I don't believe in cliche's. I believe in advice and action.

cliches are there for a reason. mostly cause they are true. Aint braggin if its true.

People have been posting the same responses for three years or more on luv's threads. Something isn't working.

I'm trying to help - I was being serious with the mentor thing. She's posted many of her very poor financial and life decisions on this board. But I suppose that could be interpreted as kicking someone while they are down, but in some cases people need to hit rock bottom before they start to scratch their way back up.

some people gotta grind all the grist.


;)

I agree... I'm always looking for my next job, even if it's just checking up on a few companies once every few weeks. Get a list of companies in Springfield (wikipedia) and check out their websites to see what's out there. It's definitely worth the small amount of time each week... even if it works out with your current company, you never know when you'll need a new job.

walked into that one

I need to get my post count up is my excuse..

I know it's a struggle and I don't mean be little that, Luv, but at least you didn't lose your job all together. That's quite a blessing in today's economy. I've had three members of the church lose their jobs in a matter of weeks and are having a heck of a time finding new ones. So yeah, there's some changes ahead for you, but at least you still have an income. And I don't know the story about the ex....but words from a Say Anything come to mind,

JOE: Lloyd, man, no babe is worth it. Yo, hang with us man. We'll teach you Bibles full of truth.
DENNY: Man, all you gotta do is find a girl that looks just like her, nail her, and then dump her, man. Get her off your mind.
MARK: Your only mistake is that you didnt dump her first. Diane Court is a show pony. You need a stallion, my friend. Walk with us, and you walk tall.
LUKE: Bitches, man.
DENNY: Somebody better get that kid a condom.
LUKE: Yo dudes, I gotta bail.

Not everyone is as smart as you. I'm sure you've figured that out. I own up to the decisions I make in life. I just seem to be going through a spell where it seems like things are happening to me instead of me making things happen. Yes, I was incredibly stupid for the financial decisions I made while I was with this guy, but I'm also paying for them. I was getting my emotions out of the way and making headway with putting things together, then my company decides to sell me. I didn't ask for that. That wasn't a decision I made.

For the most part, I'm not one who makes bad choices. I'm unlucky in the relationship department. I share that here in order to 1) see if anyone's been in a similar situation, and 2) it is entertainment value for some here. Don't feel sorry for me, oh wise one. I don't need your pity. I just needed to vent. You can continue to look down your nose to me like you always do. Just think, if I didn't post my idiotic stories and situations, you'd be picking on someone else who might actually take it to heart.

I definitely don't mean to make it seem like I've got it harder than someone else. I know I'm better off than a lot of people. I just tend to worry when it comes to finances, and taking a huge cut in pay didn't help whenever I was trying to figure out how to keep up with bills with the added expenses. I feel for anyone who has to look for a job. I always hated jobhunting. I was going to be so proud to say that I'd been with my company for 10 years in November. While I do have a job, I will basically be starting over. It was just a little much to swallow as it happened.

YOU are making the bad choices - bad luck is bad luck, but don't try and go blaming any part of your problems on bad luck. Plus, all of your decisions are related to one another some how. You made the decision to stay with the company when you knew ahead of time they were looking to sell, if I recall correctly. I don't feel sorry for you, but I just wonder if you would listen to the people on this board once in awhile, would you be in the same situation you are in now?

I had just gotten a raise at work a month ago. We had been acquired by a different company in the past, but nothing changed where we were at. My boss told me that our portion of the company had been sold about 4 hours before they announced it to everyone as a whole. You honestly think I wouldn't have already been job hunting if I'd known in advance that I'd be taking a big cut in pay? My god, you must think I'm a complete moron. No wonder you treat me the way you do.

Heh, I know that feeling all too well. I've been going thru one of those spells for 3 years, hopefully yours doesn't last as long.


Just because someone makes what turns out to be the wrong choice doesn't necessarily mean it was a bad decision. No one knows what the future holds. Lord knows there's a few decisions I'd like have back, but at the time I made them I felt they were the right thing to do based on the information I had at the time.

grape gatorade is a helluva drug