I think he's just havin' some fun.

ROFL

They all say that. Or something similar to that. They do it in an attempt to justify their action of infidelity to themselves as well as their potential adulterer. "My husband ignores me." "I'm lonely." "He doesn't pay attention to me." "He drinks too much." "All he does is spend time at the office." etc., etc., etc.

They convince themselves that they are participating in adultery because of some perceived negative situation in their married lives instigated by their spouse. Maybe not even convince, but just making some excuse in order to possibly validate the affair in their own mind.

The guy could be a prince, but she's not thinking of any of his positives when she's making an attempt at garnering attention. And attention is the primary reason a woman cheats. It's not that she isn't getting attention at home, it's that she wants/demands/needs attention and wants to feel wanted and attractive by more than her spouse. We all do to some degree. How she deals with that and where she takes it are up to the individual.

I was watching some show on NG or TLC or some such crap, and they were actually doing a intensive study on "love." Turns out that the married woman, when out in a social setting without being accompanied by her spouse/partner actually puts out more the the dopamine, endorphins and subtle sexual body queues than single woman.

She was pretty ignored.....we spent hours and hours together and he was never around or called once.

Yep, i see Kagney Linn Karter all over again.

hamas, you've just been owned by someone you routinely think of as a dumbass.

kill yourself.

even so, your initial response tells me there might be hope for you yet...;)

He most likely trusted her.

Stupid bastard.

He was busy working it was all he did.

Yeah. How foolish of me to respond seriously to a serious thread that has had nothing but serious replies in it.

So naive am I :sulk:

Being a brotha, do you **** a lot of white women? The white woman is the black man's kryptonite.

a girl could slap, punch, kick, call me names, or throw liquor in my face and you'd still see no retaliation from me.

They can look foolish...nothing screams tool more than chucking a drink at a girl. Are you kidding me?

I don't think 'Hamas' is a tool, but chucking a drink at a girl, even if she did it first, is just loser behavior.

Don't.

What a stupid generalization. I mean... Just stupid. You typed that. Read that. And hit enter.

wow.

Yea I thought that was a pretty stupid post he made.

FAP FAP FAP FAP FAPFAPFAP FAP....keep crying, you infected dickhole.

Thats what REAL men do right? Equate everything back to monday night Raw?


Your wife cheated on you man? Sorry to hear it, its like that one time when the Mouth of the South told the guitar man that junk yard dog wasn't his friend, and then during their match he handed jyd the caveman's bone to club him with when he wasn't looking. Shit just wasn't right. So anyway, I met this married bitch on craigslist and her husband is in Iraq and......

fapfapfapfapfap.

Seeing as it's pretty obvious you don't even know what I was referring to, I would suggest sticking to something you know.

Internet tough guy persona mixed with hilarious midwestern family values was working better.

Seeings how you're an admitted wife****er, I can see why you're spinning for excuses and justification.

You're pretty much an all world shitbrick. I'm tempted to see if I can find you a title belt online. You're gochiefs without the ambition to go to the gym.

It really hurts me to know that Iowanian doesn't think highly of me, I tell ya.

My day is ruined now RUINED! ROFL

Be let me ask an honest question what makes you think that I care what you think?

Its good to know that I won't be affecting your score on guitar hero.

Don't laugh too hard, you don't want to wake your mom up.


You've always got guys like shyguyms to keep you of the top rung of dipshittery, but you've definitely got aspirations of greatness on thd DF scale.

Confronting the significant other of a cheater?
Sounds like a plan for getting shot to me.

Wouldn't the fact that she was living with him for the entire time you were together throw a red flag on the field? OP said for the 3 years they were 'together, she lived with her ex boyfriend? No way in hell I would just say "oh, it's ok for you to live with your ex of 9 years, 30 mins away from me."

Wha?!?!?!

This. Seriously, you are lucky the guy was so subdued.

Even though you didn't "know" that they were still together you had to have known something was up long before she started pulling away.

If she was serious about you, she would have moved out of the ex's house.

This is about petty revenge and hurting ego. Nothing more. You are not concerned about the other guy's situation one iota otherwise you would have cared when she was with you vs. when she stopped.

Not to mention that it might put her in danger. How would you feel if you told this guy and then read that she was severely beaten or murdered?

Do the right and mature thing and be a grown up and just cut your loses and move on.

This.

Fuggin haters. There's codes to that shit. You broke one.

This is too logical for hillbillies to understand.

Over a hundred posts since these two and not one "This thread is worthless without pictures" reply?

You all suck.

You'd only post stupid comments like that cuz you wanted the masses of people that can click on any vast array of actually sexy hot porn to beg and plead for you to share your non-existant homemade porn.

