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California Teacher, 41 resigns after leaving wife, kids for student, 18 (https://chiefsplanet.com/BB/showthread.php?t=256656)

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Originally Posted by Rain Man (Post 8411022)

I definitely agree in theory that you have to keep a distance, but I've always wondered about teachers' situations and how difficult it is over the course of a career. More so at the college level, but I guess at the upper high school level as well.

You're a teacher who teaches 3 courses, and there are 10 females in each course. You get to know them over the course of 16 weeks or so. Now multiply this by 3 semesters a year over the course of a 30-year teaching career.

You've now gotten the opportunity to meet and know almost 3,000 young women. If you ascribe to the theory that there's not just one woman in the world for every man and that (for example) 1 percent of women are good marriage material for you, the odds are pretty good that you'll see 30 women over the course of that career that you fall in love with during those 16 weeks. It doesn't seem infeasible that sparks could ignite.

The numbers are different for high school, but the theory's the same. I wonder how many high school teachers and college professors, if being completely honest, would tell you that they've had a crush on X number of students in their career, even if the majority never act on it.

In my grad school, two professors ended up marrying students in my class, plus or minus a year. It was minorly scandalous, particularly since one of them had been married, but life went on for them.

cdcox, what say you?

Still no FaceBook page? Do I have to go to 4Chan?

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Originally Posted by Rain Man (Post 8411022)

cdcox, what say you?

In terms of attraction, college professors are people, just like everyone else.

Personally, I'm not interested in a relationship or having sex with anyone other than my wife. If you're not looking, the screwy human biology stuff is manageable.

In general, faculty members tend to be logical thinkers that can consider options very carefully. In most cases, faculty members have a spouse, children, a house, a very secure and decent paying job, and a retirement plan. An affair with a student would put all of that at risk.

I know of a few cases of faculty members that have developed medium or long term relationships with students, but it's relatively rare. The divorce rate among my colleagues is far lower than the general population, and I can't think of a single case that I am familiar with where it was due to an affair with a student. My detection abilities aren't sensitive enough to pick up on one night stands, but I guess they happen. We're pretty boring, actually.

California Teacher, 41 resigns after leaving wife, kids for student, 18

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OH - MY - GOD!!!! This is exactly why i do home schooling. This is SICK!

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Originally Posted by cdcox (Post 8411647)

This, this, and this. I'm not a 16-year old dumbass controlled by my dick and hormones any longer. It's fairly easy to just not let your mind go there and not allow yourself to get into any situations like this. I will say that, as a result of this sort of thing and the fact that I work with a lot of teenage girls, I'm probably move open and closer with my male students than my female (not that there aren't plenty of instances of same-sex scandal as well). But I'm just more comfortable being "friendly" with my male students than female, preferring to keep my female students at a greater distance. I feel sort of bad about that and wonder if they're missing out on something as a result, but it's just not worth it to me.

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Originally Posted by listopencil (Post 8410324)

He'll die of a heart attack banging a 28 year old woman when he's 51.

That sure beats getting eaten by a grizzly or struck by lightning!

Yeah this will work out. By the time she is completely bored and wanting to go out and live her life he will be wanting to grab a movie from redbox and drink an ensure.

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Originally Posted by Simpler Red (Post 8411651)

Who ARE you?

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Originally Posted by Simpler Red (Post 8411651)

This is exactly why i do home schooling.

Why? So you can sleep with your own kid? Now THAT'S sick.

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Originally Posted by loochy (Post 8415071)

Why? So you can sleep with your own kid? Now THAT'S sick.

Why cross the street when you can go down the hallway?

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Originally Posted by listopencil (Post 8415116)

Why cross the street when you can go down the hallway?

Because the hallway stinks from when I took a dump earlier.

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Originally Posted by Simpler Red (Post 8411651)

This is not a reason to home school. If your local schools suck, you cant move to a better school district, and you've got a really good local home school network with other people who are knowledgeable about teaching subjects that you aren't, and you have access to after-school activities and sports, etc so the kids emotional growth isn't stunted, then that might be a good reason.

This incident is so incredibly rare, as in it happened in Modesto, CA and that becomes a big national story type of exceedingly rare, that you'd be better off being worried every day that your kids might get struck by lightning or eaten by sharks.

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Originally Posted by Simpler Red (Post 8411651)

Um, ok.
If you haven't raised your child correctly by this point it's over anyway.