Engaged?
 

To all the married people on here. How long were you with your partner before you got engaged? Did you live with your partner before you got married? Just curious as to how long people waited.

Whoa! Something you want to tell us? Are you cheating on me?

Run, and don't look back. Run fast, run far, run silent, run deep. Run like the wind my friend.

lol...not yet....coming up though, just don't know when I'm going to ask her.

My parents dated 4 months before getting married. The were married for 20 years before they got divorced.

As for me, I'd have to live with someone first.

How long have you been dating?

My brother and his wife dated for four months also. They lived together before.

I don't live with her right now...actually two hours away. We are renting a house in May with her brother and her best friend. I live with her on the weekends right now.

Four months...

The missus and I dated for 9 months before being engaged, 9 months to the wedding... and oddly enough, we have been married for 9 months.

I basically moved in about 3 months before the wedding.

I remember when I was young and wildly in love. Those were the days when I didn't need jimmy beam to get through the day working at the gas station on 87th and blue ridge

Four months isn't very long when you're thinking about forever. Only you can know when the time is right for you though.

How are you planning on asking her?

Please. You're still young.

3 knee surgery's and years of whiskey abuse. The ole demon doesn't get around too well these days.

I hope you ask her to marry you on the big screen at the K. Do it while berrora is up so we don't have to watch him strikeout

9 years...

Damn, you're slow.

Almost 20 months. Lived together for 1 1/2 years before we got married.

I realized there was no other woman for me when no other woman would put up with my bull$3it.

And the fact that it takes sooOOOOOOOOooooo long to domesticate them...

And, like boars, they will go feral within two weeks of being released back into the wild.

:shake:

ROFL ROFL ROFL

My wife and I dated for about 2 1/2 years before we moved in together. We lived together for 2 years before getting married. We've been married for 11 years now and I couldn't be happier.

you forgot the most important thing

after you can't run any more then hide

Actually the divorce rate is higher for couples who cohabitate before getting married.

We dated for 3 months before moving in together. Got married 6 months later. Was married for 24 years.

Just over one year

2 years.

Myself and "ole-growler" have been living in sin for 27 years..guess I should marry her someday....

I dated her for a month before she moved in, I married her five months later, and divorced her five years later. I now live with my girlfriend and have for 2 1/2 years. I am happier now but if my girlfriend reads this thread, she will once again claim that I am dragging my feet.

I've read that also.

I suspect that it has something to do with ingrained morality--those who believe it is wrong to "live in sin" are also likely to believe that divorce is wrong.

I'd be curious to see numbers that show % happy with their marriage within both groups. I'd be somewhat surprised if those numbers weren't similar.

FWIW, I shacked up for five years before proposing. It'll be 7 years of marriage this summer. And I don't feel I waited too long to propose. We were both in grad school and plenty keeping us busy.

Nothing wrong with that.

I married my wife almost 5 years after I met her. We lived together nearly the entire time so marriage didn't change much.

My wife and I had known eachother for one day shy of a year on our wedding. We lived together for about a month before our engagement, then were engaged for about 5 months.

Dunit.... Don't do it.

Can't figure out how to vote. Engaged 9 months and never lived together before marriage. Married 20 years and running.

I met her in February, and we knew that our time together was limited. She was moving in August, so our romance was merely meant to be a spring fling. But love blossomed in those rainy days of April, and our summer was spent frolicking in fields of daisies, running towards each other in slow motion. As the time came for her to leave, our eyes locked, and we knew we would be together forever unless for some reason Bruce Springsteen also fell in love with her, in which case she would leave me in a heartbeat, but at least was honest about it.

We got engaged in late summer, probably five months after we ment, and she left me temporarily, going to her new city while I finished up business in the old city. The plan was for me to arrive a year later, sweep her off her feet like Richard Gere and that woman in that movie where he's wearing the white navy uniform, and get married then. However, I got laid off and I had nowhere else to go, nowhere else to go, so I moved there early and we lived together for about four months while we made the wedding arrangements, which were actually pretty easy since we had a three-person wedding.

