I agree bringing up exclusivity is a bad idea, but acting aloof/making yourself less available is also a bad idea. IMHO, you want to escalate things. She won’t see other people if she feels you two are getting serious (not saying you are serious, but acting like it).

If she is all caught up in this blossoming relationship, she may not even consider going out with other guys. If she thinks you are just casual and you disappear for chunks at a time, she will likely lose interest and go on a date every night.

This.

Just continue with what you're doing. If you want to see her more....plan more dates with her.

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More or less what I was thinking. Thanks for the advice, all!

Women are the most evil creatures to set foot on this planet.

Please elaborate.

It's really just borne of them having a vagina, and the wonderful options that presents them with.

They can afford to be choosy, and lesser males are often cast aside.

Saw the girl I mentioned a few weeks ago out last night with another dude. This is the one who didn't mind hooking up with me but wouldn't leave her boyfriend even though he skews in the douche direction for the most part.

It felt pretty damned obvious she'd been flirting with me for the large part of this year and I know she had a thing for me ever since she'd met me years ago. But that doesn't matter apparently.

What the **** ever man.

You're probably not giving her enough attention.

You're right. Because she wasn't going to end things with her boyfriend, I told her we can't be friends from that point on. Alea iacta est. She said wanted me to reconsider that stance because she was hurt by it. I didn't.

At that point, you not completely cutting this chick out of your life seems to be a mistake.

She's arrogant and wants to have her cake and eat it too. And honestly, probably slutty. **** her.

You're better off this way. She's flippantly cheating on her current boyfriend, and even if she "left" him for you, who's to say she wouldn't do the same to you?

Had the most intense night of my life last night. Exhausted.

Does this belong in the "ever banged a fat chick" thread?

Because I'm better looking than the other guy.

Yeah.....keep thinking that's the reason that will keep her from cheating.

Did he have one of those flat billed hat things?

His dick is twice the size of yours, and he's amazing at oral sex.

Don't dwell on it. You might be better-looking than he is, but there are a lot of other men who are more handsome than you. Cheating is in her character, and it almost certainly wouldn't stop with you.

Infidelity is a deeply-rooted character flaw. It won't just go away and there's nothing you can do to fix it or stop it. Because it's not about you. Starting out in a situation like that is just putting yourself in a position to become the next victim.

This is why God made millions of other women.

The next one will probably be hotter, much better in bed, etc.

Just gotta stay in the game.

Seems a bit soon. May scare her away. Stay the course. Women are much more hesitant about guys they meet online anyway.

Yep, that seems to be the popular opinion. Went on the third date with her yesterday afternoon, and although we had fun, it really did seem too soon to make that sort of suggestion.

I'm leaving town for a little over a week tomorrow evening, and she said that she'd like to meet up again when I get back. That's a good thing, I suppose. I figure that I'll send her a couple amusing texts while I'm gone but otherwise take it easy.

I'm done with the game. You know why? Because it's a game. It shouldn't be a fricking game .

Dude.....you were sleeping with a girl....who you KNEW had a boyfriend. And then you got mad that she wouldn't leave him for you because "I'm better looking than him".

It's a game because you're messing with girls who make it a game. Jesus Christ....

A couple texts?

Bitches need way more attention than that.

They all make it a game man!

This. Seems a lot of men overplay the "aloof" persona. Thats only for when they are acting clingy.

If you want her to think about you, make her think about you. In a good way, not "he hasnt texted in 3 days and acted distant before that, so maybe I should go bang Nate Neighbor"

I've been taking this chick to the bone zone, but I don't really feel a connection with her. It's nice having all the no strings attached stuff though.

Bone Zone? LMAO

You know, Pound Town

It's a SD gay bay, he's using her as wing lesbian.

She loves you..

Need opinions on dating higher tier women. The kind every guy in the bar wants. For some reason she likes me. Turns out shes way cooler than i imagined. My experience is to play it cool cuz these girls usually have clingy guys. Do u call them often or let them wait?

I would assume if she likes you and is tired of the douches and clingers just be honest with her..

Play the game, dominate when you need to.

Always be dominate, alpha girls need alpha guys.

If girls have clingy guys that they allow to linger, that is going to hurt you one way or the other. I've never understood why women do this, but yeah, hot girls keep D on demand just in case they need it.

Again, this is just my opinion.

Don't treat it like it's a game. Be yourself. If that doesn't work for her, oh well.

Good advice, too. Not being yourself will just make you miserable in the end.

Turns out she broke up with the boyfriend. She messaged me for the first time in a month. I'm going to parlay this into a FWB situation.

So she wants what she wants when she wants it, and **** everyone else.

**** her, man.

Like literally, **** her. And then never talk to her again.

o:-)

That's the plan.

This is why you're still a virgin

Doubt it

No. If I want an actual relationship I just have to get set up by my friend's girlfriend with one of her friends.

