Originally Posted by Rain Man (Post 6570523)

I'd draw the line at wedding rings or engagement rings.

Other than that, the key is the symbolism. Does she just think it's a necklace, or does she think it's a reminder of the deep and abiding love she once had for Percival or Chauncey or whatever his name is?

Originally Posted by loochy (Post 6570530)

This. Maybe it's just a nice necklace. There's no reason to make her take it of if she really just likes the necklace. I doubt she's holding onto it because every time she puts it on she thinks of him.
Hell, I still have a jacket that my ex got me and I like the jacket. I don't even think of her anymore when I put it on. I'd be more than a little pissed if my GF wanted me to get rid of it.

Originally Posted by CoMoChief (Post 6570536)

It's a piece of jewelry. Who ****ing cares. Would you have known otherwise had she not told you it was from a previous BF?

Originally Posted by sedated (Post 6570564)

but anything he gives you, he "picked out for you".


I guess this sheds some light on why women love cards so much. I see it as an overpriced generic peice of cardstock; she apparently goes the next 2 days with a mental gif of me wandering the isles of hallmark trying to find the perfect card just for her.

Originally Posted by GoChiefs (Post 6570567)

Christ, be a ****ing man. Who gives a shit?

Originally Posted by Stewie (Post 6570579)

Did she make a point of it that specific jewelry was from an ex?

Originally Posted by POND_OF_RED (Post 6570580)

Is your girlfriend still wearing the pearl necklace I gave her last week? You'd think she would have washed that off by now.

Originally Posted by KC Fish (Post 6570638)

Man up and tell her you don't care where it came from, it looks beautiful on her and that's all that matters. She'll respect you for that. Any other action, and you'll come off as insecure. You can't prevent her from having memories of another guy.

It's just stuff.

Originally Posted by jidar (Post 6570733)

Maybe it's not sentimental to her at all and it's just a nice necklace. A lot of times stuff is just stuff man.

Consider this... if your previous girl bought you a 360 or PS3 wouldn't you be using it? And if so wouldn't you be pissed if your present girl had a problem with you using it?

Originally Posted by JD10367 (Post 6571747)

My wife wears an ankle bracelet her ex gave her. I assume it's 'cause she likes ankle bracelets. If it bugged me, I'd buy her one--maybe even the exact one--and say, "Here, wear this one," LOL.

Really, though. It probably doesn't mean anything. And, frankly, if it does... so what?

Why do people assume that, once a relationship ends, you have to chuck out all the good feelings you had during that relationship? If it was a loving, deep, and meaningful relationship, and meant something to her, and didn't end crappily, let her keep her little memento. Is there a rule that says, "While in a relationship, you must love the person, but as soon as it ends you must exorcise them from your memory"? That's kinda shitty. I mean, look, she married YOU, and isn't f**king HIM any more, so what more do you want? Why do people act like being in a relationship must be a mutually-exclusive deal, where every ounce of warmth and affection--past, present, and future--must be directed at the other person?

A piece of jewelry is no different from a photograph, a music album, or some other trinket. It's just a reminder of a happy time. It doesn't mean it's a reminder of a happIER time or a BETTER time.

I have a few rings I no longer wear, and six pieces of jewelry I currently wear. Most was purchased by me, a few weren't. But the only thing I wear that my wife gave me is my wedding ring. Which I think is probably the most important piece. (Although I bought that f**ker too, LOL...)

Originally Posted by Phobia (Post 6571908)

I may have left some on her body. Is that bad?

Originally Posted by JD10367 (Post 6571747)

Why do people assume that, once a relationship ends, you have to chuck out all the good feelings you had during that relationship? If it was a loving, deep, and meaningful relationship, and meant something to her, and didn't end crappily, let her keep her little memento. Is there a rule that says, "While in a relationship, you must love the person, but as soon as it ends you must exorcise them from your memory"? That's kinda shitty.