You got dumped?

Yep.

Said she liked hanging out with me and we had a lot of similar interests but "we weren't connecting on a deeper level."

How is that even possible after 3 weeks?

Men and women work at different speeds. If it wasn't for reproductive organs....men and women wouldn't even ****ing talk to each other.

Shitty. If she expects a deep connection after 3 weeks, she'll be looking for a while.

*shrug*

I'm guessing it was something else entirely. That was just her prepared excuse for ending it.

There's your sign Clay. Women aren't worth it bro! Chase the impossible dream of being.. whatever the **** you want to be.

Step 1: Get Money
Step 2: Get More Money, and if by this point you're feeling horny and pr0n doesn't do it for you then,
Step 3: Fly to a city with prostitution.
Step 4: Live it up.

First, try not to let it make you feel too bad. These kinds of things happen and you'll eventually find someone who makes you happy if you keep looking.

Second, I don't want you to feel like I'm kicking you when you're down, but maybe her "deeper level" comment is related to some of the things mosbonian was trying to say to you. Obviously, I don't have a clue about what kind of relationship the two of you had over that 3 weeks, so disregard if I'm way off the mark. Did the two of you already have sex? How much of your focus was on sex versus how much was on figuring out what other things she wanted out of a relationship? :shrug:

Third, girls are weird. But you'll get them figured out (at least enough to co-exist in a happy relationship). Keep your head up.

No. She said she wanted to wait and I respected that.

The other night I asked her for the FIRST TIME if she wanted to go further. I didn't push it after she said no.

Good for you. That seems like a good approach to me.

We had a lot of similar interests and mostly my focus was on exploring that. AKA NERDS

hah, reminds me of my perpetually single woman friend. She gets super attached really quickly and when she feels it's not being reciprocated then she pulls this on guys.

Met a gal from okcupid she came over for the super bowl and just now left.

Did you ever talk about the personal life experiences that ultimately defined your similar interests, or did you just hang out with your buddy?

Yeah....if you acted like too much of a "friend"....she won't see anything in you that makes her want to move it further.

Yes.

FYI, we were very physical. Just no sex.

Sorry Clay. Shit sucks. We will never really understand the opposite sex.

The opposite sex isn't hard to understand - it's hard to put up with long term...

My guess is she found someone else. She's a total catch and easily makes more money than I do.

I'm not too broken up about it. I'm getting used to this.

You need to become a firefighter. Or a bartender. Or a Navy Seal. Girls fall in love with those guys before they even open their mouths.

Until an astronaut shows up.

And ... bartender? Why a bartender? Are women just using them for free drinks, or do they really get captivated by the ability to shake a jigger?

Lisa Nowak made me think all astronauts wear diapers all the time. Plus Gabby Gifford's husband... Complete sex repeal.

He's the most popular man in the room. Even the guys love him.

C'mon Wendler -join my crusade.

We're gonna be the FO of the next NFL expansion team in London.

**** women, get championships.

I hate bartenders. Any time I'm somewhere with a bar and I have to get drinks, they serve everyone else first and then start wiping down the counter, and I'm standing there wondering how I became invisible. I hate bartenders and bartenders hate me.

Now, airline gate agents are a different story. We always bond instantly.

Admittedly it's become more of a business. In the old days, astronauts were walking on the moon and splashing down near remote Pacific atolls. Nowadays they just film spiders weaving space webs and occasionally go clean up a broken satellite, and they land in California and carry their wheeled baggage off. But still, there's always the chance that they're going to fight off an invading alien fleet. You can't say that about everybody.

That's easy to do when the gate agent is already finding out whether you dress left or right. If you gave your bartender that kind of information you would surely stand out in the crowd.

After the first time going on a date with a girl how long do you usually wait before contacting them again?

5 minutes. And say you're super attached to her personality, looks, titties etc.

Are you 16? Just ****ing contact them if you want to hang out again.

This was a discussion I had with some lady friends. We for the most part agreed give it more than a day or you come across as clingy.

Usually the next evening if I feel it went well.

It all depends on the circumstances. When I say contact her...I don't mean call or text constantly until she responds....but a "hey....had a good time" isn't going to come off as clingy.

And I don't mean right after she leaves.....24 hours is just fine.

People over think things.

If I go out with a guy and we have a great time and I get a note, or a text, or a quick call acknowledging just how much fun I was, or thanking me for said fun, I don't think creeper. I think aww what a sweetie, he probably loves his mom.

If I get a text that says something like "the smell of your hair lingers on my skin", then I just don't respond.

Exactly.

I usually contact the girl the next morning when we wake up in bed together.

Women suck

Not all. :banghead:

Well, the fun-loving ones do at least...

This one seemed like the type that would be absolutely disgusted at the site of a penis ROFL.

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That's when you have pull a Bill Cosby.

http://gawker.com/who-wants-to-remem...aul-1515923178

Trying to read a 21 year old girl is confusing.

Shit man they aren't much easier at 30.

It's worse at 30. At that point they're stuck in their ways and not changing anything.

I think it's easier with women 25 and up. Most Younger women aren't looking for something serious because theres so many options.