I'm glad the members of CP are already fully stocked on their porn.

Bad place to come for advice!

Porn? You mean I can access porn on the Internet?

girl on girl porn even

http://video.google.com/videoplay?do...74583886026984

This says it all.

My guess is it'd be even more worthless with pics.

I do agree with keg and Hamas to an extent, but if the guy knows he's ****ing a wife or, even worse, a married mother - he deserves to have the shit kicked out of him. You simply do NOT do that.

And quit being a dumbshit, Mecca, it doesn't matter how lonely the wife is. If she's that unhappy, she can go ahead and divorce the dude who is toiling away at work to support his family and then go ahead and proceed to **** some worthless, basement dweller like you. That is some ****ed up shit.

In either case, the wife will be taking a hike without any if's or but's, no matter what the situation was, she is the one who is responsible.

Maybe I should have titled this thread "letting the other guy know his woman cant be trusted". And there was no home to wreck, they were not married, had no kids, she was playing us both and she got caught.

Sounds like she got away with all of it.

He's got to figure that out for himself. He won't believe it coming from you.

Hell, if they're not married, he may not care anyway, as long as he's getting his wick dipped. Not like she was breaking any kind of real committment.

You think so? Then you tell me why someone, specifically a woman, would cheat on a spouse? Because, as Mecca said, her husband works and she's lonely? And she thinks that an affair is going to fix that situation? Bullshit. She's doing it for the attention, both mental and physical. She wants to be made to feel attractive. If she was pissed at her husband about not paying attention to her, it's a hell of a lot less traumatic for everyone involved just to talk to the husband and tell him how she feels rather than going out and having sex with some schmuck. No, she is not cheating because she is in this pit of escapable despair and misery. If that's the case, she gets the divorce. But she's not getting the divorce. She's just going out and getting a piece of strange to make herself feel sexy and wanted and then going back home to her husband. She's also probably a dopamine junkie and uses the illicit sexual affair to get that big release of it for the adrenaline rush.

So, unless you can provide a bit more insight into your perceptions of this other than "stupid generalization," your provided opinion on the matter doesn't amount to jack squat.

As far as you go Mecca, to say that my assessment was stupid based on your association with an affair that was initiated because the husband "worked all the time" is even more idiotic. Her decision to have sex with you and your decision to have sex with a married woman based on the sole reason of "because the guy worked all the time" is the only thing that is stupid here. He works a lot, so of course the wife is obviously needing to go out and suck on some dudes pecker to solve that horrendous problem of having her husband work too much? Yeah, that makes sense.

Pretty much.

Mecca has proven time and time again his lack of character on this site. He's of reasonable intelligence but I'd almost bet the father figure is missing or very seriously flawed. I don't say that lightly because the mother of my own teens moved our kids 1500 miles away from me and I am essentially missing.

I could tell you stories about other women. I could feed you Cosmo stats of why women cheat. I could tell you that I've never met a woman who if given a Prince Charming at home, would go out and cheat. If she cheated, her idea of Prince Charming wasn't at home. I've never met a married woman who cheated for strange. (Tho, mathematically I'm sure they're out there) That's inherently a male trait. Women can get it anytime anywhere. Opportunities are boundless. Women choose to marry in SPITE of it. They don't go looking for it afterwards.

Women love to chat. If communication solved everything with the great communicators that men are, they wouldn't cheat. My ex exploded just as violently when I tried to leave him the right way as he did when I tried to leave him the wrong way. Some of your Prince Charming victims have a helluva lot more to do with their woman straying than you give them credit for.

What was your other theory? Attention? Such crap. If I had craved attention I would have sat at the club and giggled and flirted my way up and down the bar. What I craved was an intimate emotional attachment. If I could get have got it at home... Geez. I confess I'm lazy, I'd rather have it at home.

OK, so your husband is douchebag. That's still not an excuse to **** around on him. You divorce/split up first, then you go and get your emotional attachment elsewhere.

You expect me to argue that?

Well, to us, "intimate emotional attachment" is just "attention" in womanspeak, lol.

The only idea I'm trying to convey is that there is no excuse for cheating. ZERO. And the party that cheated on you is the responsible one, not their partner in crime.

Totally agree. And I paid my penance.

I'm arguing whatshisname's idea of motives.

And with my mouth and bubbly (/sarcasm) personality, I've never exactly lacked attention. Intimacy.... A little different.

And I could tell you that there are plenty of woman who have a Prince Charming at home who do cheat. I could tell you that there are plenty of women out there that absolutely love their husbands (or at least conceptualize that they love them completely) that cheat. And woman can get it every time, but not every time with someone that they would really like to get it from. And they don't necessarily go "looking for it," but they are looking for something that is both emotional and physical - and the degrees of which obviously depend upon the individual.