And the rest is history.

I was with my wife for 18 months before we got engaged, and we lived together for 2 years before we were actually married.

I have the same arrangement with my girlfriend. Except that it's with Dale Earnhart Jr. :deevee:

Every person is different.

I personally, don't think you really know someone for at least a year.

I think I dated brideowanian for 3+ years before I hitched. We lived together for about a year, which was pretty unpopular with the families.

Being married isn't always easy, even with someone you know and get along with well.

Life isn't a race, I'd never advise someone to marry quickly, but thats just me.


Have you played the field all you need to? sewn enough wild oats? Are you done going out and doing what you want all the time? Are you ready to start going to bed at reasonable times, pay property taxes and talk about hedges and landscaping with your neighbors? Are you ready for half of the marital relations you're having now? Are you ready for her opinion on Everything, including how you dress? Are you fully prepared to be WRONG all of the time?

If so, jump right in III.

There's no gas station on 87 & Blue Ridge.

Play the field until you are 30. by that time you should have been with about 40 or 50...and thats shooting low. on the high side, over 200


Always lie about how many you been with, fake virginity if possible...that will work in every new town that doesnt know you...GUARANTEED

IIRC, you're in the middle of your education. If so, finish school first. If you still feel the same way about her, you can ask her then.

I didn't start dating my wife until after I graduated and had a decent job. We dated for a little over 1 year before getting engaged. She moved in with me and I think it was a little before we got engaged, but I'm not sure of the timing on that point. We got married after about 1 year of engagement.

Later, I went back to school for a graduate degree and I can tell you that it was a lot harder to be a student after getting married than it was when I was single.

Dated for 6 months, moved in together and if the math is correct she got knocked up that first weekend. Married 3 months later and have been for almost 13 years.

If you "think" you're ready for marriage..... add 5 years.... If you're absolutely positive.... add 2 years...

Dear Alvis I wish someone had told me.....

I didn't know same sex marriages were allowed in Kansas or Oklahoma

If they were, how long before you would decide to get hitched?

You caught me, that is all me and Gary are waiting for.....

Proposed on the 4th anniversary of our 1st date.

Whew! I still have another year to think about it. :hmmm:

My wife and I dated for a short time when she was a freshman and I was a sophomore in HS. She dumped me. Couple years later she came crawling back. I reluctantly took her back.



j/k
We got back together her junior year and dated for another 2.5-3 years before I proposed. We've been happily married for 14.5 years now.

That would explain the low pay.

Unless he was out there with a container of gas, some glass plus, a rag and a couple quarts of oil

Oh yeah, I forgot. She moved in toward the end of her senior year of HS. So, we lived together for several months (somewhere between 7-10 months, I think) before I proposed. I would recommend getting to know the person as well as you can before getting engaged. I've seen too many people get hitched when they really didn't know the person very well and then regret it later on. Divorce is an ugly, ugly thing.

I've been married 3 weeks.
We lived together, basically, for 3 years.

I just read that divorce rates are the same for people who never lived together before marriage and for people who lived together for over 8 years before getting married.

Once you you shack up, you should start using that logic to delay. I could have held out for another three years . . .

Wait at least 2 years before considering marriage. It takes that long before you see the fangs...

Dave

Marriage is over-rated

good luck again

you should know her for atleast a year. if you can, live with her awhile. finish school if possible so you can help support her and yourself. think with your heart,pocketbook and the "right" head. but what do i know,son.

dated for a year.. married for 14.

Let's see. We dated for about 2 years - had a child along the way. Got married in 2000. Have been married ever since. At least until I find a way out - death, maybe?

Marriage is good, but tough. It's worth it.

We met August '96, moved in together October of '96, married January '97 and she was pregnant by July of '97. I literally knew on our 1st date that I wanted to marry her.

