Originally Posted by Cunning Linguist (Post 10801868)

Concise Scenario: New gf of 2.5 months. The first couple weeks, we went at it like animals. Naturally, we had sex every time we got the chance. Every other relationship of mine has started as such and tapered down to 2-3X per week. However, we are still going steady at ~5. It's much better than too little sex, but holy hell. She initiates it more frequently than I, and I have found that she will start things if I don't. Frankly, 5X per week for 2.5 months is tiring, and she hasn't shown any signs of slowing up. She sleeps at my apartment almost every night because her roommate is really loud and bitchy, so I can't really tell her not to come over without feeling like an inconsiderate prick.

My question: how do I initiate the conversation without biting the hand that overfeeds me?

Originally Posted by CoMoChief (Post 10803032)

well you can start by stop being gay

Originally Posted by Cunning Linguist (Post 10801868)

Concise Scenario: New gf of 2.5 months. The first couple weeks, we went at it like animals. Naturally, we had sex every time we got the chance. Every other relationship of mine has started as such and tapered down to 2-3X per week. However, we are still going steady at ~5. It's much better than too little sex, but holy hell. She initiates it more frequently than I, and I have found that she will start things if I don't. Frankly, 5X per week for 2.5 months is tiring, and she hasn't shown any signs of slowing up. She sleeps at my apartment almost every night because her roommate is really loud and bitchy, so I can't really tell her not to come over without feeling like an inconsiderate prick.

My question: how do I initiate the conversation without biting the hand that overfeeds me?

Originally Posted by Katipan (Post 10802550)

Sure, I see that. But if I care enough about you to have sex with you more than 50 times then I want some sort of successful relationship.

Omg. Pity sex. Better she hears the truth now or the potential for her to believe you ****ed her without really wanting to goes up astronomically. I'm a proud woman. That would bother me.

Buy a new showerhead. Tell her you're exhausted but you don't want her to not spend the night. So you bought her a present. She'll giggle and you can shuffle your feet and stammer your truth. She'll be comforting and you'll cockily throw her over your shoulder and say "starting tomorrow night."

Originally Posted by Hog Farmer (Post 10803158)

Maybe what you need to do is let the air out. They're hard to screw when they're deflated.

Originally Posted by Cunning Linguist (Post 10803197)

Update: we're good. She said she understands where I'm coming from and she wants me to communicate more. She also said it would be easier to dial it back if it wasn't really great sex. I guess her last guy was attractive with a good personality but he was subpar sexually and they didn't do it as much.

So all in all, a solid talk.

Originally Posted by Cunning Linguist (Post 10803197)

Update: we're good. She said she understands where I'm coming from and she wants me to communicate more. She also said it would be easier to dial it back if it wasn't really great sex. I guess her last guy was attractive with a good personality but he was subpar sexually and they didn't do it as much.

So all in all, a solid talk.

Originally Posted by Katipan (Post 10803200)

Warm fuzzies you poor sexual dynamo!

Originally Posted by lewdog (Post 10801885)

Marry her.


Problem solved.