Seems like there are only 3 choices here if the kid wants to stay in the house:
- Get a job - Go to college - Join the military If not, evict him. And after the 30 day notice make sure you have the police show up to escort him out. And document everything! |
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I will say that her punching me sent far more of a message than kicking me out did. The realization that I had driven her to the point that she would do that was quite a reality check. |
No offense, but to me it sounds like you guys enabled him to the point he got like this and now you're taking the easy way out.
How does he have credit cards, a car, I'm a assuming a cell phone, etc. if he couldn't hold down a job? If you guys paid for all those, how was he to ever learn responsibility or accountability? |
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Slayer was on the streets? I liked that kid. I'm glad he's doing well. |
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That is a outlier. He could have easily found himself under a bridge with a growing meth addiction and future spiraled in homelessness. We are talking about a kid who is struggling in some way right now. My point is adding the enormous struggle of being homeless does not help like most would think it would. Tough love can be tough and have adverse outcomes. |
He will whip your ass, brah. Better have Billay do it.
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I do think he does need the military. That would be the great option. Sounds like a kid who hasn't had the best direction in life. Maybe a little forced discipline would be best for him.
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Yeah, this is a tough one. I don't even have kids so I don't recommend listening to anything I say..
But kicking him out, as many others have noted, is the nuclear option. There's a good chance he ends up in a worse position and irreparably damages his relationship with his mom (and you). I would consider literally every other course of action before going that route. |
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Kid doesn't want to work, go to school, or the military. I'm certain there's a cellphone, video game console-and there's a car, fer ****sake. How does he have a car if he didn't have a job? Probably too late to take the car. But I'd pay for nothing whatsoever for his entertainment. Tell him he gets a job by the end the month or he's cut off entirely financially. He will pay his own cell bill. If the car is in your names, he will pay for it to be insured, or you'll take it back and sell it. No more free ride. shouldn't have to do that at 19. I was in a damned hurry to get out of the house myself. |
Can I assume that tried standard helpful solutions like antifreeze and hitting him with a branch from an AIDS tree? Have you also tried to get him to in with a girl who lived close to you? If all of this has been tried, then I think we’ve exhausted all possible remedies. He must leave. There can be only one.
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He held a part time job at O'Reilly's for 4 months and applied for credit cards...he got his buckle card when he worked there for a month. |
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Thank you Peter Gibbons for bringing us back to our roots. |
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It wasn't my kid, but we were allowing a younger friend to stay with us until he got back on his feet. I became obvious he didn't have plans to do that. I drove him to the homeless shelter. Two years later he had a solid, long-term job and was engaged. Sometimes people just need a wake up call. |
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