The wife and I had been living together for 2 years and dating exclusively for 3 when she started prodding me about marriage. One day I told her I would give it serious thought, but that I didn't need any sort of pressure from nagging and asked her to drop it for 1 full year. Eight months later I hadn't heard a peep, hint, etc from her on the subject and I proposed.

P.S. It'll be 11 years this August.

Marriage is alot easier when you are with right person. The wrong person will only make it miserable. Know in the deapest part of your soul that she is the right one and go for it, don't look back, don't remember how good it was when you were unmarried and build the best foundation that you can for an everlasting life together.

Betty Crocker is adding this recipee in the "impending disaster" dessert section.

This sounds to me like a terrible Idea. If you're going to cohabitate....live with her.

I tried to not.....but I have to.

You don't have to buy a ring every time you get your stinger wet, III.

Since words won't convey the message, I'll use a pic I saw once to explain your impending situation.

My secret to knowing if the marriage will work: check out her friends closely. Her friends will show you what her real values are. If you like the friends, then you'll probably be in good shape for the long term. If you can't stand the friends, you're doomed.

We live two hours apart right now...kinda hard to live with her when I'm still goin to school in a different county. When the semester is over I'm moving in with her.

What if her friends don't put out?

Dated for 5 years. No cohabitating.

Married for over 30 years.

Looking for a long awaited honeymoon in Hawaii.

I think you've misinterpreted my contribution young trooper.

1. Moving in with a girl, whom you've dated 4 months? add gas
2. Moving in with Girl, her brother and another menstruator American? Lit Match.
3. You? Soon to be Eric Warfield covering Louis Lipps.



I've done the long distance thing...its tough.

Be sure to let us know the results.

Oh...my bad. We thought about getting a place for ourselves but decided it'd be cheaper on us to have them live with us too. They're both pretty fun and I like both of them. So..we'll see what happens.

I would recommend getting your own place. It's hard enough to try to get adjusted to each other, let alone another couple!

if you serious about marriage go see a marriage counselor BEFORE you get married..

not saying shit is wrong but it wont hurt... it will give you a solid look at your relationship...

idk if your religious but if some 3rd party counselor isnt in your budget or likes you could check with your local pastor / priest / rabbi.

i do know that the Catholic church does require marriage classes and counseling before they do any marriage.

I went to an independent baptist church. Our pastor wouldn't marry people if he couldn't counsel them first. I've never been to one, but I could definitely see where they would be good. Give you some things to think about that you might not have thought about before (or chose not to think about because you're so in love).

My opinion.... for the two cents it's worth, you ought to live on your own for awhile.... not in a dorm or in your parents house. Dorms are close, but you don't have to worry about cooking or paying bills. Living with her for at least 6 mo will let the politeness of the "honeymoon" stage of the relationship die and you will start being totally yourself. Not getting up and leaving the room to fart.... and picking up when you don't do it at home.
Can you describe her without including the size of her breast? Picture her having a terrible accident and disfiguring Or her as fat as a Gieswien..... attitude or like your dad's girlfriend.... would you still want to marry her???


Besides.... since you've met her in October..... my bet has been that you'll be asking her on 2-14-2007

You know...not 100% sure...but aren't you my step mom? I pick up around her place all the time. She cooks and I do the dishes for her...so yeah I'm not as lazy as I use to be. I don't plan on asking her on Valentines Day...won't be with her then...the weekend before or after.

We thought about getting our own place but it'd be cheaper for us to live with our friends. My buddy and his girlfriend got a house and lived with three other people and they are working out great. So hopefully, it all works out for me.

Whats going to happen when you get into a brawl with her PMSing best friend? What happens when that girl is pissed at you and is bitching to your girlfriend?

What if you don't get along well with her brother as a roomate? I've had alot of friends that I couldn't live with, and some good friends I have lived with, that didn't really work out.

This is an entirely different animal.

Do NOT get engaged until you've had a major fight. DO NOT get engaged until you've been around her when she's been sick, or when one of you has been inconvenienced by a family tragedy or illness.

If you started dating in October...you barely know this girl.

C'mon in. The water's fine.