Nice dude, this is your time, your moment, execute.

I was considering the creation of a new thread for this, but ultimately decided that it's not of interest to a lot of the posters on this board as a whole.

There's a blog that's been going on for a few months detailing the experimental 40-day relationship between two successful young friends who happened to become single at about the same time. I just discovered it today via a friend's Facebook post, but it's ongoing and nearing its end.

The rules:

1. They must see each other every day for 40 days.
2. They must go on at least three "dates" per week.
3. They will see a couples therapist once a week.
4. They must go on one weekend trip together.
5. They must fill out a daily questionaire and document everything.
6. They must not see, date, hookup or have sex with anybody else.

Other than the fact that their posts are amusing and well-written, both people are likable and the website is very nice to look at (they're both artists). They've posted their entries through 33 days, and will finish up some time next week.

They offer a lot of honest insight into their lives and experiences, and I found myself doing a lot of self-reflection as I read through their interactions. If you've got a bit of time here and there, I would recommend that you read through it.

So... I went on a few dates after my previous relationship ended. Some were good, some were ok, some were terrible. I'm continuing to date one of the girls. We haven't reached the point of exclusivity yet but we enjoy each other's company, have shared interests, etc.

Anyway.. after the 4th date she discovered (unknown to both of us) that I've known her brother for 10 years. I went to college with him, he's a friend, we share mutual friends. He and I have been to weddings, bachelor parties, football games, parties, etc. together over that time period. I knew he had a sister but had never met or even seen pictures of her. My parents also know his (and her) dad. Small world just got smaller.

You're going to marry her.

I just quoted Army of Darkness to a girl. We'll see how this works out.

Apparently looking for nothing more than a friends with benefits situation with a lady = teh gay. Never knew that.

wat

Planning a beach/sunset date for tonight. Then tomorrow night I have tickets to the Rays game. It's part of their summer concert series so OneRepublic is playing a concert after the game. Should be fun!

The girl I've been seeing is a SciFi nut, score!

Tonight we're staying in and watching Pitch Black and Chronicles of Riddick.

I've never seen them, and she wants to go see the new one when it comes out.

It will probably be like the past 32 years

Is she fat GoChiefs?

That's certainly better than a girl who watches crappy reality series and just knows that you'd like Gray's Anatomy if you really loved her.

If I wanted to date anyone I would just ask to be set up by someone.

However I've had an epiphany: i don't have any sort of logical reason why I want to date anyone so all I'm looking for is any sort of buck fuddy situation.

Getting the puhh on a daily basis is a beautiful thing.

Avoid the headache of having to be official if you can though.

Oh - I misread the second one as saying "looking for something more than a FWB situation". My bad.

Sounds like an awesome time.

He'll love it...

This is what I want.

Absolutely not.

I guess Billay wouldn't be interested in her then.

And when she pops those dentures out, watch out! There's nothing like a gum-job from a fan of the original Star Trek!

I wouldn't want any women that would touch Clay.

Just messin brah.

Girl I'm banging has a little bit of chub on her.

You like 45 year olds.

You have incredibly low standards.

Got Snorey ****in McGee next to me. Out like a rock.

Just years the craziest snore ever. It was like two snores in harmony and it lasted for a good 8 seconds.

Shared a room with two sorority girls one night. One's ascending snore was followed by the other's with a 1 or 2 second delay. Damnedest thing I'd ever heard.

**** man. I get these days where I still severely miss my ex.

It's been just as long as our relationship lasted, the time since we broke up. But we still hung out for like a Monty after.

I need my feelings for her to subside.

Married, but definitely not the best year ever.

Is it possible that you're sleeping with these other women (the ones you've been boasting about in this thread) as some means of trying to fill the gap left when you broke up with your ex? If so, it might be counter-productive in terms of emotional healing.

It's my opinion that being secure with your single, mostly-sexless life is very important for entering into a real relationship again. Occupying your newly-single self with fun (but meaningless) hookups may not really allow you to ever fully detach from your residual emotional need for sex, leading you to think of your ex during sexual dry-spells.

Obviously, different people's minds work in different ways, so my advice might not even apply to you; still, it's at least worth thinking about.

I haven't thought about that, but maybe. There hasn't been any kind of dry-spell though. I just think I see something that reminds me of her then I just dwell on it.

That's what he's talking about.

Pussy

All kidding aside you don't need her Buck.

55 days. In the mean time I've embarked upon a journey of introspection an realized my trust issues I have with every non-vegetative human being is pretty bad.

I'm paranoid of all y'all mother****ers now.

God Damnit I changed my mind and deleted that post. You're too fast.

Fixed.

Met a pretty awesome little hottie last night. Made her breakfast this morning, but that was the only meat she got.

We're making dinner together next week. This one might be a keeper. http://i.imgur.com/ZfW2YkV.gif