I dunno, it amazes me that you had no idea she was like this before you got married...did you guys even talk about this shit?

Sorry man but it sounds like there may be seem deeper issues about commitment.

You are essentially 1/2 of a whole unit now and if the money is being divided like roomates, then it seems to me that deep down neither of you see's your marriage as a union of 2 to make 1.

Most people I know who do the roommate routine with money don't have a stable marriage or in a few cases, have divorced.

If this is your partner for life, then I'd advise both of you to stop seeing finances as "his" and "hers" but rather "ours".

Just my .02 cents.

She does anal right?

Gotta take the good with the bad man.

I didn't know they worked for the Post Office.

We have 1 checking, 1 savings account. Wouldn't have it any other way - much easier that way.

I agree 100% it really makes no sense to me.

you guys are running your marriage like it is a corporation and you are bickering about whos department contributes more and therefore should get more. That is not a good way to have it arranged. You can't "keep score" in a marriage, it doesn't work that way. Remember for better or for worse? You two are supposed to be a family unit working as one. We put our money (I pretty much make 95% of it) into a checking account and a savings account. Invest a little, and when all the bills are paid, if there is much left, do something fun or talk about what one of us wants or needs. If you guys cant agree on this sort of stuff, there are bigger issues than who makes what

us too.

everyone we know who have seperate accounts seem to always be complaining about $/ who pays what, etc.

it might work for some people, I'm sure. Just not for us.

Our agreement is pretty much the same.

Money goes in the pot. Bills get paid.

Whatever is left over is split up by what was put in. If I put in 60%, and she 40%, that's what we each get out of the left over cash.

Not that there has been any leftover cash lately, but...

:rolleyes:

My wife and I had a joint checking account for the first 7 years of our marriage. We constantly fought about money during this time. The past year we have done a seperate account deal and things have never been better. We still pay all the bills together. I pay about 54% and she pays 46%. Those figures are based on our income. There is no right or wrong way to do it. You just have to figure out what works for you as a couple and roll with it.

This is how we do it, pretty much. I think I'm about to change it up, though, because it's become harder to budget.

I think we're going to get one joint account (and really all of our accounts are "joint" in that we can transfer money between them at will) that we use to pay all bills from (through automated bill pay). Both of our paychecks will direct deposit into this account.

After that, we'll pull out a set "allowance" into each of our individual accounts to spend as we see fit.

i'm curious. do the separate finance people do so because their spouses have different saving/spending philosophies? and if you save diligently and your spouse spends every penny, how will retirement go? will you be going on cruises by yourself? will the two of you go grocery shopping and you'll be putting steak in your cart while she's stocking up on fancy feast? I would think the odds are high that one of you will have much more money over a 50-year time period.
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If that works for you then there is nothing wrong with it. If problems arise over time with the current system you are using you can always change it up. It doesn't have to be one way or the highway as many here seem to think.

**** you pay me.

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