To add my own color to this, speaking as someone who's had extremely low self-esteem his entire life, when conversations like this get going, it always strikes me just how little people actually understand what's going on in my head. Now, I can't speak for this guy, but I can speak from my own experience, and maybe the number one most misunderstood thing with my self-esteem is that it has anything at all to do with how other people see me. It actually doesn't. It has to do with how I see myself and where that kicks in with my social difficulties is just assuming that everyone else sees the same thing (aka 'projection'). It's hard to explain or to verbalize, but it's not so much caring what other people think of me as just expecting other people to realize right away that I'm broken, somehow. Like it's written on my forehead. (In my case it would say "loser" in flashing neon lights - that's the word I most often use to identify myself...). There's really nothing rational about it, it's just how I'm wired, and in the end how other people see me never really even factors into the equation. Hell, I've had people tell me I'm great, that I'm smart and funny and there's so much more I could be doing with my life. But it just rolls off me. Because it's not what I believe. All I can ever see in myself is the things that I identify as 'wrong'.

That's the nutshell version. Be happy those of you whose brains don't work this way...

Such a self imposed prison, baby.

Keg I have been there and still battle that every day. You CAN change though, but it takes a lot of effort and doing things you aren't always comfortable doing. I will agree that it's not as easy as people make it sound, but it all starts with forcing yourself to change. Know what your weaknesses are and either work on them or embrace them. Basically a prisoner of your own mind.

Took me 37 years, but I'm breaking free from that way of thinking. It's so liberating.

You will never be able to truly be accepted by anyone else until you learn how to accept yourself. Something else I've learned in the last six months. The old me yearned for acceptance by other people for "me". I was willing to change who I was in order to be the type of person they would accept. Now, the more I'm learning to accept myself, the less I find myself "needing" the acceptance of others. Funny thing is, the less emphasis I put on it, the more I find people accepting me. Weird how that works.

Luv Gaza strip or landing strip?

I'm an asshole..I have no trouble admitting it..If a chick doesn't like that then she can go on with her life looking for whatever she wants..If a girl can handle my asshole attitude and my sarcasm from the start then she can be graced with my awesome and my sweet moves in the sack that will make her life a nonstop ride to orgasm land[/QUOTE]

Gonna steal that last line

LMAO

People's opinion of you are colored ultimately by your own opinion of yourself.

Be yourself, with CONFIDENCE, and not only will people accept you, they'll like you.

People flock to confidence.

especially chicks.
chicks don't want an insecure guy.

confidence is a pheramone
*edit* Confidence whilst not being a prick.

To everyone in this thread who gets down (including me) it could be worse, you could have broken your dick like this guy...

http://www.reddit.com/r/tifu/comment..._morning_wood/

I'm not even clicking that lol

ROFL

Went back and read this today. 2-3 bottles and wet the bed. That's a bit extreme.

"pissed the bed TOO many times" lol