You can do all of that. Grow your brain, your body and social ways. There are websites out there with booklets on how to get out there and grow, basicly there are no short cuts though, when you put yourself out there you will get hurt not just with woman either. Pain is how you grow though. I will say it one more time for effect, there are not cutting corners in life, you learn by going through massive amounts of pain.

Update: realized don't have toothpaste. Brewery next to hotel has great oatmeal stout. Still sipping.