meeting someone because we were both "on the hunt at a big hunting ground and likely intoxicated". Also works the same way with the online dating thing. It's stupid for me to eliminate these tools I guess but I'm content being single for now.

I also would like a chance to meet new women in a setting where I can talk for a bit, because they're sure to fall in love once I start rattling off all the vile disgusting CP jokes I stole from SNR.

ROFL

Meetup.com I guess. Not that I've used it but that's because I'm in a different situation than you are in.

The majority of guys everywhere are there looking for the hookup. You're going to have to work your way through that to find someone whether it's online, in a bar, or at the grocery store. A church group might be different, but I wouldn't count on it. You don't have to give it up though. And you can be honest about that in your profile to filter out some of the guy who aren't interested in trying very hard to get to know the you above the shoulders.

Have you ever met a roller derby girl?

There's only one sure way to meet women: get out and meet them. Be active, get out of the house, do tons of activities. Nobody ever met a girl playing video games or watching porn or posting on Chiefs Planet.


The vast majority of married people met their spouses through friends. Just a public service announcment. Women are leery of men by nature, as they should be. So if her friend knows you, that's a big plus for her.