You yourself stated that you craved intimate emotional attachment. What's that? Emotional and physical attention, is it not? Thank you for agreeing with me.

And I'm sure that there are other mitigating factors other than the "he works too much" scenario, but regardless, an affair isn't going to make a bad situation at home any better. It's just going to make it worse. And as such, the affair isn't a fix for any problem that the woman is having at home, whether those problems are real or made up in order to justify her actions in an illicit affair. She's doing it to be made to feel wanted, loved, sexy, or whathaveyou. There is also the very real dopamine affect that occurs in sexual affairs. But it sure as hell isn't fixing problems at home.

This woman I'm writing about, she said she loved me, she just lived with her ex for financial reasons, etc. When I said she could live with me for free, she always had an excuse. For instance, her mother lived with her and her ex. And I'm pretty sure it was a lie, but she said that her ex never could make her climax in the 9 years they were together, and I could. So there is more light on the story.

She was prolly faking it with you as well. I don't think women cheat on their husbands for sex, unless they're nymphos. Like, Katipan said, I think it's more for attention that they don't get at home. But, then again, I really don't know why women cheat...

I don't want to break it to you.....but she lied about that too.

You can split hairs with me all you want, the basis of your tirade was that we adultress women wanted STRANGE attention from anyone besides our Sweet Charming Prince at home.

Iowanain, seriously, you must have the smallest pecker, your insecurity is transparent. It's great!

That's her fault if he didn't. I just don't understand why it's impossible for people to communicate. You want to fix a problem in your relationship? Try opening your mouth and being honest. Goddamn people are just unbelievably stupid.

Although, I'm sure that that was a lie too. You got rolled dude. Pack it up and move on. I'd suggest that you quit worrying about this girl and get on with your life. I understand that good sex is a hard thing to give up, but you are just going to set yourself up for a lifetime of lies and misery if what you currently want to have happen actually ends up happening.

ROFL

No, no. You have a huge cock. It's just that my snatch is freakishly large. I've had doctors tell me this.

I'm not sure if you have any personal experiences with vaginas, but some are larger than others, lol.

We all say that.

Just like you all say that the girl currently sucking your dick is the best damn blow job you've ever had. At least to her face.

Well, the current one always is the best one ever, until the next. We tell no lies.

Mer was so much cooler than Katipan. I miss her. She had a gun and everything.

No sense in saying "I've had better blow jobs" while she is giving you a blow job.....ouch.

thats rich.

I'm going to check the name of the thread starter again, you know, the guy ready to blow his own brains out on the front stoop of the woman who was so impressed with his kong-dong that she lied to him for 3 years, and decided to stay with the thimble-dick who couldn't get her off.

Shygums tried this bullshit too. You're in fine company.


When you stood on her step, weeping, and realized that you were just "chic-rolled"....was she swaying back and forth, rolling her hands and singing "we've been together, for so loooooooooong"

ahahahahah

Losing my HK was one of my punishments.

I'm still pretty cool, dammit.

ROFL



Whatever woman has my dick in her mouth, that's the best blow job I've ever had.

Exactly.

And you make a good point about the teeth. Unless you have an old one gumming that mother****er, you're in some real danger. Best to tread lightly.

Its only when you realize that ALL of them are the size of the Mariana Trench, that it occurs you've got the hangdown of an infant dwarf.



this is the opening for the line I've used here before.
"there is no such thing as a little pecker, thats just something chics with HUGE BERGINERS say."

say


say


say

So this is a BAD thing to do? I thought it would make her try harder...

I think Katipan is full of wisdom, personally and I'd listen to her if I were you on this thread because she's spot on, imo.

But, in defense of this woman, it takes a lot of GUTS to leave the guy you're married to, you know? It's not like you can just up and walk out. It took me a good 4 years before I finally left my ex. And it isn't that I didn't know it was the right thing to do, it was all the embarassment I had to face in doing it. I'm not defending her, I'm just saying...walking away from your situation is a ****ing hard thing to do.

"You look like this chick that gave me the best blow job of my life."

Best pick up line ever.
Gets us in competition mode.

ROFL

The basis for my comments is that women cheat because they desire attention, both physical and mental. I never said anything about "strange." And I'm sure that they like the attention from their spouse/SO. But they also want to be made to feel wanted, loved, attractive, intelligent, etc. from others as well. I'm talking about base human genetics. And also individual chemical makeup. Most mammals are not monogamous. Approximately 90% in actuality. Some are though. This is primarily determined by the presence of a certain chemical in the brain that is secreted when the mammal (human or otherwise - this chemical was first noticed in the north american vole mouse and later found in humans as well) is around their mate of choice. Non-monogamous mammals do not secrete this chemical in any significant amount, but monogamous ones do. A lot of it. As well, the brain secretes a significant amount of dopamine during sexual intercourse. Even more in illicit affairs. Same stuff that is excreted in sky diving, bungee jumping, etc. And it's highly addictive.

