I assume they're all the same age. She's in 8th so I assume he's 8th grade as their conversation involved other classmates.

You get transfered to Brazil and build a hut in the jungle...

This is why I will never have kids. I must be way out of touch with reality. Yes, I had kissed a boy by 13, but talking about my cup size? Dating? 15 before either of those things happened.

LMAO! Ignored it soon as I seen it.

I know this isn't quite the same, but when my two cats start to get out and wander I spray them with lemon juice

Some people do the silliest things when they are kids. I mean, one time, I have drove 150 miles in a snowstorm to visit an old girlfriend (this was when I was in HS) that I loved.

Speaking of that, since you mentioned it, what's the cup size? ;)

Kidding.

What's the discipline? I did have my wife talk to her about it because I have no idea what a 13yo girl is thinking? But I feel the phone is an enabler. That's my only discipline tool.

How do you discipline someone for doing things that are natural?

You could always get her one of the cell phones that only allow for calls to pre-programmed numbers.

Mind your own business and stay out of your daughters IMO.

****.


I have this to look forward to in 10 years.


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Good Luck Wutamess. I have no advice to give. What I am about to tell you is the only thing that is an absolute:


Lover her without fault or judgement. There really isn't anything that matters but family when it comes down to it.

I think that's a good approach, in my opinion. She's probably watched 16 and Pregnant on MTV.

Pants has a lot of points but I'll prolly get the details when I take her to Vball practice this week or so.

I think it would depend on how much she admits to doing. If I were you, I'd take her phone away for two weeks minimum. Does she have a laptop or computer? Do you know is she used that all to send the pictures?

It's tough. My daughter is 20, so I've been through what you're going through. There are no easy answers. You are going to have to feel your way and make mistakes, watch her make mistakes, and hope everyone comes out in one piece a the other end of the meat grinder. Here is my advice after having a tougher road than most, but not as tough as some:

1. She's not an adult yet, but she is on her way. In 5 years (not very long) she will be 18 and legally an adult. That transition doesn't magically happen the day she turns 18. It happens every day, starting now. You are going to have to start thinking about her in different ways.

2. You can't control her. She is her own person and as the years go by, will be away from the eyes of you and your wife more and more. She is going to do what she is going to do.

3. If you are always snooping in on her, she is going to turn on you. If you go spying, you aren't going to like everything you see. I would give her space and privacy unless you think she is doing something "big". See below.

4. Focus on the big stuff. You and your wife have to decide what the big things are.

5. You and your wife absolutely have to be on the same page. Your daughter's game (she's already working it) is going to be divide and conquer. You might have to give some ground on a small issue to get your wife to be rock solid on a big issue. Once your wife agrees to a boundary, hold her to it (in private, not in front of the daughter).

6. Establish important boundaries and stick to them. Make sure your daughter knows what those boundaries are and what the consequences are for violating them. She'll test you, so you need to follow through. Make sure the consequences are something realistic that you can follow through on.

7. Pray for miracles. You'll need them.

Last year at the kitchen table over dinner. Had the nitty gritty talk. Even told her about some terms she didn't even know existed. But I'll drive the point home on this go round. I do feel another talk is warranted.