I had a girl over this past weekend she stayed the night (she asked) and wouldn't ****ing leave. Since then though i've had to iniate contact. I'm sure i'm overthinking this.

I should kick you in the nuts for saying something like that. But I understand you're feeling used so it can wait.

He'll learn the hard way.

What?

I don't have less options than I did a decade ago. I have different ones. If anything young girls are focused on what things are supposed to be. Their focus is on the dream.

I'm too busy enjoying the ride to daydream anymore.

For every wet behind the ears male with no life experience that crosses me off their list because I'm an old lady, there's another one ready to enjoy the complete freedom of a woman that is no longer worried about what others think.

30s - all the vigor of youth, none of the emotional baggage.

If I had to pick between a women in her younger 20's or a women in her 30's I would choose the women in her 30's every single time.

Sure your options are different. There aren't as many. People my age are getting married, having kids, etc.

Totally agree with your last statement.

I look at it like this man..

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Maybe you....but not ALL women that are 30.

The average marriage lasts 7 years. Your age group is already divorced long before they get to me.

Gross generalities. :)

Doesn't that figure include second or third marriages?

Yep. All marriages, no matter how many times we try it, have to surpass the 7 year itch.

Interesting....considering I'm at the 5 year mark right now.

You're a smart even keeled guy. I don't imagine you with a flighty psycho.

That bodes well.

You mean there are other types of women that cannot be described as either flighty or psycho?

ROFL

You've never met my wife. Flighty? No. Psycho? She hasn't been tested so I can't confirm or deny.

I heard a couple girls today discussing Ph balance. I was both horrified, and horrified. Girls are kind of disgusting.

Eh **** it. Either way it tastes like the metal edge of a garden hose. Hasn't stopped me yet.


And by yet I mean for like the dozen or so times I've actually dined at the Y.

My problem with women in their 30s in KC, most of them have let themselves go. And I am not talking about just being average. Overland Park does not have that problem.

I mean, if they are that way single imagine with a significant. Ladies, hit the gym. Go with your man. KC needs to get more active in working out, or doing activities outside.

The Midwest spread is gender neutral. The winters here are also very demoralizing. But I hear you. Complacency isn't attractive in either sex. That's a good reminder for me.

Katipan, maybe you can help me out. Why were these girls discussing Ph levels in the common room of our dorm. Is this something women enjoy talking about?

Not as a general rule. If the leaders of the discussion group were claiming perfection in their Ph, then the motivation was to get any listeners to think about their vaginas. If they were talking shit about other women's Ph, well then you're just witnessing classic mean girl crap. If there were tissues involved and soft murmuring then they were trying to fix someone's Ph. If you see alot of notes and textbooks and a lifesize fake vagina then they were probably doing homework.

Just tell them sperm is a base and offer your services.

This is why I don't date, but from the opposite perspective. As an overweight 40-year old living well below the poverty-line, there's just no real point. I'm not going to be interested in anybody who'd settle for a guy like me, I have absolutely nothing to offer a woman who has her shit together, and the idea that I could change in any meaningful way at this stage of my life is a fantasy that would end up killing any relationship now just the same as it did 10 years ago.

It's not always easy to acknowledge, but some of us just aren't wired right...

WWell it was only two girls, and I heard one say something along the lines of "it's getting funky down there". Then there was talk of Ph balance being off, at which point, I picked up my books, went back to my room, and vomited.

I will not be offering either one of these girls my sperm as a base. :eek:

Your choice to be a fan.

I could just shake you sometimes and someday I'm going to. I could rattle off a list of traits and qualities in you that every man should have but certainly don't. But that would just embarrass you and people would roll their eyes at me. What you hate in yourself someone else may never even see. Much less care about.

Nohomo.

There is a lot of truth in this, but you're leaving out the ones who are so ****ed up from the previous baggage their early 30s are a desperate depression induced coma.

I still find myself bouncing between the 22-24 year and ~30 age brackets. I entertained a 23 year old a couple times the past couple months. It was a lot of fun, but I had to keep from smashing her unrealistic dreams in nearly every other conversation. Small town girl with a kid but no custody, serious daddy issues, a shit job, no money, no college, a pot smoking past that got her in trouble, living at home, and big dreams of building a log cabin on a big farm and traveling all over the country. :spock:

I regularly dodged the "what do you think" question like I was running with the bulls and had to look away every time she said, "oh, it's just money". I constantly felt like this....

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These girls were not attractive. Both quite large. Stuffing their faces with pizza. Then I hear the words "it's getting funky down there"

:shake:

Heh. Any problem you see in yourself is twice as obvious to everyone else.

I don't deny the appeal of youth. :)

Maybe, maybe not. Depends on what it is honestly.

That definitely doesn't apply to women.

19/Single- looking to mingle.

Joke. Don't attack me please. :)

You're 7 years older than my daughter. That's just not going to work. Oh dear God, NOW I feel old.

ROFL :bolt:

She has sound advice keg, most people do not see internal flaws or even most external flaws unless you tell them. And working out does not have to cost money. You can run, jog in the park, it also reduces stress after awhile.

You just have to take baby steps and stay motivated.