What Serious Advice would you offer this guy?
 

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I appreciate your help! Leo Never", "metaData": { "domain_name": "Digg", "domain_url": "http://www.digg.com/" } } }; </script> <style type="text/css"><!-- DIV {margin:0px;}--></style><link rel="stylesheet" href="http://us.js2.yimg.com/us.js.yimg.com/lib/lw/contextual_shortcuts_3.0.4.css" type="text/css" media="all">I just got this comment from a post on controlling personality on my blog and I wanted to share it with you guys, and I'm going to message the guy offline. He seems pretty distressed.

http://cultivategreatness.com/2006/1...out-of-control

What advice would you have for this guy?

"I have been Marrried for 13 years and my Wife i a control freak, she tells me what i can and cant do and if i do the opposite she makes me fell inferior which pisses me off and we end up in a dispute we have 12 grand in the bank i take out 20 dollars and i get my ass chewed but she can spend what ever she wants without any questions, i sit in a chair tha squeaks she throughs a fit, I talk I get told to shut up, I can not take ita anymore i am a step father to two children and cant stand to leave her because of them but i feel like i am in a prison what can I do to help her change oh by the way she does nothing wrong ever and she is alays right about everything so you cant tell her she is in the wrong Help!!!!!!!!!!"


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any insight?

He's a man of many weaknesses too afraid to pull himself up by his own bootstraps and take command of his own life. The children thing is an excuse the battered use because they're too aftraid what might lurk outside the controlling structure MANX has forced them under for years.

They've been under a dominant person for so long it makes them uncomfortable to have to be the dominant person. Or perhaps they just don't like it.

In short: Quit being a pu$$y. Let that other person know what you want and if they don't comply then give them the old fashioned thermo-nuke-inna-boot right up under yestarday's lunch...

Start drinking heavily.

But man up!!! It's pathetic! And not even in a sexist "The man should make the decisions." kind of way.

This is about respect. You don't treat anyone like that. Especially your spouse.

Unless she's paying your bills.....


Then shut up and rub her feet.

Don't you dare ruin the setup I've got going on here.

When you think the last time was he got a blowjob?

I would unload a nine...

RIGHT IN HER ****ING FACE

I'm sure he has no idea of what you're talking about.

The same advice if the genders were reversed.. Get the hell out of the relationship..

That couple needs counseling, and it sounds like he needs to be a man. That doesn't mean abuse her or anything, but he's not a kid, he needs to let his wife know that they are equals. Then he needs to get both of them help, that's a very destructive relationship.

I would buy myself a new boat with her savings account. File for divorce, and then never have to care for another man's kids again. Then I'd drink a bunch of rum and go to Vegas.

We should talk more...

Shove my dick in her mouth then blow it in her face, man up and pimp slap the bitch. He probably makes the money, show her who runs the show.

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anti-freeze

Personally, Id make her sit on the toilet for a couple of years.

Does she have a good life insurance policy payout. If so I would off her.