LMAO

When I dated guys like this (fun and good looking but no regular job) it has been because I enjoyed their companionship but at the same time I knew I could end it at any point because they didn't have their stuff together. there was an easy out. I think that makes me a little messed up but it made sense to me at the time because I wasn't ready to settle down.

One of my exs, now close friend, did/does this.

I found out she was dating a total loser, at least in my eyes. When asked why, she said, "because I knew sooner or later he'd do something stupid and I could leave".

I should add she's now close to 30, has a kid with very little support from the father, living overdue bill to over due bill, starting to show her age, and realizing she ****ed up in a major way.

Everything it is that I don't know.

Breaking up with a good man who you know is in love with you is HORRIBLE. There are few things worse!

Wow that would be a massive pile for either of us.

There's that much I don't know about myself?

I don't know if that makes you messed up, unless you happen to fall in love or have kids with one of those easy outs.

"Everything we don't know" is a huge pile of stuff. Even if it's just psychological it's still pretty daunting

How disappointing.

I don't have a regular job, and I definitely don't have my shit together. Yet women don't seem to be beating down my door. Although, come to think of it, I do fall somewhat short in the "fun" and "good-looking" category. And I'd rather play video games than listen to somebody chatter on about real housewife pawn survivor divers LA, molasses boo boo edition.

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The problem is everyday that goes by that I don't have a job besides my worthless freelance sportswriting job, the less employable I become.

My Discusslogical clock is ticking. It's become very clear to me that I have to get a job that pays better than $500/month and not mooch off my grandfather's money. Women aren't even a worry at this point.

If I'm lucky and work hard, maybe I'll have enough money and be out together enough when I'm 35 to find a hopefully childless 20 something with daddy issues that realizes I have the bankroll to support her needs. Right now I don't see a lot of availability with women my age who are engaged / married on working on cranking out kids.

A woman with a kid from previous relationship = no go, full stop. Why? Because I know relationships aren't perfect and I don't want to be a father figure for a kid and then have to cut them off when shit hits the fan with the kid's mom. It's cruel and I won't do it. If I spend a lifetime alone because of this fact then so be it. At least I'll know I didn't hurt a kid because I split with their mom.

All relationships end in either death or dumping.

Ok soooo....is this some kind of trick? I asked what she wanted to do tonight and if I should eat before she gets here.

"Hello there! I am open to anything tonight. We can watch a movie, or go out. You decide! and you can go ahead and eat, I will probably snack at home."

I want to go drink, but maybe it sounds like she wants to stay in and watch a movie. Ladies? Can you decipher that for me?

I'm not a female, but I would take that as she wants to rent a movie and hang out.