It's a misstep, nothing more.

there isn't anything to "fix". ..he held himself accountable.

there sure COULD be something to fix

maybe he hung out with people that are a challenge his sobriety
maybe he went to a situation or place that added extra pressure to his sobriety

part of dealing with an addiction is avoiding danger situations

I don't know what happened but evaluate,adapt,overcome is a pretty safe plan for dealing with most things.

pick yourself up
dust yourself off
learn from what happened
try again

i mean no insult to J Diddy, just a general philosophy

Remember the way you feel right now. Lock it in your memory bank. Then use it as motivation to not feel like that again.

All the best bud.

It's part of it, bro. Don't beat yourself up Fix it and move on.

Smoke a doobie

disagree....JDiddy has his act together...IMO, you're over thinking it based on emotion.

The worst thing about becoming an alcoholic is not getting to drink.

Sorry. I can't offer any words of advice other than a suggestion to make this a learning experience rather than the beginning of a shame spiral. You reset your clock. Just try to let it run longer next time.

There are some very nice, kind words being said in this thread. Obviously, I didn't think that's how it was going to work out.

Thanks guys. It helps. I feel like I got face raped by a locomotive.

At the beginning of July I had a massive hangover the night after a bachelor party. I woke up the next day with an absolutely crushing sense of depression. I don't know why, but I just felt like emotional shit that day. Come the night of the wedding, I resolved to drink, but pound so much water that a hangover was inevitable, because I never want to feel like that again. I must have drank two gallons of water that night.

....exactly what accountabilty opposes.

evidently it wasn't together enough

nobody is saying J Diddy failed, just that he should learn and regroup so he can try again.

Your the one with emotion involved defending a friend

imo he doesn't need defending ... he need support and honesty


mistakes happen ... learn from it and move forward, try your best to not make the same mistake again.

No insult meant towards J Diddy ... i wish him nothing but success

these statements contradict each other..

I'm not defending him based on emotion, rather logic...dude is solid and doesn't needed to be patted on the head.

...or drink the 3 gallons the night before when you are drinking - as long as you are not trying to pick up females - as you will spend the entire night in the men's room.

seriously - i know exactly what you are feeling - and you have not lost - you have learned.

You're good man. Ease up on yourself, let it flow.