There is a lot of factors, but yes, it does have to do with attention. Physical, mental, emotional attention. And what chemicals that are secreted in the brain as it relates to that attention. That was the basis for my tirade. And you have not refuted that one bit.

Interesting.

I used to use future tense in my glory days. Some chicks like being told what to do, "sexually"--(using the Demonpenz voice from his n00b song).

****, I don't have a problem blaming biology for my indiscretion. I don't buy it, but I'll do it.

I have a problem with...

On any given day what I want is the attention of my mate. Everything else is gravy.

If you had a horsecock and punished her womb with such amazing dexterity, you'd already have the video proof on youpRon.

Or on YourTube.

I like you for a lot of reasons but mostly because you're real and when you want to you can bare your soul on a message board. Men would be well advised to read and then re-read this very post from you to understand the psyche of the female mind. They don't live for the sex like we men do. They want to connect intimately with their mate. The sex is a healthy by-product of women feeling loved and cared for.

Selfishness is a very human trait exclusive of gender. We men battle selfishness and our egos. Neither are conducive to fostering a healthy relationship with a wife. If my buddies say I'm whipped, I regard that as a compliment. That generally indicates I'm paying attention to my wife and meeting her needs, something I was clueless in achieving during my first marriage. Women typically don't understand that we need to feel that respect because we're the hunters and providers.

The point is that our society and education system wants to teach history, reading, writing, math, cooking, sex, women's liberation, black history, and how to work on our cars but when is the last time you saw a secular class on how to make your marriage work - what makes you spouse tick so you can succeed in marriage? Where are those classes? Why can't we teach our youth how to communicate with their spouses and achieve marital happiness?

Perhaps this is because you are self-confident and have self-eseteem.

Trying to say women want this and that is absolute crap. A content, happy woman will want something entirely different than someone constantly needing affirmation and compliments.

Also, the age of a girl is important. Young girls don't know what they want as much as old women, and are more prone to try new things. Not all of them, but some.

I wonder why it is that so many women are not self confident and don't have self esteem? So much so that katipan or I would include myself are the exception to your rules?
Seems perhaps if you're the parent of a daughter, you might wonder about this?

How could they not struggle?

They're constantly berated with shit like, "Is a size 4 fat?" and recurring images of criticized, "imperfect" celebs. It's a byproduct of the culture in which we live.

Turn on E for 5 minutes.

No excuse. Just reality. Parents have to do a lot to overcome this.

Relationships are a two-way street.

However, you wanted attention. So you went out and got it. And I know your particular story from other stuff you've posted on here. At least from what you have said, drugs played an issue in your situation with your spouse. That creates a whole new set of problems that goes beyond the normal wanting/needing/desiring attention thing that is a part of basic human biology. Personally, I don't know what you were trying to accomplish by having an affair and also staying with a spouse who became addicted to drugs. That's a train wreck waiting to happen.

sorry, this is where i stopped, i can't help but share my cheater story now. this girl i dated last fall was coming out of a marriage in which the husband had been cheating for over five years. we dated for a few months before diferances caused us to split, but the whole time we dated i dealt with this manipulative "ex." he would call me at 6 in the am on a sunday, and say "make sure my wife makes it home in time to take care of our kids." anyways, like i said, couldn't agree on some issues, and we split. couple weeks ago i find out the two of them are getting back together. whats funny, he's managed to make her think it was her fault he cheated. i got some texts from them both last weekend, from her asking my forgiveness for her using me, from him for being the "root cause of my sins." my answer to both was the same. if it helps you sleep at night, sure. he proceeded to get preachy with me, thats when i pulled out one of my favorite denzel lines ever "forgiveness is between you and god." i left out the part about arranging their meeting. really, i can't wait till he cheats again, lol, and he will. he's a POS.

You leave me little to argue with and thats annoying.

Spot on with what? She wasn't getting the attention that she perceived she needed from her husband so she has an adulterous affair in order to fill that emotional void in her current relationship while still actively maintaining that said relationship? That's wisdom? That's what I should listen to? Am I missing something here?

From what I understand she DID NOT LEAVE or walk away. They lived together.

It was the OP who believed that a woman was living with a man she'd broken up with and not sleeping with him anymore. Yet, he was helping her with the bills. ROFL

Sorry, the woman is not the bad person in this situation. She was doing what she was ALLOWED to do.