Age when you figured out you were becoming your father/mother
 

... and when you figured it out, how'd you deal with it? I've caught myself acting / sounding like, and even probably thinking, just like my dad and I'm not exactly thrilled with the idea for some reasons. Not that he's a bad guy or anything, but there are definitely attributes that I'd rather not emulate and I'm getting a little freaked out.

DISCUS.

I couldn't hope for much more. I'm one of those people who really admire both of my parents and (although well after my youth) appreciate the way they raised me.

In response to your question, though, I find myself thinking very similarly on certain issues, but probably won't get that "holy cow, I'm my mother/father" epiphany until I have kids

Many close calls, but no cigar...

Not trying, or paying for it...

I noticed it most when my kids started becoming more indepedent.

I hope it never happens. Sometimes I can't help but think that I would have rather been an orphan.

I have some personality traits from both of my parents. That being said, I'm fairly different than both of them. By mom is really laid back but has bad mood swings. My dad is a nice guy but really high strung, always on the go etc. He's 62 and still jogs 3-5 miles a day and hits weights etc.
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I am almost a dead ringer for my father.
He died when I was young and it is difficult to sometimes to see the pain in my Mothers eyes. She will sometimes call me by his name because we also sound alike and have the same mannerisms. He was an alcoholic, He always drank but for a 2 year period it got out of control. When he was given a choice of the Booze or the Family he went to a 30 day in patient rehab. He died 6 months later of cancer.

My wife say's that I also have a lot of my mothers personality and traits.

I have the utmost respect and love for my parents. My Mother however is a rock. She bows to no one.

Ang

everyone calls me my Dad's shadow. I took a lot from him and conformed it to my own ways.

Never.I'm not like either one of my parents.I loved my parents but they were both alcoholics but they never paid me much attention,and mostly I felt unwanted.They were always busy drinking,fighting,or never home so I kinda grew up on my own.My main goal in life is to make my boys better men than I have become and to never subject them to the bringing up I lived.I could never imagine treating my boys anything like my mother/father did me.

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I do and say stuff just like my mom does, which drives me crazy. I have a lot of my dads personality traits. I would say I really started noticing both in my mid twenties.
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I dunno.. You don't seem much like milkman
:D

One day several years ago I was walking around and my back was stiff, and I realized that I was walking exactly like my dad walked when he was about my age. Kind of freaked me out. I always thought it was just his physiology or something - didn't realize it was a stiff back.

I definitely have some aspects of both, but I am very different from them. I went Gaz option since either I am not too much like them, or I haven't realized it yet.

Right after I became a parent.

that scares the crap outta me. I know how my parents were and what I hope to take away from my experience with them is how not to be with my kids.

In our efforts to produce one, we have had the normal conversations... how would you handle this, what would you do if that and I find that I am having to force myself to not default to the way I was brought up.

This will be a challenge... but one I will get past.

The other thing bothering me is the fact that such things I don't like about who I'm starting to pattern myself after is that I'm fighting off decades of inherited behavior. Dad acts the way he does because his dad did. I'd imagine granddad acted the way he did because of how his dad acted. Pedigrees are hard to shake.

And my hat's off to Bane for how he treats his kids better than his parents treated him. It's far too easy for people to do the same thing their parents did just out of spite or the reasoning that if it happened to them, it happens to their kids too.

We have too health problems to go into but I act more and more like my mom and her side of family...