No girl is peed on enough that there isn't some hunchbacked wildebeest dying to hump her.

Then at that point it's misplaced, your anger should be at her, not some guy you don't know.

That was my entire point.

It's not black and white, though. You don't have to roll over like a whipped dog.

If the guy actually had the gumption to come and tell you that, it would be pretty surprising.

Of course, you'd be irate. My first reaction would be to toss out a suitcase and tell her she's got 15 minutes to pack.

My second reaction would be to tell the guy you never want to see or hear from him again.

Why let the woman manipulate you even more by going to blows with some dude over it? She already cuckolded you. **** her (figuratively).

I think the most devastating thing to do in that situation would be to tell them both, "Well, your desired partner is someone who can't keep their wedding vows. What a winner you are."

I think that would sting longer than any shit kicking.

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If it's your kid, and she has it, at least take care of it.

The guy knew she was living with an "ex". He's at fault as well as her. The anger's not misplaced, and there's usually plenty of it to go around.

That's just one situation but say he really believed it was her ex, he doesn't believe he's doing anything wrong.

Of course. Problem is finding out when, if, and where she has it.

only an idiot wouldn't be able to figure out he's sleeping with someone who is married..unless it was one time..the truth is eventually going to come out.

besides, just because the woman has no integrity, doesn't give the guy a free pass...if you'd sleep with a friends girlfriend, you aren't a friend.

And yes I did believe her, until her shady actions really got me to thinking about it. Then when I asked her man if they were together, he said yes, I then told him what had been going on. Not before.

Anger isn't always the "right" reaction, but based on my previous experience, and those I've watched and helped through this situation this year....its the first one.

Did I not cover the difference between it being a friend of yours and just some random guy earlier in the thread?

Well, if you change the terms of the hypothetical, you can get all kinds of different answers. The partner is always going to be at fault, and the 'other person' is at fault if they knew or should have known.

Either way, going to the house after you've been sleeping with a woman, and telling the 'ex' about it in person is just asking for the guy to go UFC or pistol range on your stupid ass.

Yea Dude that probably wasn't the best thing to do, you're lucky the guy didn't lose his mind on you alot of people lack rational thought.

Well, see at that point I didnt give a shit about my own life, or what happened. You know how things are after a break up. Especially when you have just found out you have been cheated on for 3 years.