There could be a revenge **** here, no lie. But it will be at a time of his choosing. Right now she is the one in the driver seat, and he needs to flee a bit.

With my ex wife, it has been 1.5 years since we split up and I haven't said a word to her in that time. It is seriously getting to her, as the number of contact attempts is becoming much more frequent.

Well that's a separate story. Consider debt consolidation and/or if she has a job and the cards are in both your names then go after her (legally).

Oh, and NEVER co-sign loans and mingle finances until you are REALLY seriously committed to each other (married, engaged or at least living together with thoughts of marriage).

Hey just a thought here champ, but maybe she feels bad for what she did and wants to try and make it right.

Meanwhile, you are obviously still bitter about it. I think the responsible and civil thing would simply be to say that you aren't over what she did, you're moving on and so should she, and then leave it at that.

Seems to me that the reason she's moved on to an older man has a lot to do with her feeling you were immature. The way you are acting right now is proving that she's right.

Better call Sau....I mean Reighters.

I shouldn't probably tell you this but here it goes. Get her in bed at her place or a hotel and when you are about to bust, pull off the condom and blast in her face. Get the hell out of there and take pictures if you can. Then send it to her new soon to be ex. How many dates do you think it will take to get her in bed? Just play it kool and be indifferent to what she did to you and you are in there.

I think if you play this right it could really lean to your advantage.

okay, i'll bite, in your opinion, how do I play this 'right'

Don't talk or text her move on. Life too short to dwell on this.

Pretty much this......If you live your life thinking you've got to have revenge every time something doesn't go your way you'll be in for a long depressing life. Not trying to get revenge is the mature thing to do. However, if you're still hung up on getting even with her some how this is the proper way to do it.

An "Ex" wants to know that you are still pining away for them. Even if they never speak this fact. Depending on how the relationship ended, they don't want to see you happy and successful, knowing that you have moved on and are doing well. You don't have to do the "You did this to me, I'm gonna do this to you" scenario because there is no end to that....but if you show them, "I've moved on and I'm doing well, I'm happy and it's all because you decided to be flake", that's the best revenge you could ever give.

And if that doesn't work you could always try seducing her mother and or sister.....that one works like a charm every time. :D

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How many times are you going to ignore great advice?

12-gauge pump .......

Do A but instead of letting her know 20 min before hand, just totally stand her up. Text her late at night, make an excuse as to why that happened. That will keep her on the hook.

I felt that was too big of an asshole thing to do.

Be an adult and move on.