So true. If you raised 'em right, you got no issues like this by the time they are 15 years old. A little rebellion is good too. So I don't freak when it happens. Its just their way of building confidence before they take on the responsibiliy of adulthood.

Threaten to sell her into prostitution. And if that doesn't work, lock her in her room and make her listen to "Wham" until she breaks...

Indeed.

Actually, on the swimsuit bit. First off, granted I'm not in as many locations to see such things, but I haven't seen swimsuits quite like that. Second of all, Proms are supposed to be formal affairs, I have difficulty thinking that something that revealing would be acceptable in a formal setting.

As for allowing the daughter to wear/preventing her from wearing it. First, prevention starts when they are young. My 12 year old already has a modest mindset and will make comments of dissaproval as to how other girls her age dress. Secondly, if I'm buying a dress that costs several hundred and upward, if I don't like it, I'm not paying for it.

When we arrived here girls would wear jeans and pull over shirts over their swim wear. They were ultra modest. Now??? I guess they have seen too many American movies and T.V. shows. I don't go swimming often but just walking by the pool at the Polo Club causes a red face at times. There was a multi-national swim team there once.... rather revealing... The 80 year old M.D. who invited us was eating it up.

But, mostly my info comes from watching T.V. programs and movie reviews.

I fully agree about raising them correctly. Thankfuly my daughter was raised over here while the culture was more modest. But, having had 3 kids go through the teen years ... well, rebellion does set in at times!!!

If you wait till an offending piece of clothing is in the household to express your opinion for the first time, it is too late. My 14 year old daughter would not choose to wear such a dress because we have clearly communicated our values and expectations and she resepects me and my wife enough to value our approval. Our family has talked about clothing issues (and many other far more significant issues) for years. As a result, she has a pretty good idea what is appropriate or not in the way of clothing. If a shirt is made of too thin material, she will just leave it in the store. She somtimes wears shorts and skirts that I think are too skimpy, but on the other hand we have also sent clothing that is too low cut back to the store. We try to strike a balance everyone can live with. Establish the criteria when they first become interested in clothing and be consistent.

Overall, talk to your kids early and often, let them know the expectations in your family, be flexible when possible, and show that you trust them as long as they don't betray the trust. Give them freedom as they are able to handle it. If you have been consistent in your message of love, looking out for their interests, support, family values, etc, all that parenting won't count for nothing in the face of peer pressure and their own hormones.

We still have many years of adolescence to survive, and I'm sure we will hit our share of rough patches in the years to come. Come what may, I think our family will deal with these challenges better having spent so much time and effort in building our family relationships consistently during her early years.

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I'm assuming you meant to say haven't been consistent.

I have 5 sons.

But, I wouldn't let their wives wear that.

Actually, I have no say in the matter.

I probably shouldn't have even posted on this thread.

I wish mine did.

No and I doubt that any school district would allow it unless it was covered with a couple layers of sweatshirts and an unbreakable lock... :shake:

If your daughter wants to wear that dress, you got bigger problems than the prom.

you could loan her a burka...

I doubt the schools are all that concerned, after all, they refuse to teach abstinence-based methods but make condoms readily available.

:rolleyes:

Give me a fuggin break. This dress would not pass 99% of the dress codes in schools who have them and implement them...and most of those schools are not routinely handing out condoms to anyone. :rolleyes: